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Janel Beatty’s GPS Guide On Overcoming Obstacles

Feeling stressed? You’re not alone. We all have a center of wisdom and balance within us, but sometimes life takes over and we can feel all over the place! We all need a course-correcting tool — A “GPS for the Soul” — to help us find our way back to center. The guide below will give you the tools you need to reach that calmer state of mind.

You can push through any problem with the right encouragement. In the GPS Guide below, reader Janel Beatty shares some motivating mantras to help inspire you. Read them when you’ve hit a roadblock.

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Alexander Hamilton: Father of American Banking and American Burnout

On Tuesday, the musical Hamilton was nominated for a record 16 Tony awards. And three weeks ago, its creator and star, Lin-Manuel Miranda, won the Pulitzer Prize. And it’s all, of course, richly deserved — Hamilton is everything the critics say it is: Ben Brantley of the New York Times, for instance, suggested people “mortgage their houses and lease their children to acquire tickets.” Ideally though, they should get tickets for their children too as the show has also been credited with getting young people interested in American history. But one angle of the saga of Hamilton, both on-stage and off, that has not been commented on is how it shows the value of time off.

In fact, in March, before the most recent round of awards and accolades began, Miranda announced he was going to take some time for himself. “I’m going on vacation next week to my undisclosed location under the sea where I recharge,” he said in a YouTube video. The video is part of a series Miranda does called “Ham4Ham,” in which he performs and interacts with people waiting to get tickets to the show — it’s not enough that he entertains them for 2 hours and 45 minutes once they do get tickets! His vacation was certainly well-deserved. Since he opened the show Off Broadway at the Public Theater in February of last year, Hamilton has been performed over 400 times.

As the show’s description on Playbill puts it: “From bastard orphan to Washington’s right hand man, rebel to war hero, loving husband caught in the country’s first sex scandal to Treasury head who made an untrusting world believe in the American economy, Hamilton is an exploration of a political mastermind.”

But, in addition to all that, one element of the show I found particularly interesting given my exploration of all things sleep is how it depicts a crucial and apparently timeless facet of our political culture. Hamilton wasn’t just the subject of our country’s first sex scandal — he was perhaps also our first fully documented case — and the founding father — of political burnout.

Ron Chernow, the author of Alexander Hamilton, the biography on which the musical is based, depicts a man who never slowed down. “This intensely driven man,” Chernow writes, “always compensating for his deprived early years, had a mind that throbbed incessantly with new ideas. When it came to issues confronting America, he committed all the resources of his mind.” But how much better would his adopted country have been if he had given some time to his mind and his body to refuel before he hit a wall of burnout?

Miranda himself proved the value of taking time off since it was while taking a breather from his previous hit show that he happened to read the Chernow biography that Hamilton is based on. “I don’t think it’s a coincidence that it was my first vacation from ‘In the Heights’ where I read this book,” he said on Charlie Rose in March. “It was literally the first time I had any time off from the show.”

Put another way, the inspiration for a musical about a man unable to give himself some time to recharge came to Miranda when he chose to give himself some time to recharge. And one of the biggest takeaways from the musical, for me, is this question: If the hard-driving Alexander Hamilton had given himself that time, how much better — and longer — would he have been able to serve the adopted country he loved so much?

The perpetual motion started early on, with Hamilton asking to be admitted to Princeton on an accelerated track. He was turned down, Chernow writes, likely because Princeton had allowed James Madison to finish on an accelerated schedule, during which he “worked himself into a state of nervous exhaustion.” When Madison finished his degree, according to Chernow, “he was still so debilitated from his intense studies that he feared for his health.”

So Hamilton wound up at King’s College (later renamed Columbia), where he rose at 6 a.m. every day and studied day and night. And this compulsion never let up. In the Revolutionary War, Hamilton rode on horseback “at a furious pace” along the Hudson delivering important messages from George Washington. Riding as many as 60 miles a day for five days straight, the trips took their toll on Hamilton. As he wrote to Washington in 1777, to explain a delay in his travels, “I have been detained here these two days by a fever and violent rheumatic pains throughout my body.” The frenzied pace continued after the war as Chernow writes, “At moments of supreme stress, Hamilton could screw himself up to an emotional pitch that was nearly feverish in intensity.”

At one point, Chernow tells how the chronically overstretched founder of our country’s first bank had to write to the Bank of the United States to admit “he did not know his account balance because he had lost his bank book.”

This theme of constant, ceaseless work — along with the inevitable consequences — comes through resoundingly in the musical as well. Again and again, Miranda presents a Hamilton who feels the pressure of all the work ahead of him. “And there’s a million things I haven’t done,” he sings, “but just you wait, just you wait.”

In the second act, as Hamilton is trying to get the Report on the Public Credit, his financial plan to establish government credit by full payment of government debt, through Congress, his wife Eliza and her sister Angelica urge him, in the song “Take a Break,” to get some rest. “Run away with us for the summer,” Eliza begs. “Let’s go upstate.” To which Hamilton replies: “I have to get my plan through Congress. I can’t stop until I get this plan through Congress.” The women tell him that “John Adams spends the summer with his family.” But Adams, Hamilton throws back, “doesn’t have a real job anyway.”

The sisters, in fact, are a counterpoint to Hamilton’s idea of a non-stop working existence. “Look around, look around at how lucky we are to be alive right now!” sings Eliza in “The Schuyler Sisters.” And in “That Would Be Enough,” she urges him to:

“Look at where you are
Look at where you started
The fact that you’re alive is a miracle
Just stay alive, that would be enough.”

There’s even a song entirely devoted to the theme of Hamilton working non-stop, called, appropriately, “Non-Stop.” “Why do you write like you’re running out of time? Write day and night like you’re running out of time?” asks Aaron Burr. To which the ensemble answers: “Every day you fight like you’re running out of time, like you’re running out of time. Are you running out of time?”

And, in a sense, he was. The sex scandal that would derail his career, and indirectly affect the decisions that led to his own premature death, was looming. Sleep deprivation had left Hamilton vulnerable to the plot, hatched by Maria Reynolds and her husband James, for Maria to seduce Hamilton and then blackmail him. In “Say No To This,” Miranda’s Hamilton is aware of this:

“I hadn’t slept in a week
I was weak, I was awake
You never seen a bastard orphan
More in need of a break
Longing for Angelica
Missing my wife
That’s when Miss Maria Reynolds walked into my life.”

And so begins an affair, and America’s first sex scandal — fueled by America’s first-recorded, and now sung — case of serious political burnout. (As Bill Clinton himself acknowledged: “Every important mistake I’ve made in my life, I’ve made because I was too tired.”)

“Like many people driven by their careers, he did not allow himself sufficient time for escape and relaxation,” Chernow writes, describing Hamilton as “a volatile personality encased inside a regimented existence.” Once the Reynolds affair was made public, Hamilton’s political opponents used it against him, making sure Hamilton was “distracted by the Reynolds probe.” “This sword of Damocles,” Chernow writes, “perpetually dangling above his head, may provide one explanation of why he never made a serious bid to succeed Washington as president.”

And the episode also laid the groundwork for his feud with Burr. “For fifteen years, Hamilton had tried to run down the sources of the lies told about him,” Chernow writes. “The effort had left him weary and dispirited, but he still could not shed the fantasy that, if only he went after slander with sufficient persistence, he could vanquish his detractors once and for all.” And it was this mood of lashing out, a habit he honed during the Reynolds scandal, that led to his duel with Burr.

There’s certainly no doubt that burnout among our political leaders has proved as enduring as Hamilton’s bank and other parts of his legacy. In fact, most of them actually brag about it. Our political campaigns constantly feature candidates presenting themselves as ceaselessly working – as if that’s a good thing. Ted Cruz used his sleep deprivation as a fundraising tool two weeks before he suspended his campaign (was his decision to nominate Carly Fiorina made in the brain fog of exhaustion?) In fact, we now know from mountains of recent science that sleep deprivation dulls our judgment, our decision-making, our creativity, our productivity — in short, pretty much every quality you want in a political leader.

And that’s no surprise: one recent scientific study showed that even moderate sleep deprivation can leave you with levels of cognitive impairment roughly equivalent to being legally drunk. And yet no political campaigns would feature a candidate saying, “vote for me, because I structure my life so that I make all my decisions while effectively drunk.” (Actually, that might explain a lot about this year’s race, but that’s a different post.) “No politician would smoke in front of a camera,” Dr. Till Roenneberg, a prominent sleep scientist in Germany, told me, “but all politicians clearly declare — and show it in their faces — how little they have slept. We know how important sleep is, but they convey to the world that sleep deprivation is good.” In fact, a recent McKinsey study shows how degraded our prefrontal cortex, which directs executive functioning, becomes when we’re sleep deprived.

And we actually do have evidence of how productive it is when a politician does recognize the creative powers of recharging. In 1940, President Franklin D. Roosevelt was confronted with a problem every bit as pressing as Hamilton’s financial plan — how to give aid to Britain in the war without formally entering it. But, unlike Hamilton, Roosevelt did decide to go away. To think through the problem, he announced he was going to take ten-days to sail around the Caribbean on a navy ship.

And like Eliza, Eleanor was all for it. “I think of you sleeping and eating and I hope getting rest from the world,” she wrote him. Roosevelt’s aide Harry Hopkins also saw the importance of what Roosevelt was doing. “I began to get the idea that he was refueling,” Hopkins later said, “the way he so often does when he seems to be resting and carefree.”

The result of that refueling was Roosevelt’s idea for the $ 50 billion Lend-Lease program, in which the U.S. would lend arms and supplies to Britain and be paid back in kind after the war. Would he have come up with the plan by continuing to work around the clock “as though he was running out of time?” Those around him certainly attributed the masterful plan to Roosevelt’s masterful use of his creative resources. “One can only say that FDR, a creative artist in politics, had put in his time on this cruise evolving the pattern of a masterpiece,” Roosevelt’s speechwriter Robert Sherwood later wrote.

After Hillary Clinton stepped down as secretary of state in 2012 — having logged nearly 1 million miles flying to 112 different countries — she told the New York Times‘ Gail Collins. “I would like to see whether I can get untired.” What a great word — “untired.” Is she making room in the current campaign to regularly get herself untired?

In a Daily Show appearance in 2007, her husband talked about the wider consequences of political burnout! “I do believe sleep deprivation has a lot to do with some of the edginess of Washington today,” he said. “You have no idea how many Republican and Democratic members of the House and Senate are chronically sleep-deprived.”

And if you thought politics was edgy in 2007, take a look at the headlines today as our politicians continue to push away a free and available resource — sleep and renewal — that can help them come up with more creative solutions to our many challenges.

Alexander Hamilton was only 49 years old when he died, in the infamous duel with Aaron Burr. What connection did his burnout have with his untimely death? When you find yourself walking to a duel at dawn — after you had lost your son in a duel three years earlier — it’s fair to ask if you’re mustering all the wisdom you’re capable of.

Like other burnout aficionados, Hamilton was selling himself short. Contrary to all our collective delusions, he was successful not because of his overwork and burnout, but in spite of them. And perhaps if he’d listened to Eliza’s advice to “take a break,” he’d have had more time to build the nation he was so devoted to.

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Warning: This Mother’s Day Surprise Will Have You Sobbing

We all know that grandmas are proud people, and mostly what they are proud of are their sons and daughters and grandkids — even if they don’t get to see them as often as they would like.

Enbridge Gas Company in Canada arranged a Mother’s Day surprise for a group of grandmas who live in an assisted care facility in Moncton, Canada. The women were told they were being videoed for a documentary about motherhood. We don’t want to spoil it for you, but just have a box of tissues handy before you hit play. 

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Rachel Skoza’s GPS Guide On Taking Life As It Comes

Feeling stressed? You’re not alone. We all have a center of wisdom and balance within us, but sometimes life takes over and we can feel all over the place! We all need a course-correcting tool — A “GPS for the Soul” — to help us find our way back to center. The guide below will give you the tools you need to reach that calmer state of mind.

Sometimes it’s just better to go with the flow. In the GPS Guide below, reader Rachel Skoza offers some mantras to help you take life as it comes. Read them and find peace in the fact that you can’t control everything — and that’s more than okay.

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Loving Your Life of Service

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“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

Many people are searching to “find themselves,” feeling a bit lost and unhappy. If Gandhi is right in the above quote, we’d probably find ourselves faster and be happier if we looked for how to serve others. Finding oneself by serving others may seem paradoxical. The word “service” has gone out of style. Today it often conjures up images of military service, or customer service. Its broader meaning refers to kindness, acknowledgement, making a difference. A “life of service” might include any or all of these:

  • Caring for a loved one
  • Praying for someone who’s suffering
  • Smiling at the grocery store clerk
  • Mowing someone’s lawn
  • Not giving advice, unless asked
  • Working whole-heartedly for a cause you believe in
  • Listening deeply to another person

Maybe the best way to think about living a life of service is to share peoples’ thoughts and experiences.

“I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.”

― Albert Schweitzer

The Christmas when my grandson Mitch was 10 years old, he and his family adopted a family who was having financial struggles. They learned the ages of all the children and shopped for presents that would be appreciated. When I asked Mitch his favorite thing about that Christmas he answered immediately, “Giving Joey a bike and helping him learn to ride it.”

“Life is for service.”

― Fred Rogers

Judge Lou Olivera of the Cumberland NC Veteran’s Court sentenced Joseph Serna, a veteran who did three tours in Afghanistan and suffers with PTSD, to 24 hours in jail for a DUI offense. When Serna showed up to do his jail time, the judge, a veteran of the Gulf War, met him and said he was going with him. They spent the night together in a single cell, sharing their experiences, hopes, dreams. Explaining his actions, Olivera cited this story: “A soldier with PTSD was in a hole. A family member, a therapist and a friend all threw down a rope to help the veteran suffering. Finally, a fellow veteran climbed into the hole with him. The soldier suffering with PTSD asked, ‘Why are you down here?’ The fellow veteran replied, ‘I am here to climb out with you.’

The first question which the priest and the Levite asked was:
‘If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?’
But…the good Samaritan reversed the question:
‘If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?’

― Martin Luther King, Jr.

Leila, a friend of mine, lost her husband. When I saw her, I was concerned at how much weight she had lost and how little energy she seemed to have. When I saw her a few months later, she was lit up from the inside, vibrant and alive. It was so noticeable, I asked her what had changed. She smiled and said simply, “I now rock preemies on my lunch hour and after work.”

A life of service gives us a break from self-absorption. It shifts our focus to others.

To make us happy a life of service must be freely chosen. Still, there are times when we find ourselves serving, such as when we care for small children or an ailing loved one, because the situation requires it. Then we have a choice. Will we experience it as a burden or an opportunity to give? When I cared for my late husband, Hal, as he declined mentally and physically, I went back and forth. Here’s what I know: when I focused on the burden, I was unhappy. When I focused on the blessing of being with him, I was happy. When the effort of caring for him physically was too much for me, I got help with that part so I could still be with him kindheartedly.

“Using our gifts to be of service is the fullest expression of our lives. People who want to be of service can change the world.”

― The Virtues Project

Circling back to the place where we started:

  • A life of service is the surest way to find yourself and love your life.
  • Loving your life is the surest route to happiness.
  • When more people live lives of service, the world is a better place.

COACHING QUESTIONS

  1. What does your life of service look like? How do you serve? Whom do you serve?
  2. What gift do you have that others need? (Remember it can be a smile or your warm-hearted presence.)
  3. How can you make one person’s life better today?

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Feeling Entitled to a Little Gratitude This Mother’s Day?

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Here’s an icky confession: Since becoming a mother, I have dreaded Mother’s Day.

The whole holiday has, somehow, left me feeling unappreciated. I’ve tended to get in a funk, and not out of grief or some sort of well-defined pain — I can only imagine how hard Mother’s Day must be for someone who has lost their mother. I feel bad in a bratty way, like a toddler who is pissed that she’s not getting what she wants. The worst version of myself has typically made her appearance, ironically, on the day that we were supposed to be celebrating my best, most beloved, self.

What is it that has left me so resentful on Mother’s Day? What have I wanted so much that I haven’t been getting?

Until about an hour ago, I thought it was about gratitude. I wanted to be appreciated on Mother’s Day in the way that we used to show appreciation to my mother. Research shows that when we express gratitude in our relationships, we become more attuned to our family member’s efforts on our behalf. I was hoping for a little more attunement to all the work I do as a mom — mostly from my husband, but also the kids.

At least the way I remember it (I’m a little afraid to ask my mom for verification; it just now occurred to me that my memory is probably a little rosy), we’d bring my mom breakfast in bed, showering her with homemade cards and gifts. My dad would give my mom a funny card and a gift that he’d bought. We’d take a family bike ride on the path around St. Mary’s College, with a picnic that my dad and I packed with help from the deli at Black’s Market. Norman Rockwell could’ve painted us.

None of that actually seems hard to recreate, but for the love of God my family has never even come close. Last year I laid out my expectations clearly for my husband. “I’m fine with no gifts,” I explained, “So long as there are cards and a family activity.” This did not happen. With four active teenagers and a husband who refuses to plan anything more than a day in advance, our only family outings are planned by me.

For the record, three of the four children made me BEAUTIFUL, heartfelt Mother’s Day cards. Kelly-Corrigan-level cards. They were practically set to music they were so thoughtful and moving.

But that was not enough for me.

Expectations are a tricky thing. Unfulfilled, they set us up to ruin what is actually happening by ruminating over what we think ought to be happening. Painful thoughts — How could he not do this for me given all I do for this family??! Does he not appreciate me at all?start to loop endlessly, triggering waves of disappointment.

So how could I make this year different? I already lowered my expectations to no material gifts, and that didn’t help me much; I’m not sure I can lower them to nothing. In past years, I’ve made a massive effort to focus on myself less by helping others, but ultimately, even that didn’t really prevent me from feeling unappreciated myself. I felt entitled to a little gratitude, damnit.

(Let’s not miss the irony here: Entitlement is pretty much the opposite of gratitude. Rarely do we attract the opposite of what we feel. Just as we don’t foster other people’s love by lashing out at them, my unbridled sense of entitlement wasn’t exactly generating a mountain of appreciation.)

Emotional traps like this — obsessing over my feelings of unmet expectations — are usually triggered by a mistaken belief. So where was the error in my thinking?

I really was feeling unappreciated by Mark, my husband. I felt like I sacrificed more for our family and children, and that he should recognize and feel grateful for that. I held a deep seated conviction that I gave more. I spent more time doing the hardest parenting work, creating and enforcing structure and discipline, managing the near-constant drama of life with three teenage girls and an active adolescent boy.

Now, I should mention that, according to research, I am not alone in believing that I do more for our family than my husband — but I might not be correct. When researchers add up the percent of work each person in a couple says he or she does, they consistently find that the total ends up being more than 100 percent. So if a mom says she does 65 percent of the household work, and her husband says he contributes a solid 50 percent… there is a 15 percent error in there somewhere. Perhaps this was the heart of my mistaken belief?

My Mother’s Day funk did grow out of my belief that I do and sacrifice more for our family than Mark does. And weirdly, I somehow thought that this seemingly massive imbalance could be righted through a Mother’s Day display of profound appreciation.

This is funny to me now, because clearly even the most magical Mother’s Day outing would not dissolve my resentment. We needed to deal with the source of my resentment.

“We need counseling,” I announced to Mark. I sat down to work through what I wanted help resolving. What did I want Mark to do differently?

What I found, when I really thought hard about it, was that my assumptions about our division of labor were blatantly untrue. Believe me, I was shocked by this revelation. But it turned out that I had loads of evidence suggesting I don’t do more for our family than Mark.

True, I do the bulk of the emotional labor. But he does nearly all the house and garden maintenance. We spend about the same amount of time in the car driving kids around. I plan our meals and cook; he shops and cleans up. We’ve got a division of labor where he does the things he likes to do best (like mowing the lawn) while I get to do the things that I love to do (like talking to the kids about their feelings). I am lucky to have a truly equal partnership.

I was harboring resentment out of habit rather than reality. At times, being a mother can feel so overwhelming; when the kids were little, I sometimes felt a little victimized by it all, a little trapped by the sheer magnitude of the way they’d taken over my life. My husband simply couldn’t do many of the things that I was doing. Pregnancy, labor and delivery, and breastfeeding bred loads of occasions when only mama would do. My family could never repay me for the sacrifices I’d made for them — but they could, and should, show me a little gratitude for it. Hence my feelings of entitlement to a little Mother’s Day appreciation.

Billy Collin’s wrote a poem about this. In it, Collins recounts the thousands of meals his mom made him, and the good education she provided, and all the other zillions of things she did for him. In return he gave her… a lanyard he made at camp. Collins concludes:

And here, I wish to say to her now,

is a smaller gift — not the worn truth

that you can never repay your mother,

but the rueful admission that when she took

the two-tone lanyard from my hand,

I was as sure as a boy could be

that this useless, worthless thing I wove

out of boredom would be enough to make us even.

Now, this is what I wish to tell my children and husband both: We are even, with or without lanyards and family outings on Mother’s Day.

Because I am not trapped. I have not been victimized. There is no need for reparation. You don’t owe me a darn thing, even gratitude. I don’t have to do any of the many things I do for you or our family. I choose to do them. I do them because I love each of you so very much. Moreover, this love that I feel for you is the greatest gift I’ve ever been given. It is a great joy to be a mother in this family, your family. I’m deeply, profoundly grateful for all we are and all we have — together.


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The New Normal

For years I worked in environments where hustling, being available 24/7 and never feeling at ease was the norm.

Yes, stress was normal.

Not having a balanced life.

Walking out of the office at 7pm just to continue all conversations via email on my iPhone through the wee hours of the night.

Crying constantly.

Not knowing how everything was going to get done in time.

Sleepless nights.

Email arguments.

Passive aggressiveness.

Feeling inauthentic.

These were the norms at several of my past jobs.

When I was in the thick of it — I thought, well, I guess this is what it takes to be a [publicist], [digital media director] [event producer] [fill in the blank].

I thought this was the only way.

I couldn’t be successful without constantly feeling stressed. Completely wearing myself out. I assumed this was how everyone worked and how everyone felt.

***

Fast forward to a year of entrepreneurship.

When I launched, I looked at the success that other coaches and influencers in this space had and was certain that they hustled the exact same way that I had done at my previous jobs.

Stress. Sleepless nights. Anxiety. Zero balance.

Wrong.

I am now fully in control of how I manage my schedule and this newfound freedom.

I am responsible for how many hours a day and week I work.

I make use of the time when I am most creative and motivated.

I’ve let go of needing my inbox to be at zero before going to sleep at night.

I learned how to prioritize my yoga classes.

I began making lunch for myself in the middle of the day.

I take walks.

I pace myself.

I allow myself to pace myself.

I find balance between being an entrepreneur and living a healthy lifestyle.

I began to trust the process and not force it.

I learned to let go – especially when things were out of my control.

I trust my gut.

There are days when I’m not really productive and I want to punish myself for it.

But it’s okay.

I don’t drop the ball.

It’s just not something I do.

I get my work done – I do it at a pace that makes sense for me.

I dictate my life.

I don’t let other people dictate how I live my life.

If my way doesn’t work for other people – that’s fine.

We’re all unique and need to stay authentic to who we are.

Authenticity is key.

It’s something I definitely lost while working for other people in industries that I was not cut out for.

I may have been good at the job I was doing but I certainly wasn’t happy, fulfilled or passionate about the work I was doing.

Entrepreneurship comes with a ton of challenges.

It’s worth it.

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2015-11-09-1447110946-7757898-play.jpg Remember sitting in the classroom, watching the clock and praying for the bell to ring? It was time for recess! After the break, you’d come back ready to face the rest of the school day.

Play is a natural and accepted part of childhood. It’s relaxing, it’s pleasurable and it serves as a way to learn a number of foundational skills we need for success in the adult world.

When we become adults, play somehow gets left behind and replaced with deadlines, responsibilities and the demands of a career. Living in our grown-up world, all too often the message is that adults don’t play and that we really ought to leave that part of us behind. But is this wise?

Findings suggest that play can be beneficial for grown-ups too!

Play Encourages Creativity

Research has found that taking a break and having a little fun helps to relieve tension and improve problem-solving abilities. Play activates the pleasure centers of the brain and stimulates areas of the brain responsible for mental flexibility and creativity. [1]

Playing, especially play that engages our imagination can increase our creativity, which in turn enhances our problem-solving ability, helping us to find solutions to problems that we might otherwise have overlooked.

Simply put, play flexes the creative muscle of the mind!

Play Encourages Good Health

Play and laughter go hand-in-hand. Playing and laughing bring us into the moment, providing both an easing of physical tension and a release of emotion. Together, they deliver a double dose of health benefits.

Research has found that engaging in pleasurable or humorous activities relieves stress, stimulates the immune system, encourages the release of ‘feel good’ endorphins and may improve inflammation and the function of blood vessels.

The take-home message here is clear: find something fun and do it. Your body and your mind will thank you for it.

Play Encourages Happiness

One of the most interesting things about play is that it can spontaneously move us into the moment, allowing us to get totally lost in the experience. When this happens, we are in what has been called ‘the flow’, a state of intense joy.

Research suggests that play is a fundamental need for humans, something present throughout the lifespan. Play contributes to our sense of well-being, connectedness and ability to cope with life’s challenges.

An absence of play isn’t work but depression. Another great reason to get out and play!

Play Encourages Mental Acuity

A number of studies suggest that physical activity, puzzles and games may delay cognitive decline and help to maintain optimal brain function.

Physical activity and tasks that require mental manipulation require us to access areas of the brain involved in information processing and problem-solving. Engaging the brain in this way activates brain cells and improves their efficiency and capacity. Over time, this activity can help to maintain memory and thinking skills.

These days there are any number of puzzle books, apps and online resources for adults. If you prefer to play with others, find like-minded friends and play some old favorites! The key here seems to be to play in a way that keeps us physically and mentally active.

Play Encourages Relaxation

One of the simplest forms of childhood play is coloring and coloring has recently become a very grown-up thing to do. There are now coloring books just for adults! A number of studies have found that coloring can significantly reduce anxiety in adults. [2]

Even better, what you color – Mandalas, abstract designs or a child’s coloring book – seems to not matter as much as the act of coloring itself.

When we play, we relax, which in turn promotes feelings of well-being. Whether it’s a board game, a puzzle or drawing, the act of doing something fun allows us to lose ourselves in the moment and relax.

The Take Away On Play

As we have seen, research, supports the idea that play is appropriate and necessary throughout our lives. Each stage of life presents its own challenges and play seems to provide a positive way to counter and alleviate the stresses that this can produce.

Nurture the child that is still inside and let him or her out to play. Reconnect with yourself and with others by doing those things that are fun and engaging. The more we do things we enjoy, the more we want to do them and the happier we are.

Perhaps George Bernard Shaw was right when he said, “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”

References:
1. Zabelina, D., & Robinson, M. (2010). Child’s play: Facilitating the originality of creative output by a priming manipulation. Psychology of Aesthetics, Creativity, and the Arts, 4(1), 57-65.

2. Small, S. (2006). Anxiety Reduction: Expanding Previous Research on Mandala Coloring. Undergraduate Journal of Psychology, 19, 15-21.

Peter Field is a UK registered psychotherapist and board certified hypnotherapist. His hypnotherapy Birmingham and London clinics provide hypno-psychotherapy services for a wide range of issues. His extensive range self-hypnosis downloads are also available.

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Enjoy a Beautiful Sunset

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When my friend shared this beautiful sunset with me, I knew I had to share it. I was immediately reminded of the many hours of sunsets I have enjoyed; sadly, I couldn’t remember how long it had been since I had treated myself to the relaxing sensation of being near the water, experiencing a gorgeous sunset — a place that offers so much.

If you’ve never been on the beach or near a body of water at the end of the day when the sun is setting, you should make an appointment to do so at your earliest convenience. Fortunately, many of us can actually remember sunsets by the water, either at a beach, a pond, a lake, or at the river, the sea, or the ocean.

SUNSET is an indescribable work of art that only nature can create, truly unique. City dwelling, career pursuits, and family obligations are normally the culprits that impede our opportunities to enjoy the benefits of a mood changing sunset. Whatever the reason for the hiatus, consider scheduling an opportunity to connect and enjoy a sunset for the first time, or reconnect to the great benefits: connecting to nature’s art gallery, which inexplicably activates our senses during a recess at a place that only nature can create.

Nature’s sunset near water provides a space to not only think about tranquility but also experience tranquility. This tranquility is topped off with beauty, peace, and needed serenity + the most important person in the world, “YOU.” Even if we can’t rush off to the water today or tomorrow, we can take a few minutes to view the picture and start imagining what’s in store. We should sit in a quiet place and imagine that we can hear the sound of the waves crashing against a bed of rocks. Like preparing for a business trip, we generally start making plans as soon as the trip has been approved. If we can prepare for work related trips in advance, why can’t we do the same for ourselves?

Water is one of nature’s stress relievers. Preparing to arrive at the water, whether we want to take a plunge or just walk in the sand. Our bodies automatically start to de-stress and relax. Positive thoughts about our upcoming respite start to flood our heads. We know we are about to enjoy:

The fresh crisp sound and smell of the water,
the sand or grass — dry or wet, near the water,
the sun’s warmth all rolled into one location,
the true gift at the “one stop” relaxation station.

On arrival, mental peace and physical relaxation greet us. This is a time to receive from Nature’s Bounty. We are stimulated, but stimulated to pause, breath, and relax. We have options:

  • We can sit in the moist sand and meditate near the water, or we may sit in the dry sand or grass away from the water, and contemplate as we enjoy the waves dancing from a distance; this scene invites us, instinctively, to slow down.

  • We may walk along the water’s edge and enjoy the moist sand between our toes. We may decide to stand, like The Receiver in the picture, strike a pose, and soak in all that nature has so brilliantly provided. We should let the last bit of sun envelope us, while we measure our reflections and admire our silhouettes.

  • We may look out into the sunset and lose ourselves as we move into the water, knee deep, allowing the waves to crash against our legs, which would sooth and refresh our bodies and souls. We should all experience at least one sunset, surrounded by water.

If possible, we should routinely take advantage of a sunset because it offers something that we can’t purchase — we can’t enjoy it in the comfort of our homes — we can’t squeeze it in between meetings at the job. Most of us have that special treat that we feel we can’t live without — a special dessert, a massage, a power nap, or a secret self indulgence. Honestly, we can live without partaking of a beautiful sunset, but that would be like refusing to accept a special gift offered as a thank you from a cherished friend, mentor, or loved one.

We must realize, nature is offering a very special, one of a kind gift. But, we must make an effort to physically remove ourselves from the hustle and bustle of the day to day in order to collect the gift. We deserve nature’s bequest. Nature has inexplicable characteristics, but one of the greatest is its unimaginable beauty; this awesome beauty effortlessly allows us to gain perspective because it connects our senses to natural elements: During the sunset encounter we can smell, taste, feel, and enjoy the water, air, earth (sand or grass), and open sky as the wind blows lightly, and the SUNSET slowly and magically permits us to enjoy this special time of day,
SUNSET.

Sitting or Standing
Upon
Neatly
Settled
Earth
Thinking

Let’s allow ourselves to settle down and soak it in — enjoy nature’s gift of tranquility that uncannily reconnects us to ourselves. SUNSET — What a gift!

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I Work With Elders Because I Am Selfish

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When I was 21 I left the beach towns of Florida I had always called home, packed up a station wagon and headed to the millennial’s promised land, Brooklyn. Before I left, a friend and mentor recommended that I read Ayn Rand’s The Fountainhead. This quote by the main character struck me and changed my perspective and eventually my course in life:

“I don’t intend to build in order to have clients; I intend to have clients in order to build.”

I wanted to live my life in this way although I had not yet defined my passion. In Brooklyn I worked in film and learned about life. At 25 I made another move across country and then suffered a loss, which turned me inward and searching again for my calling. I realized my passion was other people’s passions, or what is called vocation, and this lead me to pursue a certification in life coaching and a graduate degree in psychology.

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In my studies I remained passionate about vocation. I was intrigued by my geropsychology class. I thought, “What better way to learn about life than in hindsight?” and assumed working with elders would offer me a perspective which my 20-something years had not yet granted me. I found an elder care community, which was rare in that it offered psychotherapy, and applied to do my clinical hours there. As I began my training I learned that many of the elders I was working with had a diagnosis of dementia. The site I trained at prided themselves on taking elders who have been told by other communities that they could not meet their needs; usually these “needs” were behavioral expressions. So there I was, selfishly thinking I would sit with elders for my hours and hear their stories and learn about ways to get by in this world: which mistakes are to be avoided, which opportunities to be taken. I would be there like a sponge soaking up their stories, tallying the details and using them to help myself and future clients figure out life. I had always been good at figuring things out and I was excited for the possibility of a life hack through being with elders.

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My clients were not what I expected: Very few remembered my name and conversations were often hard to start and even harder to follow. My clients did not come and sit across from me, instead I joined them in their world and their life. Elders were not the founts of knowledge on a life lived perfectly that I had imagined. Many were mad, frustrated, sad and bored; these common human conditions were exacerbated by years and circumstance. As I spent more and more time with this community my pretense started to fall away and, with a curiosity that has been my constant companion, I looked for what was present. I started to see how relationships were developed without being able to remember one’s name or the details of interactions. As one elder put it, “I do not remember you here [pointing at their head], but I know you here [pointing at their heart].”

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I began to notice elders who seemed to be more at peace with their life and those who were more fraught with suffering. I started to notice patterns of those who were aging more joyously than others, with less suffering. I noticed that those who rejected the process of aging were suffering more than those that embraced it. The life hack I got was not the one I expected. There is no short cut or easy answer but there is a perspective shift that can help us as we age. Throughout our life we can listen to our inner wisdom and our calling and follow it, we can act in our own rational self-interest and prepare for old age rather than try to avoid it and we can learn to know things not only with our minds but with our hearts and bodies as well.

I work with elders because I am selfish: I want to limit my own suffering in old age, and hopefully others’ along the way. I am open and actively learning from elders and the aging process. I encourage anyone who has the opportunity to be around elders to try this perspective on, and learn from elders who age joyously. When we let go of trying to stop aging, that energy can go into being in the moment and appreciating the process.

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Work-Life Balance: Your Right to Love Your Life

“Excuse me” I said to the guard inside the courthouse behind the counter, are there any resting rooms inside this courthouse? I’m on jury duty and am feeling a bit tired, is there any place during lunch hour where I could lie down? He looked at me and said “restrooms, sure they are over there ” and pointed towards the stairs behind me. I said, oh no I don’t mean restrooms, I meant “resting rooms” as I put my hands under my cheek and leaned to the side, making my point of wanting to get a quick shut eye experience.

Now, realizing I probably sounded silly, I told him that where I am from in northern Europe there are, at universities and libraries for example, “resting rooms” for those needing to take a quick nap. He moved back, opened his eyes wider in surprise and laughed out his reply “well then, maybe I should move to Europe!”

We have all heard the term work-life balance, and I am sure we can all relate to feeling that we just don’t have enough time in a day to do the things we need to do. Sometimes this makes us very tired, as in the case when I wanted to take a nap at the courthouse.

Having read up on this topic for this post I mainly see the “balancing act” theme between life and work and the “who is responsible” theme (you or the company). All great, and I’d like to offer also, that you have the undeniable right to love your life. It is not just about having the right to a life (see the declaration of the Human Rights) but rather it is about thriving. There is a difference between doing something, going through the motions like a zombie and creating something, which drives and motivates us. If you don’t work – as in love your life, nothing works, including companies.

Thinking of having a right to love your life shifts the conversation a tad, adds another flavor more towards the idea of solidarity to make sure those rights happen for each other. A right lives in the realm of seriousness, ironically for this post many of concepts considered “rights” are protected in a court of law. A right is not up for negotiation, it is not a sometimes and someday kind of phenomenon and it is not solely up to the individual alone to “make it happen”. Dressing work-life balance in this way we push our aspirations up a level to think about what can be created to have people (and companies) thrive.

Being Swedish-American, having lived most of my life in Sweden and seven year working in LA and New York I have come to understand different shades of what makes life work from two different cultural ways of talking about things. It is the age-old conversation of be, do, have and how we balance these for a gratisfactory experience. In today’s world of business a creative mindset is the new “it” thing to possess, and cultures can assist in opening up to new ways of seeing something we look at every day. I understand culture can be a sensitive topic, but it is not the notion of cultures that create sensitivity in itself, it is our tendency to categorize and places one thing above the other. Perfectly fine when your shopping for a new sweater but not functional when understanding why people do what they do.

Cultures are in essence interpretations on much of the same set of universal values, distinguishable but always changing habits (Confucius). This becomes clear when some cultures have invented words for states, feelings and the world out there, whereas others have not. “Resting rooms” is apparently not a ubiquitous concept in the American English language and before I explained it the officer misheard me. He didn’t hear what he hadn’t heard before. Language matters, because language is the key with which we unlock how to understand our world and it affects processes, systems and how things work in a society. The fact that there was no resting room in the courthouse, doesn’t necessarily mean that the U.S. undervalues sleep, it just means sleep and napping didn’t belong in that specific context, or at least not in a designated area.

The conversation that people matter is not new, the school of Human Resources go back some time, but seeing what the world looks like (economic crashes, layoffs, income inequality) it is clearly not considered the most important thing. Profit is usually the most important thing. Boxall and Purcell (2011) in their book Strategy and Human Resource Management conclude that human capital can contain the most competitively valuable sources which sets a company apart, create creative companies and bring a vantage point in the market place. When access to resources alone cannot explain successes, something else is reasonably at play, could the x-factor be people? Yet, Piketty (2013) chooses to exclude human capital from the asset column in his book Capital in the Twenty-First Century, as an individual’s labor power, skills, training and abilities cannot be owned or traded on a market detached from the person they came from. Would you agree with that idea? There still is this uncertainty whether taking care of people matters in orders of magnitude, yet we all know in our hearts that if we put people first, before anything, all the time and always – everything else will follow. Of course at the heart of that conversation is that self care comes first, naps and all.

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This Couple Lives On 6% Of Their Income So They Can Give $100,000 A Year To Charity

Julia Wise is a social worker and her husband, Jeff Kaufman, is a software engineer. In 2013, their combined income was just under $ 245,000, putting them in the top 10% of US households. And yet, excluding taxes and savings, they lived on just $ 15,280, or 6.25% of their income.

 

What happened to the rest of their income, just under $ 100,000? They gave it to charity.

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I Got My 8 Hours in — Did You?

5 isn’t enough. 7 could work but less optimal for me. You can’t make it up. There is nothing else like it. I need 8. That is — I need 8 hours of sleep. Yes — SLEEP. Don’t know about you — but waking up after 8 hours sets me up perfectly for the day ahead. I can bring my best self to the entire day. I also get the most out of those days too.

“I only need 4 hours of sleep!”

Trust me, it’s not a badge of honor to brag that you can get by on 4 hours or 5 each night. I’ve heard that statement too many times. (Especially in Silicon Valley) You intimate that with fewer hours “wasted on sleep” you are more productive. Nope. Can’t buy that. When you brag about that, you are telling me that it’s ok for you to harm your health and not perform your best at work or at home. Is that something to brag about?? Would you encourage your children to sleep only 5 hours a night? I wouldn’t. Ever try to teach a cranky sleepy child? Now that is a challenge and typically doesn’t bear fruit. No surprise.

Studies show that 7 to 8 hours of sleep are optimal. You could function at 6 hours but not at your peak. Also — you can’t make up the deficit. It’s a myth that you can “catch up on your sleep” over the weekend. Your brain and your body need more.

Less sleep — less of you:

I know I needed more. As a mother of 3 kids all within 3 and half years — sleep was a coveted commodity. I also work full time. Taking a nap was not in my schedule. (Although I would have loved one!) There were days, weeks and months where I didn’t achieve that 8-hour goal. It showed. I know it impacted my career at times. When you are not resilient, have lower energy and lack of focus — how can your leadership team see the full potential in you?

What I found to be true for me is that without a good night’s rest, I was more emotional, less resilient, less focused, had loss of memory and was more impatient. Just grumpy. That made my day super long and I was someone who wasn’t as pleasant to be around. As a leader — that’s not a good thing. It didn’t only impact me — it impacted my team, my ability to influence and my role as a parent.

My “brain dead” day:

My personal “ah ha” moment was an embarrassing moment. No surprise there. 2 kids in diapers… ages 2 and 8 months… I was rushing to get ready for work and drop off the kids at day care. I had a meeting at 8 AM — what possessed me to accept that invite? I was up at least 3 times during the night for kid duty… I showered, changed, fed and packed the kids, off to day-care, and went off to work — beginning the day. That day I had back-to-back meetings, felt like I was always “behind” — either in thought or time. I had to catch up. I thought I was missing something. Something wasn’t right but I couldn’t wrap my head around it — I was too busy trying to stay on top of my business issues. I was not really listening or pausing to think.

Yup — it wasn’t my day. Around 3 o’clock a co-worker pointed out the baby spit on the back of my suit jacket I had been wearing all day… Yuck! (Such a great impression that must have made.) I also realized that I left the diaper bag and extra snacks in the car! And — in all honesty — wasn’t on my A game in that 3 PM meeting or in the earlier ones. I felt disjointed and it showed when I tried to influence the dialogue in the meetings. My thoughts didn’t flow and I gave up trying to better express my thoughts. I had less impact. My next thought? There’s a new day tomorrow… I can always catch up on my sleep… But I didn’t.

That was a typical day for a number of years. I still struggle when I travel overseas — the time zone changes can wreck havoc on your sleep patterns. I struggle when work goes into “sprint mode” and I have too much on my plate. It can be hard to manage.

The impact? I was impaired, like a drunk. In studies they say that less than 6 hours of sleep affects your driving and reaction time. I believe it. My decision-making slowed down and my ability to grasp complex issues was strained. It’s frustrating and it can be avoided. That’s the key — you can avoid that situation.

Don’t survive — Thrive:

Now — In all honestly I knew all of this but when I heard Arianna Huffington speak about her book Thrive and the need for sleep, several pieces clicked into place for me. I could and should take control of this pattern once and for all. I wasn’t alone.

I made it a goal to sleep better — for my family, my work and me.

Learning about how to get better sleep, encourage my kids to sleep better at night and be fresh for the day was a game changer. It had a true ROI. The catch? I needed to change certain patterns in my life. That can be hard.

Here is what I learned from Arianna and others:

1. Make sleep a priority — it is part of your health/ well-being regime.
2. Prepare for sleep appropriately — get a routine that relaxes you one hour before bed. Do not read your computer, IPhone or I pad. Read a normal book or listen to music. Don’t work.
3. Give yourself a chance to sleep through the night — don’t drink liquids 1-2 hours before bed, put your phone away / shut it off, and follow your routine. Keep your mind less cluttered. If you do get up, don’t check your devices. It will just trigger your brain and getting back to sleep will be difficult.

So that is what I did. Or more truthfully — what I am pursuing. It’s got to work for you. Everyone is different. So I am working on me. And I am better because of it!

Today — I am still figuring out my “routine” as I travel quite a bit so what I do needs to be adaptable to home and hotels. Getting ready for bed, reading a soft cover book is part of my routine. I also finally — put away my phone. (Thank you Arianna for your advice!) If something is urgent — get a flip phone that only a few select individuals can use. Other than that — disconnect. It feels so freeing that I am dis-entangling my device from me for dinners, time with family and friends. My texting/ social posting/ checking the random emails can wait. I want to be “present” for those that matter. (My husband has noticed the difference!)

On my ability to sleep through the night — I’m learning how to clear my mind, meditate and be more mindful. I slow down an hour before I go to bed. When I practice these behaviors — I sleep wonderfully. It takes me about 15 minutes to fall asleep but that is the norm. If you are falling asleep right when you head hits the pillow — you are not getting enough sleep.

And yes — I got my 8 hours in last night and I feel great! I have energy, I laughed more today, and I was really “present” to those around me. Most importantly I enjoyed my day. It showed in my smiles and my walk. It is a gift to me and those around me.

So I got my 8 hours in — did you?

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Searching for More Happiness?

In all the years I’ve been coaching, there’s been and continues to be one strong theme that exists with almost every client. That is, their desire to become happier. Here, in the UK some believe that happiness is about having a curry and beer on a Friday evening. Okay, not everyone is of this opinion, but many Brits are. I too would like to be happier. That’s not to say I’m unhappy. Far from it, I take great pleasure in my work, my marriage and my desire to improve myself. In saying that, a little more happiness would not go amiss.

Apart from guiding others, amongst other things, about how they can become happier, my own desires have become less apparent. What I mean is happiness is not always top of my mind. Somehow, helping others to have a better life has redirected the focus away from my desires and towards being of service. Therefore, my personal development has kind of taken a back seat. Okay, I still continue to take care of myself, eat healthily, keep fit, read avidly and research. Do those aspects of taking care of me make me happier? I don’t think so – I do think they prevent unhappiness creeping in to my consciousness.

The whole area of happiness is not totally understood by the general public. Somehow many believe that quick-fixes enable us to be happier. Research has discovered that almost every quick-fix, including miracle diets, don’t work in the long run. In saying that, it’s as if we all become addicted to the illusion that happiness is within easy reach. I’d say that happiness is in within reach, albeit not easily so. In essence, it’s to do with discovery. Yes, first we need to discover what makes us truly happy. For some, the joy of watching their children grow, for others their retirement. For me, I’m happiest when I am fulfilling my purpose.

In part, my aim is to teach, guide and clearly communicate that with the awareness of our purpose, self belief is buoyed. It also encourages us to convey our passion more authentically. In addition, it provides huge meaning to our lives. Although I don’t have the remedy for finding more happiness. Only you have that, just look deeply within to discover it. To locate your happiness button, ask yourself what sends a ripple of deep satisfaction through your being. Then, consider the times when your self esteem is at its highest. Furthermore, when did you last feel at peace, calm and without worry or stress?

The answers to these questions, will enable authentic happiness to manifest with greater ease. In short, being the Best Version of you: kind, empathetic, considerate, compassionate, optimistic and personable, etc. I was asked if having all of these qualities is ideal. Yes, it is ideal, so by just developing one of these is a great place to start. And like an addiction, you’ll become desirous of attaining more of these qualities. Remember, any actions we take in the affirmative become a part of who we are. Also, our self awareness grows stronger. And remember, the better we know ourselves the better we become at knowing who we authentically are. And happiness will follow.

Some tips:

-To discover more happiness begin by looking inside, not outside

-Spend time considering what makes you authentically happy

-Do your best to avoid spending time around negative people

-Giving to others unconditionally makes us happier

-Luck has a part in being happier, just make sure you are in when it comes calling

-Remember, material wealth is not the answer to becoming happier

-Know you have all the answers about knowing how to be happier

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Ending Toxic Relationships

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Ladies and Gentlemen, let me decree: The age where you stop putting up with people’s bullshit is 36. It may come well before then, but I know for sure the beaten, bloody corpse of giving-a-damn breathes its last miserable breath on your 36th day of birth.

Too dramatic? You’re right. I’m an artist. I get emotional sometimes. Let me try this again.

This year on my 36th birthday, I received a phone call from someone purporting to wish me well; but I was instead met with an out-of-nowhere onslaught of anger, bitterness and passive-aggressive insults. I tried desperately to save the conversation, to walk away from the call with some sense of positivity, but the wounds were too deep and the history between us too complicated.

Which is when I came to a necessary but painful realization: the relationship needed to end immediately. I wished the person well and hung up the phone. I will probably never speak to them again.

Put very simply, if a relationship (whether it be a friend, a family member or a significant other) makes you feel bad, you shouldn’t be in it.

That’s not to say that relationships aren’t complex and multifaceted, and not every interaction will be sunshine and rainbows. It’s simply to say that too often we tend not to take care of ourselves for the sake of a friendship. Too often we feel like it’s our price of admission, that in order to get the few moments of good, we have to put up with the long hours of bad. But I’ve come to realize that this way of thinking ultimately is a disservice to both sides.

Many toxic relationships have a destructive push/pull dynamic. Call it a form of co-dependency. One person needs to feel like the caring one, the other needs to feel like the destructive one, and both sides are miserable. It’s human nature, but it’s ultimately an unhealthy cycle because it creates a relationship without stability.

It used to be that I’d try to approach every toxic relationship as a puzzle that hadn’t yet been solved. It was a game I played with myself on the road to trying to be a good person; maybe if I look at the relationship in ANOTHER way it will change, maybe I’m not being patient enough, maybe I need to choose my words more carefully. Maybe, maybe, maybe.

But that’s when I discovered that I was, myself, contributing to the push/pull dynamic. My previous thinking always assumed the other person was the destructive one; but in reality I was being equally destructive. In my subconscious effort to not feel bad while being in a relationship, I did the unfair thing of pulling them closer while simultaneously pushing them away.

In a toxic relationship, each party continues to inflict their own negative behaviors upon the other person, which ultimately makes both people feel worse. There are indeed one-sided toxic relationships, where one party exclusively subjects the other to their bad behavior, but the mere fact that the “innocent” side keeps the cycle going means there is some equal amount of responsibility for its toxicity.

In short — we do it to each other.

And that is the single most important thing to understand when you break off a toxic relationship. Ending it doesn’t mean the other person is “bad” and you shouldn’t look to assign blame. There are no winners, and there are no losers. Sometimes, two people just aren’t good for each other. It’s as simple as that.

Ending something so familiar can be tricky. Sometimes its a matter of ripping the band-aid off, sometimes its a matter of quietly slipping away. No matter the method, remember to be kind to yourself and to the other person. Be sure to leave open the idea that there may come a time where your paths could cross again under happier circumstances. Allow them to go off and find what makes them happy just as you need to find what makes you happy.

When it comes down to brass tacks, every relationship that you have in life should make you a better person, just as you should contribute positively in return. We somehow tend to forget that along the way, when, in fact, our personal fulfillment should never be up for negotiation.

Episode 3 of my web series Keith Broke His Leg is a humorous take on toxic relationships; and shows a rather… unsanitary… way of ending the cycle. Take a look:

Keith Powell is an actor, writer, and director. He is most known for his role as Toofer on 30 Rock. He has had recurring roles on About A Boy and The Newsroom, and created, wrote, and directed the original web series Keith Broke His Leg (www.GetBroken.com).

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Watch: Feeling Useful

When my kids were little, we used to watch “Thomas the Tank Engine.” I loved that the highest compliment given was, “You are a really useful engine.” I hope this will help you cultivate a greater feeling of being useful.

If you are new to tapping, it will be beneficial to also watch the first episode in the “Tap Out Your Fears” series — which explains the basics of EFT — click here.

As with any of my tapping videos, this is an abbreviated process for releasing uncomfortable feelings and enhancing good ones. Some folks may find their fear dissolve after just one tapping session, but for others, it will take some repetition, bringing the discomfort down little by little each time. (Still others may uncover specific issues that are best addressed directly with a wellness practitioner.) In any event, this brief video should help at least take the edge off the discomfort, freeing you up to enjoy life much more. Let us know how it helped you!

For a picture of the tapping points — and more info on EFT — click here.

Tapping can sometimes bring up long-buried emotions, which is why I state that, before tapping along, folks must take full responsibility for their own well-being. For more information about that, please read this disclaimer.

Until next time, feel free to tap along with any of the many videos I have on YouTube or the many recordings I have at www.TapWithBrad.com.

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Visions of a Female Paraplegic

At 17, my high school friend Taylor broke her back. Without authorization she became a paraplegic poster child, reiterating her story to friends and entitled strangers alike again and again. Now, four years later, Taylor has a more intricate perspective of the female disabled experience; how the wheelchair can deter potential suitors, the truthful intersection of beauty and disability, and the dehumanization of women paraplegics. Taylor’s is not broken — despite what many people assume — she is a content woman who exhibits serenity, confidence, and resilience.

This series “Skinny Legs” is the celebration of Taylor’s humanness and agency for disability education. The collection was significantly impacted by the ignorant assumptions and learned behaviors toward female paraplegics. Spending time with Taylor granted me a panorama view of the way strangers regard her, ashamed miens or darting eyes. The disabled community is generally assumed as being broken, which is correlated to a lack of knowledge and uncertainty. In American culture, women paraplegics have to actively prove their worth to themselves and society. Collaboratively, Taylor and I worked to depict her relationship with both her wheelchair and her scar. This was pivotal to feature the wheelchair as a vessel of transportation and not as a symbol of weakness. Instead of varnishing her lower back in Mederma, Taylor memorializes her scar associating it with dignity.

“Skinny Legs” visualizes the multi-dimensional experience of a female paraplegic while depicting pellucid layers of self-love, frustration, faith, and mortality. My aim for this collection was to create an intimate storyline from the perspective of a single individual, allowing the viewer into Taylor’s existence. I purposefully captured varying angles to demonstrate a fluctuation of growth, emotions, and disposition. These photographs express Taylor’s humanness by deconstructing the fictitious notion that she’s broken or fragile.

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Whose Truth Are You Living?

“Believe nothing.
No matter where you read it,
Or who said it,
Unless it agrees with your own reason
And your own common sense.”
~ Buddha

I wonder how many of us are basing our lives on someone else’s truth? Many people take what has been given to them as “the way it is” and automatically live within the confines of that idea, never challenging that idea or looking at the possibilities that may lie beyond it. It requires courage to challenge and question the traditions and relative “truths” that, over the years (centuries), have been generationally passed down and blindly accepted. Whether we are talking politics, religion, race or any other area of our lives where we tend to simply accept the opinions of others without considering how it really rests in our own hearts, Buddha’s admonition is worth exploring.

Whose truth are you living? What truth has shaped the life you call your own today? Does it agree with your own reason and common sense, or is it based on someone else’s? With conscious self inquiry you need go no further than your own mind for the answer because it’s your truth that you are seeking, not another’s, yes? Something to reflect upon.

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Feeling phone-verwhelmed? 5 tips to create a healthier, happier relationship with your smartphone.

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Not long ago, I was chatting with a friend who lives in Oregon, USA, and she told me a story that I could completely relate to — because I’ve seen it play out in Hawaii, where I live.

My friend was having brunch at a popular local restaurant — she had waited an hour just to get a table — and while waiting for their food to arrive, she and her boyfriend noticed something troubling.

All around the restaurant — with very few exceptions — people were intensely focused on their phones. Texting. Tweeting. Posting pics of delicious food on Instagram. Scrolling through various feeds while glancing at their dining companions over the top of their screens. Multiple phones at every table. If someone wasn’t actively using their phone, they had it sitting flat on the table or tucked right in their lap — ready to grab!

“It was crazy!” my friend exclaimed. “Everyone waited so long to get inside, and once they sat down, instead of enjoying the food, the ambience, or their friends, they were totally focused on their phones. When did our society become so… phone-obsessed?”

I laughed, nodding my head. I’ve seen the exact same “scene,” too, so many times. Whether it’s at a public restaurant, a coffee shop, waiting in line at the airport or bank, or around the family dinner table, millions and millions of people are — as my friend put it — extremely “phone-obsessed.”

Sadly, this epidemic just seems to be getting worse.

In recent years, more and more parents have set up coaching sessions with me because they’re concerned about their kids’ relationship with technology.

“I can barely remember the last time I saw my teenager without a phone in her hand,” one mom said to me. “She texts so much, her phone is practically a part of her body.”

So many people — parents and kids alike — are feeling burnt out and “phone-verwhelmed.” Many of us yearn for a “simpler time” when smartphones didn’t exist — yet, at the same time, we’re grateful for the solutions and timesaving tools they provide. (GPS to help you navigate an unfamiliar neighborhood, anywhere in the world? Amazing!)

Smartphones definitely aren’t “evil” or “bad,” but people of all ages are struggling to find a “balance” and it’s becoming problematic. What’s the solution?

You’ll be happy to know: you don’t necessarily need to flush your brand new iPhone down the toilet or vow to never, ever tweet again. Things don’t have to be that black or white. But you can take specific steps to create a healthier, more balanced relationship with your phone — and all forms of technology, for that matter.

Here are 5 simple steps that I suggest:

1. Make a plan. If you want to earn a college degree, you don’t just wander through a university waltzing into various lectures and jotting down notes at random. You make a plan. You select specific classes happening at specific times and you attend them. This keeps you on track, moving steadily towards your goal.

You can apply that same logic to your smartphone usage. Choose specific times (say, 8am, 12pm, and 4pm) when you intend to “check in” to read texts, social media updates, and so on, and then do your best to stick to the plan. Try not to just “wing it.” Create phone-routines that help you to create the kind of day (and life) that you want.

2. Savor the sound of silence. If your phone is continually bleeping and pinging every time “something happens,” it’s going to be tough for you to stay focused on whatever you’re trying to do — you’ll be tempted to check in and see what’s up!

This may seem obvious, but turn off those noisy notifications. Better yet, turn the volume on your phone down to zero or power-down your phone completely.

If you’re concerned that you might miss something important — like an emergency phone call from your spouse, parent, or your child’s school — you can create a “call filter” so that certain people’s calls come through even if your phone is on “silent.” That way you can rest easy, knowing that you will never miss something that is truly urgent.

3. Make dinnertime a phone-free zone. For many couples and families, dinnertime is the only time of the day when everyone is gathered together in one place. Make dinner a special, sacred time. No phones at the table.

If people get restless or bored, strike up an interesting conversation by playing a question game (like asking, “What was the best part of your day?” or “What was the toughest part of your day?”) and take turns telling stories. Even if you’re dining alone, set your laptop or phone aside and savor your meal without techie distractions.

4. Enjoy phone-free adventures. A few times a week, try leaving your phone safely at home. Go for a phone-free walk with your dog… a phone-free date with your sweetheart… or a phone-free trip to the grocery story. When was the last time you did that?

See how it feels to move freely through the world without any kind of digital “companion” to keep you company. What kinds of feelings bubble up for you, positive or negative? Take note. No matter what kinds of feelings come up, taking some phone-free time is a valuable experience that can teach you a lot about yourself.

5. Ask yourself, “What am I craving right now?” My colleague Susan Hyatt — a fellow life coach — often poses this question to her clients. It’s a great one! When you feel the urge to check your phone, and you don’t really “need” to, pause for moment. Check in with yourself and see what you are craving.
Do you crave company? Do you want some excitement or entertainment? Inspiration? Connection with a friend? Energy to get through the rest of your day? Are you craving attention or affection? Laughter? Love?

Whatever you crave, see if you can find a non-phone-related way to give it to yourself.

Talk a walk or pop by a friend’s house just to say “hi.” Write a handwritten letter. Go for a jog. Listen to music. Sit and gaze at the sky or the ocean. Read a book. Feed your spirit in some other way.

After satisfying your cravings out in the “real world,” you may discover that whatever is going on in the “phone-world” just isn’t that compelling anymore.

There are so many ways to build a happy, balanced relationship with technology.

These 5 tips are just a few of my personal favorites.

What strategies have you discovered? What works best for you? What’s your favorite part about smartphone technology and what’s your least favorite aspect? Do you think your life would be better, the same, or worse, if smartphones had never been invented?

Talk about these questions with people you love… say, around the dinner table tonight.

Just scoot the phones off the table, first. You’ll all be glad that you did.

Suzanne


Dr. Suzanne Gelb is a clinical psychologist, life coach and family law attorney.

She believes that it is never too late to become the person you want to be. Strong. Confident. Calm. Creative. Free of all of the burdens that have held you back — no matter what has happened in the past.

Her insights on personal growth have been featured on more than 200 radio programs, 200 TV interviews and online at Time, Forbes, Newsweek, NBC’s Today, The Daily Love, MindBodyGreen, and much more.

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3 Reasons You Stay Stuck in a Job You Hate Instead of Pursuing Your Dream

Are you doing work you love? If not, what’s stopping you? If you are like the majority of people, you are probably doing work that pays your bills but that you don’t have a passion for. Even if you are working in the field of your college major, you have likely changed and gained more life experiences, new interests, and are not the same person you were when you chose your career path. That’s okay and far more common than you may imagine. In fact, most people are unsatisfied with their jobs.

According to Gallup, there are twice as many people who dislike their jobs as there are people who love their jobs. As a matter of fact, only 13 percent of all the people studied are happy with their jobs; 63 percent are not engaged in their work and simply go through the motions day in day out. And there are 24 percent who actually hate their jobs. These studies are alarming, but true.

So, why are people resigned to stay unhappy in a job they hate instead of doing work that feeds them and that they are passionate about? It boils down to three main reasons.

1. Fear — that four-letter word that has so many people living a mediocre, passionless life. Fear can be all-encompassing, especially when it means change is involved. So, what are we afraid of?

Fear of failure. This is what I call the “what if” fear. What if I try and do something I am passionate about and fail — what will people think, and what will it say about me? What if I don’t make any money, go bankrupt, lose my house, and end up on the street? We are so afraid to step out because we are worried about failing. It’s been said that Edison failed 1,000 times before he succeeded in creating the lightbulb. Had he been afraid of failure, we may still be living in the dark. Success is never guaranteed, but failure is certain if you fail to try.

Fear of success. At first thought, this may seem illogical because isn’t success what we all want? The answer is no. Many people hold this deep seated fear. They fear that if they are successful, they can no longer be the same person they are today, and that they will have to change. Or, deep down they don’t feel worthy of success. Some feel that if they do achieve success, they may be unable to maintain it, so there is no use in trying. And, there are those who think being successful will take up too much time and energy. Here’s something to consider — isn’t doing work you don’t like already taking up massive amounts of your precious time and energy?

Fear of the unknown. That comfort zone of ours can be quite a motivator to stay where we are. But when we live in that space, we do not expand, grow, learn, or experience all that life has to offer. This is living a life of muted mediocrity, and who wants to live like that? When I worked as a hospice social worker, I had the privilege of being able to experience with people their final days and weeks. I found that one of the top regrets expressed by my dying patients was that they wished they had not been so afraid to take risks along the way, realizing that they could have lived fuller lives if they had not lived so cautiously and played it safe. Who wants to get to the end of their life with regrets of not having lived life to the fullest? Doing just one thing each day to move out of our comfort zone can expand that comfort zone dramatically and make the unknown less scary.

2. Lack of clarity. This can keep people stuck for years. If you are waiting to wake up one day knowing exactly what you want to be when you grow up, you could be waiting forever. Please do not wait for clarity to just show up. Clarity comes from within, and each of us is responsible for creating our own. There are many exercises and techniques that can help you in getting clearer, but you have to be engaged and do the work required to successfully achieve clarity. It may also take exploring different options to see what fits for you. You may even fail a few times, but it will bring you that much closer to figuring out what work you would love. In essence, clarity is truly an inside job.

3. Not knowing how to make it happen. Suppose you know what you would love to do but just can’t figure out how to make it happen. The first step is to set the intention that no matter what, you will make it happen. Once you do this, you have already done half of the work. Your unwavering decision to find a way will begin to overshadow any doubts you have. When you set the intention to do the work you love, the right people and circumstances just start to show up. When you make your mind up, you cannot help but to start attracting what you need to move forward. To keep the momentum, many people find it helpful to create a vision board of exactly what they want their dream job to look like and focus on the outcome daily, expecting results to happen. In the meanwhile, start taking action toward your dream. Take a small step each day. You will find that those small steps start to add up, and before you realize it, your goal of doing work you love is no longer a dream, but a blossoming reality.

What is keeping you from pursuing your dream? Is it fear, lack of clarity, or not knowing how to make it happen? What can you do to push past that barrier and create work that gives you a strong sense of purpose, passion, and fulfillment?

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Taking My Own Advice

A human being is a part of the whole called by us, the “Universe” — a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest — a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.

Decades later and Albert Einstein’s words still hold much value and truth.

We are not separate from the whole. This is the understanding I came to after living a life on the opposite end of the spectrum.

When I studied adolescent development in graduate school, I was particularly fascinated with the theory of egocentrism and the concept of personal fables: As teenagers, we hold the belief that we are unique and special, separate from the rest. We desire to be the center of attention, and believe that nobody could ever understand our personal experiences.

Thinking back to my younger years, I felt like nobody understood me. The theory relates to adolescents specifically, but I wonder if it could be applied to one’s entire lifespan, depending on a person’s development. It’s only been in the last two years that I have let go of my personal fable and have come to integrate and embody the depth of Einstein’s words.

So why is this important?

I travelled to India, embarking on a journey of transformation and when I returned I was living by Einstein’s words: seeing the energy everywhere I went, experiencing the intricate connections that exist in everything, viewing life as one giant web, each moment interwoven into the next.

However, I was undermining a very important reality… One’s individual journey.

I came back to North America to a loved one who had fallen ill and decided that, with all the tools I had acquired while away, it was my responsibility to heal this person. I had learned so much about health and healing during my travels and felt like I held the key to her recovery.

How many of you have experienced that moment when you’re suddenly filled with hope, believing that you’ve discovered the missing link to another’s liberation?

When I was away I faced my own health issues and came to appreciate the importance of treating the body like a temple so that it is able to heal.

How we nourish ourselves in terms of what we consume and the kind of attention we give our bodies has a huge impact on our health. Self-love is essential in this equation.

And when I realized this, I was determined to transmit this “knowing” and “awaken” all those around me, adhering to Einstein’s notion that we are not separate from the whole.

But here’s the thing I was undermining: While there is truth in the fact that we are all one, it’s not our job to make others see what we see and do what we do.

Every person is here to experience his or her own journey and all we can do is commit to our own path, take the necessary steps to stay on course, lend a helping hand to those who desire support and love and accept those who don’t.

I know that staying away from processed foods, refined sugars, and GMOs is critical when it comes to treating my body well; I know that exercising from a loving place and consciously moving my body on a regular basis is fundamental to my health; I know that meditating daily supports my mental clarity and stability; I know that drinking tons of water and getting good sleep impacts my vitality; And I now know that it’s not my role to impose these truths on others who are not willing to receive them.

You know what I’m talking about, don’t you?

Disease occurs when energy is blocked inside the body and what we consume in the process has massive impact on our ability to release those blockages. I have read a plethora of research papers on the importance of nutrition, exercise and a loving mindset when it comes to healing the body. I have watched my own health transform based on these facts. And yet, I cannot enforce these lessons. All I can do is live by them.

This created a lot of personal pain and frustration at one point — I had to give up the role of savior, even with those I love most in this world.

Many of us grow up attached to this identity (e.g., the savior, the giver, the martyr, the helper, etc.), especially women. We are conditioned to believe that it is our obligation to heal/save/fix/change the people we love in this world. But it’s not.

While giving up this identity was painful, it has also been one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned.

It’s not up to us to light another person’s flame; we must ignite our own flame while loving those around us, as they are, and know that the flame may catch at some point… or it may not.

The butterfly effect is something to consider, especially in relation to Einstein’s words: A small change made in this complex system of life can have huge consequences elsewhere… But it is not our role to ensure that happens. Instead, we must trust in the unfolding and continue living our own truth.

Again, we may think we have the solutions for others’ pain. We may be convinced that if she stopped comparing herself to others and had more love and appreciation for her body in this moment or he was willing to see the mind-body connection and work through the emotional hurt in order to heal the physical pain than everything would be different.

While these things may be accurate, there’s a fine line between knowing something to be true and inflicting it onto those who are not ready to receive it.

Thus, after spending countless months trying to make other people see what I see and do what I do and witnessing more damage come from this process than good, I have chosen to surrender and trust in the butterfly effect.

I choose to embody what I preach, instead of merely talking the talk and expecting others to follow; I choose to infuse love into everything I do, whether it’s the food I eat, the activities I engage in, or the stillness I come to; I choose to lend a helping hand to anybody who crosses my path and desires support; And when I fall into an old pattern of neglect, self-hatred, comparison, or lack of presence, I choose to see it and I bring compassion into the equation.

We are human beings — accepting that this is an ongoing journey of growth is part of the process.

So what can we do when it comes to helping those we love?

We can live by what we speak. We can love and honor our bodies every moment of the day. We can help those who want support, while trusting that they have all the inner resources needed. We can light our own fires and allow them to burn brightly. We can be the change. And we can trust that everyone is doing the best they can.

And it’s still a work in progress, as Rumi states, “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

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How to Leave Your Job… Correctly

There comes a point (or 15) in your career that you decide to move on from your current position/employer/industry. Hopefully when this time comes you’re moving on with a bittersweet feeling and a little nostalgia as Vitamin C’s “Graduation” plays in your head and you’re reminded of your growth and successes while feeling a bit of excitement for your next endeavor. If, however, you’re trying to quit to the tune of Ludacris’s Move B***H, I’d highly advise taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture. Quitting in an angry, vengeful, F$ %# off manner can really only hurt you. After all, you’re the employee in need of a new employer. If you have no immediate plans of being self-employed or an employer yourself let me humble you by saying that even though you may be the best _________ (insert job title here) ever, there are plenty of other people like you. You’re not Superman — you’re replaceable.

That being said, there’s a lot that should happen before, while and after you say, “My time here has come to an end.” As a person who has recently gone through this, here are a few quick things I’ve learned while on this path:

You’re Quitting Long Before You Quit. Your manager should be shocked and surprised that you have plans of leaving. If they had any idea of (or seem excited about) your departure it was probably reflected in your poor job performance or your big mouth. Either way, the weeks/months leading up to “the conversation” you should be on your “A game.” If anything, they should notice your performance improving, not declining.

Moral of the Story: you need letters of recommendation. Your old faithful standbys from school and that summer internship from three years ago aren’t going to cut it anymore.

Seek Advice — Cautiously. Some of my biggest regrets in life aren’t what I did/didn’t do. It’s that I let other people talk me into/out of the things that I did/didn’t do. While a few people in your corner know every transgression your colleague Meg did because of your constant venting about her, they will never truly understand your experiences as they are not in your shoes. Only you are. That being said, seek advice from those who you consider to be wise. However, only you should have the final say in how you decide to write your script in life. Be courageous in your decisions and follow through with them. Most of all stand by them no matter what. If things go well — yay you! If not, we’ll chalk it up to character development.

Moral of the Story: You’re an adult and need to start making decisions for yourself.

Finances (Should Not Be The Only Thing That) Matter. Quitting a job without another to replace it is daunting and risky. Not being able to identify your next source of income is a situation that most people cannot imagine or put themselves in. However, if you’ve come to the conclusion that quitting is for you, you need to be resourceful in figuring out how to eat. Checking your local temp agency or Craigslist or creating a Care.com profile are just a couple of options to think about. Your financial exit strategy should be established before you start the exit process. Maybe you’ll stay an extra three months. Maybe you’ll stop eating out, going to happy hours and shopping online. Maybe you’ll start a second job to really build your savings. Finances are an important aspect to consider, but just having a steady paycheck should not be the reason you’re unhappily keeping a job.

Moral of the Story: Don’t let a dollar hold you back from happiness.

Leave How You Came In — Graciously and Thankful. There were so many times that I fantasized about walking into work one day, sliding my computer on my manager’s desk, saying “byeeeeeeeeeee” and crip walking out of there chucking the deuces. Luckily, I gained some sense and didn’t do this. Instead, I set up a coffee meeting with my manager and we hashed things out. I stated why I was leaving, my desired last date of employment and asked for any overarching feedback that I could use later in life. My manager and I had some highs and definite lows together, but it was great to end the conversation with receiving many compliments and an invitation to come back if I didn’t find what I was looking for elsewhere. THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT! Even though I know the door is closed on my end, you should leave with your employer wanting you back and being open to your coming back. You’re the one who applied, interviewed for and accepted this job. Just because it didn’t work out for you, it doesn’t mean that you should forget how much you initially desired this job and were thrilled when you got it.

Moral of the Story: Always be appreciative of your life’s journey. As a chapter in your life concludes, try to figure out the best way to end it on a positive note. Whether the chapter began positively or negatively, remember you can control how it ends.

Stay Connected. I don’t believe in sending out an email to a chain of people I barely know at the firm saying “I’m leaving my job.” I also don’t believe in asking for phone numbers/emails I have no intention of using. Lately my default has been to ask people I care to stay in touch with if we can connect on LinkedIn. It’s the easiest way to build and maintain your professional network while getting updates and reminders on people’s lives as they also develop professionally. Whatever you do figure out how you’ll stay in touch with people as you’ll no longer have access to your company’s internal email system.

Moral of the Story: In the wise words of Trick Daddy, “Everybody know somebody that know somebody that know somethin.” In other words, don’t burn bridges. You just might be surprised how the people least suspect know the people you want to know.

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Our Panic-Stricken Country

Today I witnessed a truly humbling event.

A young man — about 30, I’ll call him Brad — was experiencing a panic attack. His condition greatly resembled that of a stroke, as he was unable to move his extremities, his face was nearly paralyzed, and he could barely speak or breathe.

His friend, I’ll call him Alex, another 30-something-year-old guy, brought Brad to the ER. It took a few medics to get Brad into a wheelchair and inside due to his inability to move most of his body.

As I watched the events unfold, I was touched by Alex’s gestures. After registering Brad, Alex found a box of Kleenex and pulled out a handful of them to wipe Brad’s tears since he was unable raise his arms due to his condition.

Within a short period of time, Brad had four other friends by his side. By then he was laying on a gurney in the hallway of the ER. The docs had also given him a shot of something, which calmed him down. His friends were rubbing his shoulders and head, talking to him all the while. Eventually, Brad regained the ability to move his arms and to talk normally again. I overheard him calling home and how he told his parents not to worry, promising them that he was okay.

It was incredible to watch these friends, both of whom were seemingly healthy young men, as they went through this trauma. I left the ER that evening thinking about how much stress impacts our bodies. That a panic attack essentially left Brad unable to move most of his body, in pain, and barely able to breathe or talk.

Even more so, it made me think about stress on another level. The level where it involves all the hatred spewed in Facebook’s public forums — the horrible comments and names that people call one another (mostly aimed toward people that they don’t even know). Is all the passing on of hatred and carrying, and then expressing, all of that anger worth the stress and the impact on the physical body?

As we go into this year of election turmoil, let’s take a deep breath — and a chill pill or an extra glass of wine — so the ERs aren’t filled to the brim with panic stricken peeps… and, no, that’s not an open invitation to bash Obamacare. The kind of compassion and empathy that Alex showed his friend are what this country really needs — more than anything — right now.

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The Emotional Toll of a Cutthroat Work Environment

A recent article in the New York Times revealed the bruising workplace environment at Amazon. The gist? Amazon employees are encouraged to poke holes in one another’s ideas, give secret feedback about coworkers and work incredibly late hours (emails after midnight, anyone?). The takeaway was that Amazon pushes its employees beyond their limits.

But Amazon is not alone in this approach. As a New York City psychotherapist and former attorney, I understand when my patients complain of grueling hours, cutthroat competition, and the sacrifice of personal and family time. Today’s competitive corporate culture forces many people to confront a real-life conflict between personal and professional goals, productivity versus pleasure. Whether you work at Amazon or elsewhere, a demanding workplace environment can take a serious toll on your physical and emotional health if you are unprepared for the risks and tradeoffs. While professional success is a most worthy achievement, it should not come at the cost of your physical or emotional health.

Work-life balance is familiar term, but what exactly does it mean? It means being conscious of the choices and tradeoffs you are willing to make to get ahead. It means knowing what is important to you and what you are willing to sacrifice for added money or prestige. It means acknowledging your particular strengths and weaknesses and not trying to fit into a workplace culture that doesn’t suit your disposition. It means balancing what you have to do to earn incremental income with the personal cost. It also means making work bearable, and acknowledging when workplace stress is negatively impacting your life.

Maintaining a work-life balance takes intention and planning, but it is possible for every one of us when we set it as a priority. Even the most hard-driving people make decisions about where they draw the line. Here are a few things to think about when you are faced with work-life conflicts:

Don’t let inertia set in. If you feel stressed in a way that is affecting your mood, keeping you up at night, or causing conflict in your marriage or with other family members, then it is time to do something about it. Focus first on your relationships at work- with a boss, colleague or even an assistant — to better understand if there is underlying tension. Strained work relationships can undermine self-esteem and impede productivity, but they also increase tension at home, causing conflicts with a spouse or children. If you notice work relationships are a frequent source of conflict it’s time to address them before the problem gets worse.

Re-set priorities at different stages of life. Tradeoffs change at different stages of life, so at each major life event — marriage, children, elderly parents, illness, death of a loved one, or any traumatic event — take a pause. Ask yourself if more money or added prestige is worth missing important life events, like a Little League game or time with an aging parent? Think in terms of short- and long-range goals and responsibilities. What do you want or need to achieve today? Where do you want to be 5 years from now? Think of each decision as a tradeoff between present and future goals and personal and professional commitments.

Talk to someone. It’s vital to remember that the simple act of talking to someone can bring relief and improvement in your lifestyle and mental health. People often seek counsel because they experience symptoms of distress, but are unsure of the cause. Marital problems may be caused by work conflict and vice versa. By talking it through will you gain insight into the source of the conflict. Find someone you trust — a mentor, a counselor, friend or family member. Seek support if you feel that something is off.

Be realistic about how you manage stress. Not everyone is the same when it comes to their ability to tolerate stressful events and a demanding work environment. Some people thrive on the competition and pressure, but it’s not for everyone. Don’t feel the pressure to conform to someone else’s way of working unless you are prepared. As Socrates said: “Know thyself.”

Examine what success really means to you. Does success mean a large bank account, the acquisition of skill or expertise or being of service to others? Make sure you define success for yourself. You don’t want to look back on the sacrifices you made and ask: “Is that all there is?” Make sure that your definition of success is your own.

The bottom line? A cutthroat and bruising workplace environment is not for everyone. Know yourself. Don’t feel pressure to conform. Define what success means to you. Take a step back and evaluate your priorities. Don’t be afraid to draw a line in the sand. And whatever you do, don’t be too hard on yourself.

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How Cockroaches Became My New Self-Help Gurus

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Oh, I’m totally enlightened. But I’m having a panic attack right now, so do you mind if we talk after I don’t feel like running screaming naked down the street? You’re a doll.

The other day at therapy my shrink had the balls to say to me, “You’re reporting today. I don’t want you reporting. I want you to tell me about the cockroaches in your bed last night. Let’s talk about that.”

I really hated him for saying that (not really). But he was right. I report. I talk as if I were on social media. Look at this funny ad, my skin looks so good today, I have a freak of a dog. I do it when I’m not connected to what I’m really feeling.

I know why I can be like that. I had a very, very weird childhood. Like Addams Family weird. My mother was mentally ill. She screwed me up, and I’ve spent my entire life unscrewing myself (you get the idea). I’ve healed. I am, to overuse the word, blessed. Cue the marching band.

That’s why nowadays I’m a super positive guy because the alternative wasn’t working. Sure, I’m watering down years and years of yoga, meditation and psychotherapy, but the happy ending I’ve been searching for I’m now living. Praise Jesus!

But then there’s this bug issue.

It’s not that bugs were literally swarming over me, but that I have anxiety nightmares about them. I’ve had anxiety dreams for years. Most of the dreams are so violent they literally bolt me out of my bed and send me careening into my living room. Honestly, It’s really embarrassing. Another solid reason to remain single.

What really gets my goat is that all I do every day is connect with my friggin’ Higher Self. I take yoga classes and vitamins and breath, breath, breath, and yet after all this, I still have the occasional dream where I’m being suffocated by cockroaches. No wonder my application for Zen Priesthood was declined.

When I finally calm down afterwards, I feel like an idiot. Old feelings of depression come up. I was clinically depressed for years so I know how the old throw me under a bus oh my God I hate my life can I eat those Doritos depression feels.

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Me. When I used to eat my feelings. All of them.
And I do mean all of them.

I want to call a friend so they can tell me it’s all going to be alright, but I know calling a friend at 3:33 a.m. isn’t the smartest way to keep a thriving friendship alive. So I watch more episodes of Friends and sometimes take a teddy bear I have in my linen closet to bed with me. Don’t tell anyone.

My shrink told me next week we’re going to have to talk about the bugs. I have no idea what they really represent, but I’m guessing it’s something to do with my inability to practice what I preach, which is believing that everything is going to be alright.

I’ve studied with enough gurus (some named Skye, which is really hard for me not to make fun of) so I know that feeling anxious and depressed is the most effective way to block off what the Universe is trying to tell me. It’s like putting a muzzle over a megaphone that’s attached to my ear.

The past few years I’ve witness this wild phenomena where I ask the Universe for something, and it shows up. Literally. For years I used to think that kind of thinking was for people who dropped acid and twirled around Central Park with glow sticks in their hands. But then I realized it’s how the world works so I shut my pie hole.

So if that’s the case, what the hell’s the deal with the bugs?

I may not be able to see the truth of it right now, but I do know that my panic dreams aren’t the real me, but the old me, the younger Michael who used to have extreme anxiety disorder and suffered from depression and looked like something out of The Walking Dead. The Michael who never felt consistently loved as a boy, so he never learned to trust that things always work out.

I used to say, How could I learn to trust if my first source of trust broke my heart? I’m sick of saying that. The script is getting old. Time for a rewrite.

I’ve come a million miles from where I used to be. I’ll work past this bug thing. The key is to stop throwing things like anxiety and depression and bugs in my path.

All this insight from a bunch of cockroaches. Who knew?

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Namaste, Neurosis

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13 Pearls of Wisdom for a Successful Life

What would people advise a hypothetical 22-year-old college graduate to do with his or her life? originally appeared on Quora: The best answer to any question.

Answer by Evan Asano, Founder and CEO of Mediakix, a leading influencer marketing company. Twitter: @evanasano, on Quora:

  1. Read. Ferociously. Everything you can get your hands. Join a book club. Imbibe books about personal development, communication, achievement, biographies, leadership, success, marketing, sales, business, entrepreneurship. You’ll do many things you may regret, but you will never ever regret spending time reading. Good sources of reading lists are Quora, blogs (Google 10 best books for …), Amazon (look for recommendations in categories, popular books with high ratings).
  2. Accept uncertainty. This comes from The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams: Deepak Chopra, a must-read for getting started out. There’s uncertainty to everything; the sooner you can embrace that, the sooner you’ll be able to leverage it. “You must give up the life you have planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.” – Joseph Campbell
  3. Agree. With everything and everyone. Stop arguing, stop trying to control every scenario, stop trying to prove yourself right. You’ll never change anyone’s opinion through argument, and no one will remember if you’re right. Seek consensus. Groups, teams, and life move much better when harmonized than with discord.
  4. Be curious. There’s a vast, fantastic world out there. Foster your curiosity, and it will lead you to amazing places.
  5. Be open minded. Your opinions will change drastically on many, many things. The opinions you hold with absolute conviction may be very different in a few years. Don’t let those opinions get in the way of meeting people and experiencing things.
  6. Learn from adversity. You’ll experience challenges and adversity you can’t imagine right now. You’ll have a choice when you have these experiences, either see it as an obstacle or focus on what you can learn and how you can grow from the experience. It won’t be easy, but choose the later relentlessly, and you’ll grow in ways you can never imagine.
  7. Foster the growth mindset. Watch this: The power of belief — mindset and success
  8. Get out of your comfort zone. It sounds cliched, but it’s true. If you stay within your limits, you’ll never know what you’re capable of.
  9. Don’t hold onto the wrong things. Grudges, anger, opinions. Let them go, quickly.
  10. Travel. Get out and explore. Another thing you will never ever regret. Go to places you’d never think you’d go. Max out your vacation time every year. Take a few weeks off between jobs and travel. Save up for a year and take a few months off.
  11. Don’t wait for the right time or the right thing to say. For anything. Most of the time if you wait for the right time, you’ll be too late. Those who win in the world are the ones who speak up and take immediate action. You might say a few things you later regret, but you’ll regret not saying anything more.
  12. Don’t look for the perfect scenarios, partner, or job. Everyone sees success and wonders how Jobs and Wozniak found each other, the perfect partners. Well, it wasn’t the one-in-a-billion odds that they found each other; they made each other the perfect partners, pushed each other’s knowledge and expertise, and built Apple on their collective knowledge and energy. The vision of your career might include a high profile company or opportunity (e.g. work at Google, live in San Francisco), but don’t get hung up on these. Focus on the motivation behind that scenario rather than that goal.
  13. Provide value in the world. Money and success are common goals, but so many people often don’t achieve these in spite of there being a nearly universal goal. Money and success are important, but focus on creating value in the world first. The biggest disrupters didn’t do it because it would lead to money or fame. They did it because they wanted to change things. They saw a different future and created that. Look at Facebook. Mark Zuckerberg built a tool for Harvard students originally. It now has over 1.4 billion users! Wake up and think about what you can do to create value in the world to your friends and family, your company, your coworkers, your country.

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Going for What I Need

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When I was a pre-teenager I attended an “adults only” class in – German. The threshold was set at 16 and I was about 12, but they made an exception since they had no groups of my age and skill level. The downside was that the assignments were way over my head. I recall one paper we had to write that asked us to give our opinions about a statement of playwright Bertolt Brecht, “First the food, then the moral”. At my age, I was simply unable to ‘get it’. What was this all about? Many years later I learned that humans go through specific stages of moral development, and that some things that seem nonsensical at one age, become more relevant or meaningful sometime later in life.

What the German novelist was suggesting was that basic needs, like food, trump moral decisions. In other words, people can be ethical or fair only after they have met their basic needs. Not before.

This story was brought back to my mind by a news comment on how the California drought was causing farmers to dig deeper into the groundwater reservoirs. The reason is clear, as any farmer involved would explain: I simply need the water! If we have to dig a bit more, so be it. The crops are at stake. If we don’t water, they don’t grow. No crops, no business. No vegetables (or fruit, or wine, or raisins, or well fed cattle) to sell. No income. Consumers should see the point too. According to California law, anyone has the right to drill a well on their property and groundwater pumping is expected to replace 75 percent of the surface water deficit.

But something else is happening. With this increased sourcing of deeper groundwater, we are creating a vacuum in the deeper layers of the earth – and what happens when you take a brick out of a pile? The pile sinks. So the ground is sinking – at the scary rate of 2 inches a month in some places. This is two feet in a year.

Let me be share with you the candid question that I asked myself first: If my ground is higher or lower, what does it matter? Unless there is a sinkhole, of course. But those things don’t happen in California, only in Florida – (or do they?)

The answer came rapidly: sinking ground means that the very well sinks too. And so well owners just do what’s common sense – they dig deeper. “We are reaching into water levels that have been stored there for millions of years”, reflected Kim Hammond, a representative of Arthur and Orum Well Drilling Inc. in Fresno. It doesn’t stop there. Structures like roads and bridges also sink and break. This means that road safety is at stake, and insurance companies may take a look at this and, before going broke, review their premiums! Which may affect car owners and the trucking companies. In addition, the loss of roads will have an impact on transportation of goods, on the mobility of people, and on emergencies. Sinking grounds have exhumed pipelines that are supposed to be protected under the earth; moreover, the slope of the land can be altered, thus changing drainage patterns. Which can mean flooding. Which in turn can lead to the urgent necessity for additional money from tax payers. How much? No one knows. “No agency is tracking the sinking statewide, little public money has been put toward studying it and California allows agriculture businesses to keep crucial parts of their operations secret”, writes Nathan Halverson in Mother Jones.

And then, when the underground water sinks even a few inches upstream, it inhibits the flow downstream, making the picture even worse. Something I, as a Californian farmer, may not think of, since I am busy digging my well deeper because I need the water.

The big lesson that we are being taught is that thinking of what I need is never -ever- disconnected from considering what is best for us all. Until we learn this, we will be experiencing — and struggling to deal with — more and more systemic consequences.

You may call it moral or not. It’s simple connectedness, a law which we, self-centered as we are, cannot escape. The reason? That’s just how nature works.

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Program Yourself for Success

Constructing new ways of thinking and converting them into habits is no easy task. As a matter of fact, it’s one of the most difficult things to do, especially as you grow older and your habits are more firmly rooted.

Most of us are programmed for mediocrity. Most people are smart, educated and talented enough to be and do anything they desire. The potential is there, but it’s rarely fulfilled, which leaves many people frustrated. The truth is most of us are capable of great success, yet few achieve it.

The reason is largely one of negative programming by individuals and people in power. The majority of champions I’ve worked with and coached during the years confess the bulk of the mental programming they received during their childhoods was substandard. Many are quick to add that the people who programmed them — parents, teachers, coaches, ministers and adults of influence — were doing the best they could, based on their level of awareness at the time.

I remember meeting with my high school guidance counselor regarding my poor grades. She told me that attending college would be a waste of time. I’d never considered not going to college, and as an all-state tennis player my junior year of high school, I knew I’d be offered dozens of scholarships. I was perplexed by her negative remark, but most of all her attitude. After all, she was making a recommendation based on grades alone. She didn’t know my talent or potential. Two years later, I was enrolled in college, earning straight A’s on a scholarship.

The pastor leading our confirmation classes had never approved of me because he said I asked too many question about the Bible and should just take it on faith. I was almost kicked out of church and denied my confirmation after three years of classes.

One of my business professors in college told me how foolish it would be for anyone to start a business without major capital funding, and that we’d be better off working for someone else.

The list of unsound advice, brainwashing and poor programming goes on. You probably have as many examples of this kind of programming in your life as I do. Is it any wonder so many of us fail to obtain results? Most of us have been taking advice from well-intentioned people doling out egregious information. For the people aware of this societal phenomenon, those days are over. They want to take control of their own reprogramming process and instill the habits, philosophies, traits and beliefs that empower them.

We know our programming is our responsibility, and it need to be a reflection of the success we want to achieve. Bombarding your mind with positive messages of hope, inspiration and motivation is a starting point. Another strategy is listening only to people with uplifting ideas that move us closer to our goals. Reprogramming yourself for success, though, requires time and opposes societal norms, but it works and is worth the effort for every area of your life where performance is important.

Ask yourself this important critical thinking question: How many of your habits, actions and behaviors are congruent with becoming what you want to become? Whatever your goals, be it personal, professional or anything else, this is a must do.

Take inventory of the positive, life-affirming beliefs and habits you currently possess and make a commitment to upgrade them if necessary.

Furthermore, adjust the language you use when you talk to yourself and others. Create self-talk scripts and repeat them daily. Next, use the power of mental pictures, or visualization training, to adjust how you experience events. When you alter your language and use visualization training, it has a powerful effect on the mindset of the performer.

Most importantly, and it can’t be stressed enough, make the decision today to take responsibility for old programming that does not serve you. It changed my life immeasurably, and I’m sure it can change yours, too.

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5 Healthy Habits for the Next Digital Generation

The Internet is a mere 25 years old. Think for a minute on how far we’ve come as a society in such a short period of time. Think about how quickly connecting to the Internet has become as casual to our society as the use of electricity. If you want proof of our deep dependency on Wi-Fi, just go to the closest coffee shop, ask them to unplug the Internet for 10 minutes, and watch the panic unfold.

In many cases, our online lives have become habits. When it comes to social networking, the little things we post online have an effect on how we behave towards one another in the real world. While there are still many trolling the Internet, research finds that online trends are creating kinder, gentler users.

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Taking into consideration that we are creatures of habit, as we teach our children proper behavior in both their digital and real worlds, here are 5 healthy habits that will create a digital generation worthy of praise. What may seem like no brainers, are things we constantly have to remind ourselves of in such a fast-paced world.

Use positive, forward thinking language.

Eliminate the face-to-face aspect of communication and it becomes difficult to read the sentiment or emotion behind what people are actually trying to communicate. We are emotional creatures and respond more sensitively than we might imagine to undertones of online language. Improper judgments in communication can lead to a lot of problems. So, it needs to become a habit to use clear, positive language in our online interactions. With that it needs to become a habit to become positive thinking human beings.

Take information overload to a level of full understanding.

How many emails are you inundated with on a daily basis? How many articles do you sift through when reading the news online? How much of that intake is negative? The information we take in will translate into the way we begin to behave.

We need to make it a habit to control the amount of information we consume by practicing self and social awareness.

Watch Psychologist Sherry Turkle’s TED Talk: Connected, but alone? which asks us: “As we ask more from technology, do we expect less from each other?”

Pay attention to Emotional Intelligence.

Our emotional intelligence gives us the ability to empathize and connect. In the broad sense of social understanding, they say having strong emotional intelligence can be more important than a high IQ.

We can understand and empathize with the negative information we are taking in, but we should also make it a habit to put more focus on what is good in our world, who is good in our world, and how that good can be spread.

Take time to reflect on connection.

Not your Internet connection, your human connection.

If we take this to an existential level and ask what we are doing on this planet, many might say that we exist for each other. We exist to build beautiful and deep connections with one another. Those relationships and collaboration of ideas are what help push the growth of humanity.

So, as we are glued to our phones and devices, we need to make it a habit to recognize what they exist for. They exist to connect society to information, ideas and, at the end of the day, each other. We connect with each other by respecting each other – acknowledging faults of people and systems while choosing to extract the good out of those same people and systems. As we move forward into a spinning world of increasing data, doing so will help us keep our heads on straight.

Pay attention to the reflections of your character.

The problem with online interaction can be its lack of accountability.

Because of the nature of human life, the Internet might always have trolls. So with the existing darkness in our online social world, we need to practice habits of higher integrity in our actions. We need to turn attention to the true meaning of virtue as often as it is turned towards our digital devices.

Our behavior online affects our behavior in the real world and vice versa. Making an impact starts with small habits of positive action.

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” — Frank Outlaw

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How to Turn Your Life Around

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” — Anais Nin

I had a hard time beginning this blog yesterday because, frankly, I was in a bit of a slump. I blame it on the endless left brain edits I had to make after the completion of a lengthy right brain novel. Add to that a good dose of tedium generated by the anticipated marketing effort and a smattering of grief as I buried my latest characters, and you have the full catastrophe. If you’re an author, you get the picture. If not, just follow me into a tangled forest somewhere in the Deep South complete with dense underbrush and huge overhanging thickets of Spanish moss. Now look up; way up. Tied to the branch of an ancient live oak is a slender but sturdy vine.

Hanging in wait.

I’ve seen this vine too many times not to understand that the choice is mine. I can climb it in good faith, lean back and swing into a sunlit clearing, or I can loop it around my creative neck and yank. In other words, I can find a way to reinvent myself after the completion of every story, or I can choke on the lack of creative oxygen a more practical job would provide. Writing is a tough business.

But it isn’t the only one.

Almost anyone in any career, relationship, or life situation has seen that figurative vine. Do we use it to swing into: new city, new career, new pair of arms? Or do we set up camp in the forest and whine? Do we disable ourselves or enable ourselves? Finding a way out of stagnation isn’t easy, especially if we assume the victim role. We’ve all done it: “You have no idea how hard this is!” “Nobody understands my pain!” The truth is, at least initially, most people prefer the comfort of a familiar negative to the discomfort of a positive change, however promising.

Sometimes we just want to yank the vine.

But giving up is the easy route, at least short term. I know I’d be miserable in any other occupation, no matter how defeated I may feel in a given moment. One thing I understand by now is that action is an inescapable part of the solution. I can take action now, or I can marinate in misery for another day or another year. It’s up to me. But at some point I have to sit my butt down in front of the computer and type. At some point I have to begin a new book or a new job. No one else can do it for me. But where to begin?

First, climb the vine.

For me, any upward movement out of an inert situation involves mental preparation–or what I like to call — meditation. Performed properly, meditation is one of the finest mental and spiritual panaceas available. Think of it as a sorbet, a mental palette cleanser. Or for the technically minded — a cache scrubber. For the non-techs, cache is the part of your computer where old links, passwords, and search histories are stored. After a while, all it really does is slow the computer down and create automatic responses that, especially if we are trying to do something new, are distracting and largely irrelevant. Old cache consumes critical space that could better be used to process new information more quickly. Cleaning the cache is an essential component of computer hygiene.

The practice of meditation is an essential component of mental hygiene.

Meditation, even ten minutes a day, has the potential to clear old habits, emotional patterns, automatic responses, and fixed belief systems that drag us down and shackle us to the past. Meditation combined with the clear intention to begin anew, has the power to ignite possibility. Possibility creates probability. Meditation quiets — and with practice, silences — the nagging voice that taunts, ‘Why bother? You’ll never get anywhere anyway. You’re finished.’

As a writer, I know I will never create a new story by re-using the same material over and over again. Somehow I have to drag my mind out of the past and into conscious and purposeful movement that exists nowhere but ‘now’. It’s safe to say that the reinvention of anyone’s life must apply the same principles–clean the cache and start fresh. Climb the vine. Life is a constant invention or it’s nothing at all. And that’s the good news. So how do you turn your life around?

One blissful meditative moment at a time.

If you’re in a dead-end job, meditate first, then do one thing to move out of that job today. Create a balance sheet of assets and liabilities — what you stand to gain and what you stand to lose. The loss is generally short-term, so long-term benefits become obvious. If you’re in a dead relationship, get help. The same ‘ole same ‘ole is a waste of precious time. Sooner or later, action is required to make things right. Don’t wait. Do it now. Lay your old stories to rest and breathe a lungful of invigorating fresh air. All things are truly possible. Believe it.

Guided meditations can get us started, but as we gain confidence in the process, we are most productive left alone in our own ‘inner rooms’. Close your eyes, place yourself in Divine Presence, and gently release intruding thoughts, one by one. With practice, you will gain more control over negative thoughts, and more peace and clarity with which to swing into new territory.

Slumps are temporary situations and should never be misconstrued as a way of life. We are not meant to waste our days in darkness. Life is a sacrament, and we its offering. What we must leave on its altar is an intentional life of purpose, nothing less.

Begin your new life now.

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Finding Joy in Discipline

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by Susi Amendola

SCENERIO ONE: My alarm goes off and I hit the snooze and sigh “6am already? Why can’t I just forget yoga for today? I can handle my day without it. What I really want is more sleep.” The alarm goes off again and I decide to sleep in. Yoga practice will just have to wait.

SCENERIO TWO: I wake up to the sound of soft chimes on my smartphone at 6am. I start with my intention for the day. “I want to bring more compassion and understanding to myself and others.” I say it a few times and then let it fill my heart as if it were already so. I remember how challenging the day can be when I’m not prepared internally or when I start the day out of sorts. I recall how aligned and centered I feel when I do my morning yoga practice. I make my way to my yoga mat and take three deep slow breaths as I prepare to practice.

Meeting myself at my yoga mat at 6 a.m. can be a battle or a joy depending on my own state of mind. Struggling to practice something that is good for me can be stressful unless I embrace the struggle and see the value in it.

What does it take to ignite the fire within us without igniting resistance?

As yoga practitioners, we understand the value of creating and maintaining positive habits. It requires a fair amount of discipline. For some the word discipline sounds punishing and invokes a sense of resistance, but interestingly enough the act of discipline involves igniting inspiration as a way to move towards something that has a positive outcome.

When we challenge ourselves to do something that is a little out of our comfort zone, we are encouraging ourselves to “rise up.” We ignite our inner fire that fuels discipline.

Think about the times that you had to do something that required you to act out of your “comfort zone.” Often, it’s hard at the beginning, but when you dive in, you end up feeling a sense of inspiration and joy.

I remember hearing stories of the great depression. My parents and grandparents talked about what it was like in the “good ole days” as if it was a happy time. They would talk about overcoming great obstacles with a glisten in their eyes and joy in their hearts. How can it be that struggle creates joy? It’s because it calls us to be brave, have courage, and be strong in the face of adversity. We begin to create space for our biggest selves to emerge. Finding our strength fills us with a sense of accomplishment and joy.

Finding Your Edge in Yoga

In our Yoga practice, we look for that edge of comfort/discomfort and we soften into it. We learn to lean into discomfort as training for when life presents us with challenges. We begin to get comfortable amidst life’s ups and downs.

Rather than waiting for difficult times to practice getting comfortable with discomfort, we can begin now to train ourselves with even the small challenges in our everyday lives.

How to Create Joyful Challenges for Yourself Everyday

During Exercise

  • Try something new. Break out of your routines and go dancing, take a different route when you walk, get on a bike, do some water walking, lift some weights.
  • Park further away than you usually do when shopping or going to appointments. When we park our car a little further away, we challenge ourselves just a little.
  • Turn the heat down just a couple degrees so you have to move more to stay warm.

With Nutrition

  • Try new foods; pick up something new and different each week.
  • Challenge yourself not to eat the same thing twice in a week. See if you can eat more widely.
  • Eat a little less and see what you notice if you stop before you are full.

Yoga Practice

  • Practice staying longer in postures or meditation
  • Try a pose that you normally wouldn’t do
  • Wake up earlier to start your yoga practice

In Relationships

  • Listen with compassion to someone who may be suffering
  • Allow others to support you even if you don’t feel comfortable accepting support
  • Take a risk and share your feelings with someone you love

When we challenge ourselves just a little we experience small victories that allow us to reclaim our strength, flexibility, and tolerance. We have the choice in each moment to lean into our discomforts as a way to polish ourselves so we can make difficult transitions with ease and grace. Or we can hit the snooze button.

How do you inspire new habits that take you to a new level of health and well-being?

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How A Former Shy Girl Became A Confident Career Coach

Dear readers,

Welcome! I’m a self-employed career and business coach who helps introverts clarify and thrive in their true livelihood so they can have the meaning and balance they crave. I love my work, and I can’t wait to start getting your questions for this career and business advice column for introverts.

Let’s start off this relationship with me confiding in you.

My shy girl past

I was painfully shy all through my school years. I loved to escape by reading and climbing trees. Up in a tree, I could relax and watch people, but they couldn’t see me.

When I was little, people could barely hear me speak—if I could get any words out at all. The more people demanded I speak up, the worse I felt about myself, and the more I wanted to hide and stay silent.

I grew up in a loud and extroverted family, and I didn’t understand why I felt so out of sync. I craved quiet. I almost craved invisibility as well. One time, I crawled into a refrigerator box on the patio and happily read there for hours. I was delighted that no one could find me!

And yet, I also hated invisibility. I wanted to be noticed, to be heard! I had questions to ask. I had plenty of ideas and opinions. I just had trouble saying them out loud.

I was also highly sensitive—easily rattled by noise, light, speed, heights, and, well, people. (It wasn’t until I was an adult that I discovered what “high sensitivity” was and how to work with it instead of against it.) Turns out, it often correlates with introversion.

As a result of my sensitivity and external stressors, I suffered from a lot of anxiety. I didn’t know this then; to me, swirling thoughts, stomachaches, and fear of speaking (at all) was my normal state of being.

Throughout school, I was obsessed with getting good grades, probably as a way to not rock the boat and remain invisible. But when my 11th grade English teacher assigned an oral report, I panicked! I approached the teacher after class to see if she would just give me an F so I wouldn’t have to do it. An F for me was a horrifying thought, but speaking in front of the class was worse.

She refused, and I lived with a stomachache and panicky thoughts for two weeks. At last, I eked out a passable report. I think the pounding of my heart must have been louder than my trembling quiet voice. It felt like a miracle that I survived the experience.

(My heart goes out to kids in the same situation today. Luckily, teachers are getting more information about how to help.)

Speaking got easier in college. I didn’t “grow out of shyness” as people often assume will happen; rather, I finally tuned into my passions. The more interested I was, the less I noticed my fear.

Still, I dreaded giving oral reports, and I was one of the quieter students in class. I was driven by passions, but I still wasn’t confident.

My winding career journey

After college, I wanted to save the world, and I thought teaching was the perfect outlet. Despite my fears, I took a job as a health educator.

With the help of on-the-job training and a pre-set curriculum, my speaking anxiety gradually went away! My confidence was growing. Looking back, I now understand that passion (along with support) can trump fear. That lesson has shaped my work.

Even though I had more ease and confidence with public speaking, I still found it exhausting. After far too many days ended with my head on my desk and me in tears, I quit my job without another one lined up. I quickly went through my small savings and had to get help.

I went to a career coach, who helped me understand why my last job wasn’t a good fit. What a relief it was to learn I wasn’t a freak! There was nothing wrong with me, nothing to fix—I was simply an introvert and needed to focus on my strengths.

After that turning point, I tried various roles over the years, including human resources management and web marketing. I chose work that allowed more alone time to think, and I still found ways to have a say in groups. I found my own leadership style, and my confidence grew.

Still, I had a sense that work could be more fulfilling. With much soul searching and professional career guidance, I discovered that I was happiest when using my coaching skills, and I decided that coaching was the best fit for me.

My long-term dream of self-employment started to come into focus as I imagined being a coach. I was ready to spread my wings even wider.

But are introverts good at being self-employed?

At first, I was nervous about whether I could handle things like promoting and growing a business, which are typically associated with extroversion. I simply couldn’t bring myself to promote my business in the standard extroverted way.

To my surprise, the more I did things my own way, that was aligned with me, the better things went! People were drawn to my events and services, probably because of my authenticity and non-salesy approach. My business grew.

Turns out introverts can be great at the so-called extrovert territories of leadership, self-employment, and self-promotion—if they do it their own way.

I discovered I could just show up at a networking event, without perfect words, and simply engage in meaningful conversations. No sales pitch in hand. I was just myself. No extrovert mask. No race to collect stacks of business cards.

The more I took steps that aligned with my heart and my nature, the more excited and fulfilled I felt. My work energized me. People commented that I was glowing. And that glow helped attract more clients. Being true to myself paid off. It felt like a gift from heaven.

Who I am today

People who know me today are surprised to hear that I used to be extremely shy. In fact, sometimes they don’t understand that I’m still introverted, but I am. I’m confident, and I enjoy socializing, but it has to be on my terms. I still value my alone time, when I can slow down, breathe, and listen to what my heart tells me.

Introduction to this advice column

I’m not about doling out directions such as “you should do X because I said so.” I want to help you find and do what is true for you. I can detect where things are getting off track and help nudge you back into your true path.

Above all, I want you to understand that you can earn a living and be true to yourself. I’m challenging that outdated cultural norm that says we have to become extroverted to succeed. That’s what the Quiet Revolution is about, and I’m on board.

Career or business worries? Want to know how to say something at work? Want to figure out how marketing or networking can work best for you? Send your questions to Val Nelson!

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How Can We Get Our Partners to Do What We Want?

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One of my friends believes that his wife should have more photos of him on her social media site, and he feels bad about it. His mistake is in thinking that those two things are connected — her action and his feeling — because attaching a feeling to a should doesn’t get us what we want.

Shoulding on our partners will not fill our needs. So these statements won’t help: “You should come home when you say you will!” “You should stop spending all our money!” “You should pay attention to what I say!” “You should treat me better!”

Should-statements don’t work. They do provide important clues about our needs and expectations though. Problems begin when we make our needs someone else’s responsibility and then believe we have the right to get angry about it.

Our anger indicates an action for us to take, not someone else.

In a recent article on how to get what we want from people, I wrote that we train everyone in our lives how to treat us, through our response to what they do. So changing our partner’s behavior begins with changing our own.

Here’s how it goes: We have a need – but instead of taking care of it ourselves, we hold our partners responsible for filling it. What begins as an expectation turns into a should, and then becomes a demand. When our partners don’t respond the way we want, we feel desperate. Then we choose anger, to manipulate them. It doesn’t work. So then we grab a missile out of our black bag.

What’s a black bag? That’s where we’ve been storing information about our partners. It includes whatever words they’ve told us that they “just can’t stand,” whatever actions they’ve said that they “won’t tolerate,” secrets that no one else knows about them, and especially anything they’ve ever told us that they don’t like about us. All of that has been stored for future use, in case we dislike our partners’ behavior and want to fire a missile at them.

Of course, our partners also have black bags by now, and they’ll probably return the fire. Matching missile for missile may provide some dysfunctional satisfaction because at least we’re both paying attention. But the result is that no one’s need is met.

What will work better? Creating conditions and perspectives that support success!

• Discuss issues when they’re not heated. Make criticizing, complaining and blaming off limits. And avoid saying always, never or you.

• State the need: “This is what I’m requesting.” And explain why it’s important to you.

• Also find out what your partner needs. Listen for keywords and ask open questions.

• Agreeing to disagree won’t be enough, so find a solution that works for both of you.

• Hug it out and say, “Thank you!”

All of this is about focusing on what is going well so that what is not can transform – because focusing on solutions depowers problems. And when being solution-oriented becomes second nature, answers begin showing up even before the problems do.

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One Rule to Know Before You Break All the Rules

This article was originally published on riskology.co

I’ve always been an early riser, but I’m not what you would call a morning person. I like the peace and serenity that comes with a sun rise when no one else is awake. I like knowing that when I wake up, I’m guaranteed a hot shower. Lately, I’ve noticed I like getting my daily exercise done early so that it’s out of the way and I can focus on other things for the rest of the day.

Until just a few months ago, I had a day job in the construction industry. Getting up early in that line of work is a prerequisite. On my first day, I was issued an official alarm clock and coffee grinder. If you’re not an early riser, you’re going to become one.

Apparently, I missed a memo, because early mornings at the office aren’t usually spent enjoying the sunrise or improving your health. They’re spent sweating bullets trying to finish work that was neglected yesterday or put out fires that someone else started.

Not exactly my cup of tea, so to speak. I like mornings, but I like them on my own terms.

The Indoctrination

I’m sure you’ve had the misfortune at some point in life of trying to reconcile what you wanted to do with what you thought you had to do. This is exactly the situation I found myself in and it was thoroughly problematic. All these rules that someone else made and I had to follow.

When I was new, I just tried to fit in and do what everyone else was doing. “That’s just how it is,” they said. You show up at 7:00 every morning and leave at 5:00 every evening. It had to be for a reason, right? Besides, I was on an prosperous career track. If I could just get used to this schedule, spending the first hours of every day pulling my hair out in what felt like a incoherent stupor, there’d be years of financial good fortune ahead of me.

This is the part where I state loudly and quite firmly, “Wrong!”

I was fresh to the professional world and wet behind the ears, but it didn’t take too long to figure out why we had this 7:00 to 5:00 rule. Of course, I’ve always been aware that most companies keep set working hours, I just wasn’t always sure why.

Turns out, they had a pretty good reason. Know what it is?

Most employees (in any industry) are completely mediocre and mediocre employees demand (yes, demand!) rules that tell them how to behave.

Setting a schedule that says you show up at 7:00 and leave at 5:00 is an easy way to ensure that average people are at work for an average of 10 hours a day and, if the averages play out, a few of them are productive.

Now, I enjoy sitting around and being unproductive just as much as the next guy, but its not a hobby I care for at work. I like to reserve that kind of activity for weekends and downtime after I feel like I’ve really accomplished something.

At the same time, though, who can kick ass for 10 straight hours? I’m trying, you know, but my bionic brain is still on back order. I felt forced into a position where I either had to completely drain myself every day or adopt this law of averages that just felt wrong.

There’s good news, though. If this is how you feel too, and you’re willing to work a little smarter, you can start making your own rules about your schedule, or about anything at work or in life for that matter.

A Little “Experiment” With Rules

When I realized what kind of system I was in, I knew right away that I wanted out, but I liked my paycheck and I wasn’t really interested in trying to change an entire corporation’s policy.

I’d gotten a lot of praise for the work I’d been doing and it seemed like everyone was really happy with my results, so I decided to do a little test — I quit showing up at 7:00. Yep. I just quit going to work on time. I didn’t do it all at once, and I didn’t just start showing up after lunch, but slowly and surely I started coming to work later and later and doing it more frequently.

And you know what happened? Absolutely nothing! No one even noticed.

You can probably do it too (even though I can hear you saying in your head that it would never work at your job).

Sure, there are some jobs where this kind of stunt won’t work. If you work on an assembly line and all the pieces pile up at your station and break the machine because you’re not there on time, you’re probably out of luck.

But there are far more jobs where it will work. If you’re reading this article between the hours of 7:00 am and 5:00 pm at your desk, then yes, I believe you can do it.

The Secret Formula for Changing the Rules

There’s a catch, though. Are you surprised? There always is, isn’t there?

Remember what I said about average employees needing rules to tell them how to behave? You can’t be one of those average employees and expect to pull this off.

Thankfully, it really doesn’t take much to excel above “average.” If you can grasp this concept (it’s the most important one there is to beating “average”) then you’re well on your way to a much happier workplace:

Success is measured in output of value, not input of effort.

A lot of people think that if they put in the hours, they’ll be noticed and recognized for their effort. It isn’t true. Unfortunately, no one cares how long it took you to complete a job or finish a proposal, or do anything else, really. What they care about is that it got done, it worked, and it worked well.

In fact, the only time anyone is going to care how long it took to do something is when it took too long. And that’s not something you want to be recognized for.

Once you have a real understanding of this concept, you can start using simple productivity tricks to abandon the standard corporate work formula that looks something like this:

(1 hr. of half ass work) + (1 hr. of surfing the net) + (30 min. of frantic work to meet a deadline) = 1 happy boss/customer/client

and substitute it for a much nicer formula that looks like this:

(1 hr. of focused productivity) = 1 really, really happy boss/customer/client

Get it done. Make it work. Make it work well. Consistently nail those 3 things, and you can start changing any rules you want to.

Action is a Revolutionary Act

It’s pretty easy to see how fast you can get ahead when you embrace the reality that people appreciate effort, but they expect results. The funny thing is that this is not a revolutionary concept. When you read it, your first reaction was probably, “Duh!” This is something that everyone, on some level, understands.

But actually implementing it is a revolutionary act. There’s a huge disconnect between those that understand the concept of results over effort and those that actually live by it.

It isn’t easy to do. Most people have been trained their whole lives to do exactly the opposite. They’re even programmed to try to put a stop to it when you decide to do it. But resisting the urge to fit in is exactly what makes you stand out.

If you want to change the rules in another man’s game, you must make yourself an indispensable asset to him. Once you accomplish that, you’re free to make the rules as you see fit and what seems like dangerous behavior to many is, in fact, more empowering to you.

The real danger in this idea comes once you realize you’re tired of playing another’s game. Not a danger to you, but a danger to them. But that’s an article for another day.

Now, over to you. What are your tactics for changing the rules in someone else’s game?

Tyler Tervooren founded Riskology.co, where he shares research and insights about mastering your psychology by taking smarter risks. For more, join his Smart Riskologist Newsletter.

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Why Confidence Is Quiet and Insecurity Is Loud

Sweet revenge. The need to get back at someone and make them pay … because they caused you pain and deserve to feel the same way. Right?

I get it. Been there. Done that. Struggling at this present moment with it, actually. Maybe like you, with certain people in my life, I battle mind and soul with the challenge of taking the high road.

First, let’s look at why we want revenge.

It’s natural. Positioning oneself to fight back is a human response to being wronged. We feel a gut-jerk reaction that makes us want to sneak in an extra man, yank that ball away from the opponent and even the score.

We’ve all struggled with that puffing vengeful lineman – that smoking little devil on our shoulder – who tries to convince us that we are ENTITLED to revenge. An eye for an eye. We want justice. But could there be a wiser way to get there?

When we just want to scream back at the person who seems to be torturing us, is loud retaliation really what makes things fair? And is it really up to us?

I think time teaches us a thing or two about revenge.

As we age, I believe most of us look back and see things more clearly. We might begin to realize that most of those times we have tried to yell back, throw an emotional punch and ‘even the score,’ we didn’t actually feel better in the end.

Maybe we struck back immediately, later feeling like a fool ourselves, realizing there was more to the story. We should have taken a step back and looked at the bigger picture.

Perhaps in hindsight, we saw that we acted much unlike ourselves, lowering our values, being blinded by anger and revenge. We were later embarrassed that we had been reactive instead of reasonable.

Maybe posting hurtful words on social media or shaming that person in front of a friend brought you a blip of validation in the moment. But you might have felt very different when you looked back through the following week’s lenses with a new understanding of the situation. Maybe you wonder if you actually look more foolish than they? It happens to the best of us.

Truth is, looking back, we usually see that we weren’t rewarded with the satisfaction we were seeking.

And we didn’t really feel that great about the high fives we got from the fans in our cheering section when our opponent was left injured on the field. We were left staring at the scattered confetti on the grass, feeling blisters inside our cleats, wishing we weren’t playing in the game at all.

We might even feel worse than before, wishing that we had not let our need for revenge hijack our normally compassionate hearts. Perhaps we have taught ourselves (on our good days) to be open, mindful, even meditative, yet . . . we are only human and we lose our best selves sometimes. Especially when we’ve been hurt.

There could be a certain person that has our number. We allow him or her to dismember that inner strength inside of us again and again – and we often later regret engaging with them in the same back-and-forth, time after time, without really getting anywhere at all. Why do we keep doing that? We get caught up in trying to correct who they are by yelling back, trying to change a mind that is not ours to change.

We keep thinking we actually can convince the other person that we are right if we just say it louder, or in another language, or through another method of attack.

Then we live a few more years and begin to understand that we really have no control over how other people think, believe or act. Increasing the volume on our rebuttal merely exhausts us . . . not them.
We learn that getting loud with retaliation does not make that other person see things our way. Nope. It actually validates that we are more like them – noisy, insecure and low-minded.

That’s not the goal our souls are aiming for – not if we are seeking a higher consciousness, peace and happiness, that is.

Here is what I want you to digest before you react again: Another person’s bad behaviors are about THEM, not about YOU.

They are about insecurities, beliefs and a history inside of them that are beyond your control.

What you need to know about your own behaviors:

Confidence is QUIET. Insecurity is LOUD.

Which message do you want to give?

You have to make this decision: Am I going to respond LOUDLY, fighting on the field? Or am I going to react QUIETLY, stepping confidently to the side?

By turning in an unexpected direction and coolly pulling yourself from the game, you choose to take your heart out of the firing range.

You raise the vibration of your soul. Your heart breathes a sigh of relief.

You confidently refuse to take on the other person’s issues as your own.

You do not engage as an opponent.

You choose your way back to sanity and away from trying to correct someone else’s actions . . . again (because you CAN’T).

So, it’s up to you. You might be staring down someone else’s facemask at this very moment, or get called onto your opponent’s field tomorrow. What are you going to do?

Are your steps going to move LOUDLY toward conflict or QUIETLY away from it? The way I see it, if you try to hurt them right back, that only makes you just like them.

Stand up.

Turn around.

Exit the field.

Let your quiet confidence speak the loudest about who you really are. Your soul’s crowd will go wild.

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24 Hours — It’s Not As Long As You Think

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A few times a year, something magical happens in my world. I find myself in possession of something akin to the Holy Grail — 24 hours without any plans. When I realize that one of these days is on the horizon, it captures my full attention, and I go to extreme lengths to protect it. And then I start to fantasize about all of the wonderful things I’m going to do with this precious, empty day. The adventures I’m going to have, the radical self-care I’m going to partake in, the trombone practice, the photography expedition, and as sad as it is, I’ve even fantasized about using some of these days to finally catch up on work. My expectations start to soar, and more often than not I find myself starting to stress about how I’m going to fit it all in.

I’ve been doing a lot of mindfulness work lately, in particular trying to play the role of “curious observer” to my thoughts and behaviors. It was through this curious observation that I came to a shocking realization this week.

Things take time.

Quite a lot of time, actually. And no matter how much we try to multitask (which is not only counterproductive but may even be damaging to our brains), or use the latest “productivity hack” to expand it, time isn’t going to change to meet the demands of our busy schedule.

It’s no secret that those demands have grown, seemingly exponentially, during our lifetimes. While a lot of progress has been made on the convenience and efficiency fronts, the expectations about what we do with all that saved time have escalated out of control. Some of those expectations we place on each other (we’ve all got our “thing”, and we all want our friends and family to come watch/play/do it with us), but most of them come from within. We expect from ourselves nothing less than the perfect body, perfect relationship, perfect career, perfect home… and the list goes on. But guess what?

Mastery takes time.

10,000 hours of deliberate practice to be exact, according to Malcolm Gladwell in the bestselling book Outliers. And even that won’t get you there if you’re not starting with some key talent or genetic qualities. But let’s consider that for a moment — 10,000 hours. If you were to spend two hours per day of deliberate practice on just one of those things (which is pretty ambitious for most of us), every single day, it would take about 13 years and 8 months to achieve mastery (which is as close to perfection as any of us can hope for).

Knowing this rule of thumb arms us with information to help reshape the expectations we place on ourselves. Namely:

  1. Pick a thing to be the thing you’re really, really good at. Maybe two. But no more than that, because if you do, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
  2. For those one or two things, calculate where you’re at on your journey to mastery using the 10,000 hour rule, and reset your expectations for achieving mastery based on the amount of time you are willing to commit in the future.
  3. For all of the other things you used to aspire to perfection in, create a new expectation that is more realistic based on the amount of time you are willing to commit to it.
  4. Next time you notice yourself stressing about being too busy, look at your schedule objectively and be honest with yourself about where you’re placing expectations on yourself that you could ease up on. If you think everything is being imposed on you by others, think again. We often tell ourselves this to avoid taking responsibility for our own experience.

Incidentally, today was one of those days for me — magically uncluttered by commitments. What did I do? A yoga class, a hike with my dog followed by giving her a bath, some laundry, took a nap, ate delicious, simple, healthy food, and wrote this post. Maybe half of what I had wanted to do. But I’ve been reminding myself all day that time is what it is, and I did the things that were most important to me first. It’s not easy, but I’m starting to accept that time is a more powerful force than I will ever be, and I can spend my life fighting it or get more realistic and work with it.

How would you describe your relationship with time? And how could you improve it? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

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What Mindfulness App Is Right for You?

How do you choose from the hundreds of mindfulness apps out there? There are over 500 mindfulness apps available, but some are better than others.

A new study published in the Journal of Medical Internet Research sorted through hundreds of mindfulness mobile apps and ranked 23 of them. Now it’ll be a little bit easier to find one that works for you.

Mindfulness based programs in person have been found to be effective for reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. Jon Kabat-Zinn, the creator of the structured 8-week course Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), defines mindfulness as “paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally to the unfolding of experience moment by moment.”

However, it’s unclear if you can reap the same benefits of mindfulness programs with mobile apps. There is only one scientific study on the effectiveness of a mindfulness app (Headspace app). Users who tried the Headspace app for 10 days showed improvement in mood and fewer symptoms of depression.

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We rely on our smartphones more and more (25% of page views currently come from mobile devices), so it helps to figure out what apps are right for your needs. The new study ranks 23 mindfulness mobile apps using a standardized tool designed for mobile health apps called the Mobile Application Rating Scale (MARS), which rates aspects like ease of use, look, and overall satisfaction.

Here are the top 4 mindfulness apps based on the study (ratings are out of 5 = excellent):

  1. Headspace (Overall Rating 4.0)
  2. Smiling Mind (Overall Rating 3.7)
  3. iMindfulness (Overall Rating 3.5)
  4. Mindfulness Daily (Overall Rating 3.5)

The lowest rated app was Mindfulness Trainer (Overall Rating 2.6).

Check out the table below summarizing the rankings and app features to see what will work best for you.

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What did the apps include?

Most of the apps included breathing exercises and body scans. Here’s a sampling of the types of exercises in the apps:

  • Breath awareness: Bring attention to each breath
  • Body scan: Bring attention to body parts, from the toes and up towards the head
  • Sitting meditation: Meditate in a seated posture
  • Walking meditation: Walk with attention and careful pacing
  • Loving kindness (Metta) meditation: Send love and kindness to oneself and others
  • Passing thoughts and emotions: Notice and let go thoughts and feelings
  • Mountain meditation: Imagine yourself as a mountain
  • Lake meditation: Imagine yourself as a lake
  • Three-minute breathing: Be aware (1 minute), focus attention (one minute), and grow attention (one minute)

Most of the apps had two or more of these exercises.

What app features best fit your personality?

Likes to Level Up. If you’re someone who likes to complete levels and move on, then consider apps with step-by-step programs:

  • Headspace (Free 10 day program with 10 minute guided meditations)
  • Smiling Mind (10 weeks based on age group)
  • Mindfulness Daily (21 day mindfulness exercises)
  • Simply8 (3 weeks with 8 guided meditation based on themes)
  • Meditation without Borders (4 weeks with guided meditation 20 minutes daily)

Loves Social Media. If being connected to social media motivates you, try apps that allow you to share your experience on Facebook and Twitter like: Headspace, Meditacious, Meditation without Borders, Mindfully Me, Mindfulness Daily, Rhythm Free, Simply8, Smiling Mind, Stop, Breathe & Think, Take A Chill, The Meditation App with Michael Stone, and The Mindfulness App.

Reader. If you like to learn information by reading, try ACT Coach or Complete Mindfulness. Both contain detailed in-app texts on mindfulness.

Visual Learner. If you prefer not to read as much, try Headspace, which delivers information about mindfulness in the form of videos and infographics.

In Touch With Emotions. If you like to track how you’re feeling, these three mindfulness apps include ways to track your mood: Smiling Mind, Mindfulness Daily, and Stop, Breathe and Think.

Likes to change it up for the occasion. If you want different meditations for when you’re at the gym, sleeping, or on work breaks, try Buddhify 2 or Meditation Oasis (an app which was not reviewed in the study). They offer guided meditations and themed exercises based on your situation.

Designer with a good eye. If you’re sensitive to aesthetics, try Headspace or Smiling Mind. These two apps ranked highest in the aesthetics category.

Beginner. For those new to mindfulness, start with the top 4 apps from the recent study. And don’t give up if the first app you download doesn’t seem to work for you. You might need a different voice or interface.

Every app uses varying voices, work flow styles, and types of guided meditation, so try a variety of apps to see what sticks. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you feel drawn to practice everyday.

Connect with Dr. Wei on marlynnweimd.com/ Facebook / Twitter / Yoga Health
Dr. Wei is the upcoming co-author of The Harvard Medical School Guide to Yoga

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What Every Successful Person Knows, But Never Says

Ira Glass is the host and executive producer of the popular National Public Radio show, This American Life.

Each week, This American Life is broadcast to more than 1.7 million listeners across 500 different radio stations. For Glass, who is featured in almost every episode, the show has led to a wide range of opportunities including book deals, feature films, and appearances on popular television shows.

Of course, it wasn’t always that way.

What Every Successful Person Knows, But Never Says

Glass started out at NPR as a 19-year-old intern. The next decade was filled with a lot of hard work and very little payoff as he worked as a reporter.

Fifteen years into his career, Glass finally began co-hosting his first show, which was called The Wild Room. The show was his idea, but Glass would later describe it by saying “one show would be horrible and two shows would be decent.” The Wild Room aired during a particularly unpopular Friday evening slot and in Glass’ words “it deserved its time slot.”

After struggling through two years of The Wild Room, Glass finally pitched the idea for This American Life and received meager funding to get it started. Over 15 years and millions of listeners later, the rest is history.

But here’s the part that I find really interesting.

Check out how Ira Glass describes his long struggle to create something noteworthy:

From Ira Glass:

Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, and I really wish somebody had told this to me.

All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But it’s like there is this gap. For the first couple years that you’re making stuff, what you’re making isn’t so good. It’s not that great. It’s trying to be good, it has ambition to be good, but it’s not that good.

But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is good enough that you can tell that what you’re making is kind of a disappointment to you. A lot of people never get past that phase. They quit.

Everybody I know who does interesting, creative work they went through years where they had really good taste and they could tell that what they were making wasn’t as good as they wanted it to be. They knew it fell short. Everybody goes through that.

And if you are just starting out or if you are still in this phase, you gotta know its normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Do a huge volume of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week or every month you know you’re going to finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you’re going to catch up and close that gap. And the work you’re making will be as good as your ambitions.

I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It takes awhile. It’s gonna take you a while. It’s normal to take a while. You just have to fight your way through that.
–Ira Glass

If you’d like to hear Glass say it himself, listen to the audio clip below.

The Thing That Got You Into The Game

We all have reasons for being pulled to the things we love.

When he was just a 19-year-old intern, Ira Glass had a taste for journalism and storytelling. He knew what good journalism looked like when it was done well. But it took him 17 years of work before he could start to do it well himself. And, as he says above, that was frustrating.

I think you and I face a similar type of battle.

  • Spend a year or two in the gym and you’ll start to recognize good technique, even if your own could use some work. This is something I’m struggling with right now. I know a great clean and jerk when I see one, but when I grab hold of the bar it’s still hard for me to pull it off.
  • Start writing consistently and you’ll begin to take notice when you read great work. But good luck trying to produce your own brilliant words. In the beginning, it can be difficult just to get something on the page. And even when you can hammer out sentences, young writers quickly learn that all words aren’t created equal. Even with consistent writing each week, I still feel like I fail to produce something of note.
  • Watch a dozen TED Talks and you’ll be able to point out what you like and don’t like about certain presenters, but jump up on stage yourself and the difficulty of captivating an audience — even for a minute or two — becomes quite apparent.

And so it goes for virtually any skill. There is always a gap between being an apprentice and being a craftsman. The apprentice has the taste, but not the skill. The craftsman has the taste and the skill.

It’s easier to recognize beauty than it is to create it. You’re good enough to know that what you’re doing isn’t good, but not good enough to produce something great. When you find yourself in this frustrating limbo, the challenge is to never forget what got you there in the first place. Remember that thing that got you into the game.

Your love. Your passion. Your taste. That’s the reason you’re here. You still belong, even if you don’t feel like it right now. Your taste can be killer even if your ability is questionable.

Commit to the process and you’ll become good enough, soon enough. Put in a volume of work. Close the gap.

What to Do Next

Developing skills that are as good as your taste comes down to habits. The ability to “fight your way through” as Glass says, hinges on your consistency to show up and do the work. Can you build the habits required to make small improvements day after day?

I don’t claim to have all the answers, but my hope is that I can help a little bit. I’ve spent the last year writing and researching the science of habit formation. Much of what I have learned (including strategies for becoming more consistent and improving your performance) is covered in my free 46-page guide called Transform Your Habits. It’s available for free to anyone who subscribes to my weekly newsletter.

If you haven’t already read it, you can download a copy here.

James Clear writes at JamesClear.com, where he shares science-based ideas for living a better life and building habits that stick. To get strategies for boosting your mental and physical performance by 10x, join his free newsletter.

This article was originally published on JamesClear.com.

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Wheelchair Wisdom: To Thine Own Self Be True

If I were given the opportunity to present a gift to the next generation,
it would be the ability for each individual to laugh at himself.
— Charles M. Schultz

Socrates said, “Know thyself.” In Shakespeare’s Hamlet, Polonius cautions, “To thine own self be true.” But what self are we getting to know? To what self should we be true? Where is the self located anyway? On second thought, which self is reading these words?

These questions pondered by playwrights, philosophers, and other serious thinkers–if answers could be worked out through mathematical calculations, mathematicians and scientists would be the most enlightened people on planet. But the self continues to elude the greatest thinkers of our age.

What I know is, there seem to be two voices.

The first voice–the false self–judges and criticizes: “I’m not good/rich/thin/smart enough,” or “Now that I’m in a wheelchair, I have to prove myself,” or “I am now unlovable.”

Our humanity comprises only a small part of the rich experience available to us as total beings. As human beings, we all put a great deal of effort into trying to be who we think we are supposed to be; this is the false self.

The false self is also called the personality or ego. Some aspects of it are inherited; others are developed through experimentation with families, friends, and the culture we live in–our education and our religious upbringing. Though aspects of the personality may change over a lifetime, the false self tends to become frozen and rigid, full of regret and resentment over missed opportunities.

The need to control is probably the most prominent characteristic of the false self.

It is from here that many characteristics spring, because the need to control often runs our lives. This is ironic, considering that we have so little control over reality and what happens in the world around us.

The need to control inevitably leads to frustration and disappointment.

The false self’s characteristic need to control sends it on a search for power from external sources. We have to seek outside ourselves for something that makes us feel good.

We are constantly looking for that event, that nod of approval, that recognition that will make us feel more secure. This constant search for approval is evidence of the false self’s insatiable need for recognition by any means, even negative ones.

Even when the false self is able to break out of a rut, it usually jumps into another one. A new marriage may repeat the patterns that doomed the previous ones. Giving up smoking often leads to overeating.

WHAT ARE SOME ASPECTS OF THE FALSE SELF?

  • • Needs to be right, make others wrong
  • • Needs to control and dominate; runs life
  • • Searches for power from external sources
  • • Seeks outside ourselves for something that makes us feel good
  • • Has an insatiable need for approval and constant recognition
  • • Has a tendency to judge self/others, makes irrational comparisons
  • • Is full of regret, disappointment and resentment over missed opportunities
  • • Tends to become frozen and rigid

WHAT ARE SOME NEGATIVE BELIEFS/FEELINGS OF THE FALSE SELF?

  • Being in a wheelchair, I am powerless, helpless and invisible
  • • I can’t do it myself
  • • I’m all alone
  • • I have lost my sensuality
  • • Others do not want the burden of being my friend

As stated earlier, the false self functions in the realm of personality and the ego. In this realm, we identify with what we look like, what we do for a living, how much money we have. The false self is like a spoiled, jealous child–always wanting to be number one.

It wants you to believe that you are your body.

Contrary to what your false self will let you believe, you are perfect the way you are. Rather than feeling inadequate when you see that someone else has more worldly or physical success than you, ask yourself why you can’t accept yourself the way you are.

Ask yourself what would happen if you shifted your perspective? Instead of seeing yourself as a stressed out human being grasping for enlightenment, for some kind of spiritual experience, think of yourself–as Pierre Teilhard de Chardin so eloquently put it–“as a spiritual being having a human experience.”

Is there a way out? Yes, but not through the false self. When we live in the false self, our lives are narrow, confined, and repetitious. Another notable characteristic of the false self is its tendency to judge. Judging others feels good in the short term, at least. It gives us a momentary sense of superiority and strength over those we are judging.

We also use judgment to put ourselves down. We may spend an unnecessary amount of time comparing ourselves to others, and when we find that they have things we don’t have, we beat ourselves up. We may tell ourselves we need to improve, which sounds very well intentioned, but is really a subtle form of self-judgment.

The true self–the second voice–is our true guide, supporting and acknowledging: “I am healthy, resilient, intuitive and courageous.” The true self affirms our true essence, which is love.

PRACTICE:

Things to act upon and questions to ponder:

• How do you hold yourself back?
• Recall a time when you have done this.
• What beliefs and thoughts are you holding that limit you?
• What mistake are you afraid of making?
• What mistake have you made that you have not let go of?
• When you hold yourself back, in which part of your body do you feel tightness or imbalance?
• What needs to be loved right now?
• Place your hand over your heart and feel the loving going in and through your body.
• Forgive yourself for any judgments you are holding against yourself.
• Describe how you’re feeling inside.
• What have you learned?

Celebrate your True Self,

Much Love,
Linda

Linda Noble Topf is a bestselling author, and a motivational speaker
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10 Smart Back-To-School Tips For Divorced Parents

Back-to-school season is stressful for all parents but it’s a little more complicated when you’re divorced: Who’s doing the annual trek to Target to load up on school supplies — and more importantly, who’s paying? Are both of you listed on important school forms? 

 To make heading back to school a little less overwhelming for you and the kiddos, we asked HuffPost Divorce bloggers and readers on Facebook to share their tried-and-true advice. Here’s what they had to say:

1. Split the cost of back-to-school supplies. 

Between backpacks, calculators, school uniforms and that extra big box of Crayola crayons, your kids’ back-to-school supplies can end up costing a small fortune. To lessen the individual burden among parents, Lynsey Mattingly and her ex divvy up purchasing responsibilities.

“My ex and I always separate who’s buying what, with him buying the backpacks, lunch boxes and water bottles while I usually get the entire supply list the teachers send home,” she told us. “It comes out to about the same price and this way we are both playing to our strengths: he gets a few quality items that he’s better at picking out and I get the specific, detailed things.”

2. Create a shared Google calendar to keep everyone in the loop. 

Each school year, Elizabeth Denham dutifully updates the families’ shared Google calendar with the kids’ upcoming school events. This way, no one misses back-to-school night or a holiday performance. 

“For all of the really important events, I send invites through the calendar as soon as I enter the date so that I don’t have to remember to do it by phone,” she said. 

3. Drop the kids off together on the first day of school. 

The first day of school can be a scary, overwhelming experience for even the most confident kiddo. If at all possible, try to free up your schedules so both of you can drop the kids off and show your support, said Leah Porritt. 

“On the first morning of school this year, we met before and walked our son to school together,” she said. “He had both of us there to send him off to first grade and I think that meant a lot to him — even if the normal school year mornings are a mixture of mom, dad, stepparents or before-and-after care. For his sake, we put differences aside and make an effort to both be present together.”  

4. And if your ex can’t be there for day one, text a pic. 

If your ex is unable to make it that first day, be generous and send him or her a pic. (You have at least 20 on your camera roll — why not share the love?) 

“Texting a pic is an act of goodwill and will be greatly appreciated,” said blogger Valerie DeLoach. “And you never know — one kind act could change the whole dynamic of your current relationship.”  

5. Let your kids’ teachers know who’s who in your blended family. 

Your family tree likely got a lot more complicated post-divorce, especially if you or your ex remarried. Early on in the school year, fill your kids’ teachers in on who’s who in your family; that way, there’s no confusion when your child’s stepdad picks her up. 

“I do it because it can be confusing for teachers to hear my son talk about his parents, stepparents and numerous siblings on either side,”said Porritt. “He’s old enough now to explain who is who, but it makes it more comfortable for him if his teacher already understands his extended and blended family situation and doesn’t need to question him!”

Another bonus of touching base with your kids’ teacher? Backpacks that are a little less heavy, said reader Carmen Poff. 

“When my ex and I tell the teachers our kids have two homes, most will send home a second set of text books so they won’t have to haul them back and forth,” she said. 

6. Attend parent-teacher conferences together. 

Heading to parent-teacher conferences as a team — like writer Carolyn Flower does every year with her kids’ dad — sends a strong message to your children and their teachers: Regardless of what happened in the past, today we’re partners who have the kids’ best interests at heart. 

“As a collaboratively divorced family, we’ve never missed a parent-teacher meeting,” Flower said. “We feel that demonstrating we are still a team shows the children and the school they are loved and supported in all they do. It plants healthy seeds for successful mindsets.” 

7. If your ex lives out of state, have him or her call into the meeting. 

Don’t let distance interfere with both parents taking a proactive, involved role, said Honorée Corder. 

“Because my ex lives in another state, when it’s time for parent-teacher conferences, we schedule a time that works for both of us so he can be conferenced in,” she said. 

8. Set times when you and your ex can debrief on your kids’ progress at school. 

To ensure that no book report or soccer meet falls through the cracks, Kasey Ferris and her ex have have scheduled communication days where they discuss and update each other on their son’s life. 

“Every Sunday and Wednesday there’s an email exchange where we discuss the week, any tests coming up and updates on projects that need to be completed,” she said. “Anything crucial or time-sensitive is handled via text, but everything else goes into a Sunday/Wednesday email. It’s created a lot of peace between us.” 

9. Don’t leave your ex’s side out of the family tree.

Regardless of how you feel about your ex, your kids still need him or her in their lives. When there’s a family tree assignment — or a photo project that calls on family photos — rise above any bitterness and include your ex’s side of the family (yes, that includes new spouses). 

“If there is a project at school that asks for family photos I always make sure that the kids try to include pictures of their mom, their mom’s partner and kids as well as my own partner and kids,” said reader Barry Fraser. 

10. Create a group chat where you discuss your kids’ wins and progress. 

Start a group chat that includes the parents and the kids and send texts whenever your kids ace an assignment or need a little encouragement to bring that C grade up. It’s a little communication trick that has worked wonders for blogger Emma Bathie and her family. 

“The idea is to direct the reminders and notes to the kids but they’re there for both parents to see and comment on if needed,” she said. “It can also be a nice way for the parents to make positive/encouraging comments about each other in front of the kids (‘Hey Matt, I really appreciate you picking up the kids for me last night when I was stuck in a meeting and then traffic. It was really helpful!’) You’re also showing the kids you can be the grown-ups they need you to be.” 

Together, you’ve got this school year! 

 

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Extroverts Sparkle, Introverts Glow: What You Bring To The Dating Game

My best friend in high school was a pretty, outgoing, talkative extrovert. Not only did she have gorgeous skin, a cute figure, and shiny brown hair that fell practically to her bottom, she was also flirtatious, opinionated, and quick to laugh. Boys were irresistibly drawn to her, and it seemed to me that she could get the adoring attention of anyone she wanted. At parties, she was the center of attention, the one laughing the loudest and flirting the hardest, and enrapturing everyone she met. In social situations, I felt dumpy, clumsy, and dull next to her.

About 400 years later, when through the modern miracle of the Internet I reconnected with people from high school, I was dumbfounded to learn that I hadn’t been nearly as invisible as I’d thought. People noticed me; boys noticed me; even one of my secret crushes noticed me and admitted that he’d had a little crush on me too. (Too bad neither of us said anything at the time, but that’s high school.)

This realization forced me to recast my whole high school experience and, to an extent, my own self-image in a different light. A softer one.

Here’s the point: Sometimes we imagine that to get attention, we have to compete with extroverts’ glitter and sparkle, and that can be discouraging. But it’s also not correct. Remember how your mom used to tell you that if you just be yourself, the right person will come along? For what is probably not the first time, your mother was right.

The reality is that you are not competing with extroverts for attention. Extroverts and introverts are apples and oranges. Extroverts sparkle—introverts glow. Extroverts are fireworks—introverts are a fire in the hearth. Extroverts attract people who like razzle-dazzle—introverts attract people who want to bask in their warmth. Remember that, if you’re looking for a one-and-only.

If you come from a family where introversion was not appreciated (or even if you didn’t), you might set out on your quest for the right relationship with a one-down mindset, imagining you will be easily overlooked or will have to behave like someone you’re not in order to get attention. But that’s not the way to go. People are drawn to others who are comfortable in their own skin, which for you means knowing yourself and liking who you are.

Besides, trying to be who you aren’t in order to attract a mate can backfire in many ways. First of all, there’s a matter of truth in advertising. My husband still brings up the very sexy top I wore to the party where he finally asked me out. “I never saw it again,” he says, with a hint of wry bitterness. It was the first and only time I ever wore that thing. It just wasn’t me. It was a blouse for an exhibitionist, not an introvert. While Tom has forgiven the deception (sort of), it offers a lesson: Don’t misrepresent yourself, or, even if everything else works out, you’ll never hear the end of it.

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Speaking Truly: Bringing Presence to the Power of Our Word

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What an immense gift we are given in this human power to speak; this wild phenomenon of mind and heart coming together with sound to be voiced!

I’ll never forget the moment when my sweet daughter Arayla, at about 10 months of age uttered her very first word, “kiss.” We were still lying around one morning in bed, having just finished nursing, and as I adoringly kissed her sweet, pink, juicy face all over, with each kiss I planted, I said softly: “kiss… kiss… kiss… kiss… kiss…”

It was just an ordinary moment of divine mother-baby love. And then suddenly she said, distinctly: “KISS!” and I gasped, watching her little eyes open wide in recognition of her newfound power, as she repeated with her high-pitched baby voice: “Kiss, kiss, kiss!” clapping her hands with pride and joy. Oh to witness her little vocal mouth merging with her intelligence, discovering the capacity to let sound become word: what a wondrous thing!

It is an awesome power indeed — how we can use our words to bless, to praise, to pray, to convey our heart’s ponderings, to clarify our thoughts, giving voice to insight and intention. What a treasure: this way we can use our words to tell a brave and tender truth, to teach and explain, to express our perceptions, our yearnings and vulnerability. What a potent capacity we have — to use our words to express our remorse, to name our gratitude and proclaim our love; to extend the grace of forgiveness.

And of course, on the shadow side, what equally powerful and humbling capacity we have to cause real harm with our words. There are the blatant forms of this — when we allow our pain, anger and fear to speak in ways that sever us from our own hearts; the unfortunate power we have to use our words violently in blame and judgment; to wound, to punish, to intentionally cause another being to suffer; or simply in narcissistic sloppiness, how we can quickly make a mean mess with our words.

Recently I stumbled into a dark mood. Agitated by the Summer heat, sleep-deprived and triggered by a few different things not going my way, I became grumpy and impatient, and for a stretch of about 40 minutes, I indulged this grumpiness and lazily let my words extend from it. Unfortunately, during this time, I happened to interact with several different people, including my two children, and watched the power of my energy spreading like a contagious force of dark will. Fortunately I was able to catch it before too much harm had been done, re-center my intention, and apologize sincerely in the different directions I had allowed my irritated energy to flow. But it was a humble reminder of the infectiously toxic ripples we can create with our words.

And there are even more subtle, less conscious ways we can unwittingly cause harm with our words — while speaking from our blind-spots, our own sub-conscious wounding and conditioning; moments when unbeknownst to us, our voices are contributing to the poison of ignorance, subtly perpetuating the disease of war and separation in our world.

I was quite young still — 16 or so — when I began to notice this great range of power to be found in speaking; this innate capacity to bring both beauty and harm with our words; and as though remembering something from my ancient soul reserves of wisdom, I knew I must learn to be vigilant, discriminating and discerning with my words. It was at that point that silence became a precious companion.

I spent a lot of my college years alone — quiet in contemplation, creating art, attending class, studying and writing. The social atmosphere of college life held little interest or resonance for me. Often, in everyday social situations, when I would go to speak, I would find the uncomfortable gap between what my heart knew to be true, what I authentically yearned to share, and my limited confidence and ability to say it. I felt socially awkward (not unlike how I still feel in moments!) in the face of the cultural expectation to exchange words loosely, superficially, disingenuously and casually: “Hey, how are you? Why, just fine thank you, and you?”

After college I lived for 18 months at a remote residential healing school, sequestered in the golden hills of Northern California. It was there I was offered the unusual choice to wear on occasion a small sign around my neck, much like a name tag, with the simple words printed “In Loving Silence.” I wore this sign on specific days when I was authentically called to embody quiet. What a gift this was — the permission to claim my own silence, the speechlessness and utter wordlessness I so often felt, while attending my classes and meals; inhaling and exhaling the colorful bounty of sunrises and sunsets.

Not long after that I met my spiritual teacher Gangaji, and by the grace of her spoken words, so masterfully pointing the heart Home to its Source, I awakened to the truth of my being.

Her words were unlike any I had ever heard: words of utterly profound, mind-stopping truth; words of true teaching. Her words were sublimely given to speaking the unspeakable, somehow telling the un-tellable, inviting direct revelation of the unknowable; holy words pointing to the vast, silence Source, from which all words arise. Her words invoked the realization of what cannot be thought; what is deeper than thought, deeper than knowing and unknowing. Her words somehow illuminated the shining, endless, exquisitely mysterious truth of the matter.

Bless the countless teachers who use their voices in such a way: to inspire, to guide, to clarify, invite and embrace! Bless the words used as skillful swords to slice through the mind’s relentless habits of dichotomy, separation, and defense. Bless the words so generously intended to open, to ignite and beckon awakening; to annihilate illusion and confirm true self-awareness.

Yesterday, retreating at a beloved local hot springs, a place I visit in gratitude for the sacred, natural healing sanctuary it is, I found myself challenged at one point to incorporate the constant presence of human chatter into my space of silent reverie.

Irritated and distracted, I witnessed my own impatient, opinionated human thoughts — wishing everyone would just be quiet, especially in a holy, healing place like this. I thought: if only we could let the incessant need to express our minds just come to rest for a bit, take a blessed pause, be willing to look deeper than social and vocal exchange, so as to open more fully to the infinite treasures waiting for discovery within?

Of course I noticed with ironic humor the sound of my own thoughts, certainly just as loud and annoying as anyone’s chatter, and my impatience thankfully gave way to a deeper truth of inclusion: all the sounds of life can be seen as sacred and precious, when seen from the eyes of the heart. Mindless, social, human chatter is not unlike bird chatter; simply another sound of God speaking to itself.

And yet, I still can’t help but take notice of how often people approach me in this space, wanting something — ranging from sexual energy to simple friendly acknowledgment; various forms of seeking attention. We all want something, don’t we? It’s natural, and really quite innocent. But how often do we turn to mindless chatter and casual conversation, sharing our endless stream of thoughts, either in hopes that it will bring us what we want — attention, connection, intimacy, acknowledgment, entertainment, love — or that it will temporarily distract us from the discomfort of our deeper longings?

What we most deeply want is unspeakable, and cannot be sated by any exchange. Words can certainly serve it, but they will always fall blessedly short.

I invite you, as I invite myself, just as an experiment: to try speaking only what must be said, and leave the rest behind. I invite you as I invite myself to hold the word as a sacred power we have: to heal, to inform and transform, invoke and invite, as well as to harm, to wound, to delude and to sever.

What are we contributing to today, with the words we choose to share? What are we hoping to get from what we say? Attention? Agreement? Collusion? Connection? Are we contributing to love, or to fear with our chosen words? To truth, or to suffering?

Speak less, and see what arises. Speak from presence, and see what this feels like in your heart and body. Speak only what is true for you to speak, and see what space this opens for yourself and the ones with whom you share your words.

It is only a short while we are given with these minds and hearts and voices unified in these particular, individual forms.

What will you say? How will you use the gift? How will you voice your heart, your seeing, your perception, your questions, insights and revelations? How will you bless us with what you choose to speak, and equally so by allowing us to receive the delicious, silent spaces in between?

I can hardly wait to hear.

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Is There Anything Spiritual About Mindfulness?

These days mindfulness is the buzzword. Celebrities such as Goldie Hawn, Richard Gere and Tina Turner have been some of it’s strongest proponents. Mindfulness seems to be embraced in the west, more as a practice and discipline rather than as a religion, although its origin is in Buddhism. But does mindfulness have a spiritual and transformational quality to it?

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To explore this, I spoke with Santikaro (Robert Larson), who had trained under the famous Thai Buddhist teacher, Buddhadasa Bhikku. According to him, in the west, there are three forms that mindfulness has been shaped into. He refers to the first usage of it, primarily at large corporations, as McMindfulness. Like MacDonald food, it is fast, convenient and does the job. However, Santikaro questions the ethical and long-term value of this form of mindfulness, particularly when it is encouraged by managers in order to get results from employees. The workers who do practice it under such influence may not get the right long term results from such practices as their understanding of it remains limited.

The second form of mindfulness that is justifiably popular is referred to as therapeutic mindfulness. In recent times, Jon Kabat-Zinn, has championed the efforts to bring a scientifically researched and medically applicable usage to mindfulness. The program called Mindfulness based stress reduction (MBSR) has been proven to bring relief to many people struggling with psychological distress and chronic illnesses.

The third form of mindfulness that we discussed (as seen in the video below), is the pristine form with its potential for complete inner freedom. Practiced correctly, mindfulness can lead to insight into the human condition and free us from our inner struggles and conflicts in life. If there is anything spiritual about mindfulness, then it is the ability to free us from the grasp of our own ego. This is the summon bonum, the lofty goal of most spiritual traditions.

Santikaro describes this form of mindfulness as a natural and effortless practice, not one forced on by an “egoic doer.” For instance, when we bring awareness to our breathing without clinging to the one who is breathing or when we observe the nature around us without the sense of an observer, then there is a moment of true mindfulness, the recognition of what can be called as “emptiness.” In such a practice of mindfulness, the experience of every moment can be deepened by the natural “recollection” of emptiness.

So going back to the question, “Is there anything spiritual about mindfulness?” In the two earlier forms of its practice, the purpose of practicing mindfulness is motivated by certain personal goals.
Nevertheless if it fulfills the criteria of being a tangible measure to spirituality in daily life by offering a superior quality of awareness in every moment, then it is a worthy practice. But to truly experience mindfulness with its fullest potential, one has to transcend the egoic intention and relinquish the “I” and “Mine” related to the experience, as these are the obstacles on our path to freedom.

Santikaro talks about the time that he asked Buddhadasa, his teacher, if he was enlightened. Buddhadasa replied to him, “who is there to be enlightened.” Perhaps in this response is the key to the right attitude towards this potentially liberating practice.

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Who Hid My Strengths? An Educational Parody of Life

Gilbert the mouse was walking across a farmer’s field when out of the blue, he wondered where he got his strength. Though he thought he knew otherwise, the reality was that his strength came from his choices — and nothing more.

As we think about the idea of our strengths and gifts in life resulting from nothing more than the choices that we make, it is important to consider the following idea that an amazing Boston cab driver named Ronald* shared with me as I headed from Cambridge to the airport.

*His real name was changed so that you might look for strengths in every cab driver, not just one of them.

It was that our life was like a book, and each day was like turning to a new page. We did not need to live in the past — after all, the future is always a lure and dream ahead in times yet to come. Instead, we just need to keep things simple, see positives in every day and on every page, and just look for ways to share positivity with others wherever we can.

He also told me the story of a quadriplegic man he met before the holidays one year. The man certainly struggled with more than physical life, and was poor as well. To really add insult to injury, there were people close by who observed the man’s condition and laughed at him. As disrespectful as that is, Ronald was simply called to service. He encouraged the man, recognized his self-worth and gave him a gift for the holiday.

Listening to Ronald, I was instantly thankful for the traffic. Ronald’s words were like a sail amidst a tempest, not fighting the wind but harnessing it for the greater good. We made it to the airport on time and the conversation was a boost for us both.

This type of a resilient attitude causes me to think about strengths in life, and their definition, source, outcome when lacking, and outcomes when utilized. And alas, this leads back to the little story about Gilbert.

Strengths in Life, what are they?

As Gilbert looked upon a green, spotted piece of cheese, he thought certainly this must not be a source of strength for me. After all, I like fresh, sharp yellow cheese.

Culturally, the typical family consists of two children, a nice home, and perhaps a dog or cat. But of course, not included in that picture are ideas like fostering, same sex couples with children, couples without kids, or divorcees without custody. No, some of the realities of our country are really thought of as outside of a norm rather than as purposeful, intentional, or helpful.

In a similar way, strengths in life are often looked at as gleaming characteristics of greatness, pedigrees of persistence and dedication, or genius-like decision-making prowess at work or home. But what about all the day-to-day wise decisions we make — or even the ones that seem like ordinary decisions but when added up over time are the grit that makes great parents, excellent employees, faithful friends, and dedicated loved ones? After all, like a book, if each page is simply filled with some consistently wise and positive choices, then the destination of the story will likewise be of this important nature.

Having written a book that encourages educators to find strengths in all students — even the hurting ones — I am biased. I think that strengths are not incredibly difficult to find if you have a caring heart for the person for whom you are looking to build up. That book is called Ending School Shootings, but really it could be the process of ending any set of negative outcomes that a troubled young person could engage in or find themselves yearning to commit. For now, that text has gotten enough coverage to warrant bringing us back to the case of Gilbert.

How do I find my strengths?

Because Gilbert was fooled into thinking that one of the best types of cheese was bad, he starved and then looked for sustenance. Crumbs, junk food left over by big people, and the ends of potato chip bags ultimately did not satisfy. So Gilbert returned to where he started and as his eyes set upon the green wedge of cheese, his stomach let out a noticeable and later persistent growl.

If I were aged 11-15, I (or a caring adult advocate who was trying to help me) would look at the website, Strengths Explorer by Gallup, at www.strengths-explorer.com. Or another method is to tap the benefits of free tools like those that measure Howard Gardner’s multiple intelligences, such as through a free online website.

Alternatively, if I were 16-18 years old or an adult with the same questions, I would try the adult strengths-based tool, at www.strengthsfinder.com, which is also by Gallup. These tools, or similar profiles of strengths you might think of as you work with young people can be a great asset in developing and enhancing a life-compass inside a young person.

What if I don’t find my strengths?

As Gilbert sat in front of the towering wedge and tried to imagine it was a yellow bite of his favorite variety, he felt sad. “If only” he kept saying, rather than, “Oh my heavens, I am so happy to have found exactly what I am looking for.”

Indeed, we live in a society that says it values strengths in people. As I said before, however, the trouble is that our society only values the great gains that look like strengths, or the powerful attributes of victors. But is a weakness a strength?

Here is a simple example that might make this point clearer. In the course of finding my own strengths, I noticed an area where I truly was weak. In other words, in the four domains of strengths depicted by Gallup (executing, influencing. relationship building, strategic thinking), there was one area where I had no strengths.

At first that area seemed like green cheese to me, a thing to be avoided. But ironically I found out through some not terribly comfortable experiences that this area of weakness was actually an area of buried strength waiting to be unearthed.

Gallup makes it clear that there is no perfect profile of the top three or five strengths that a person has. They surveyed thousands of leaders and caricatured some really powerful and even emblematic ones in the page-turner, Strengths-Based Leadership.

Some of these amazing leaders had a balance of strengths in each of the four domains while others had most or all of their strengths grouped in one category that made them stand out, or perhaps a couple.

But as I share this, I quite recently came back to that area which I thought was my allotment of green cheese and decided to learn more about it. Two classes later that my work sponsored me in, I found that the cheese was actually not greener on the other side of the room with other people in the class. In fact, we all were choosing to learn more about an area that we knew could be a benefit to others through us.

What about my weak points?

So finally, Gilbert after a lengthy look at that green cheese took a bite. Instantly, the taste was unfamiliar – almost gritty and yet sharp at first – but then it happened. Gilbert’s hunger subsided and he continued in his path in life with a new spring in his step. He learned that every bit of green cheese he could find in his life could actually be a beautiful thing if he also balanced it with his more inherent areas of gifting (the sharp yellow cheese).

As we make a hard choice for the first time, it then becomes easier after that. And so, as we choose one day to look at a weaker area (or areas) and simply learn more about causes and potential benefits, we might find that the true essence of our inherent creativity and purpose can be unlocked. If not anything else, this new area can cause us to change — which is always a good habit for those who want to keep their mind young and flexible.

And who knows, but what if that thing we call green cheese — because it feels hard for us to choose on the first time — is actually a wedge of fresh, sharp yellow cheese for someone else. And so by choosing something that is hard for us initially, we can be a refreshing message of hope for someone else in a way we never actually expected.

What if I apply my strengths?

Gilbert, having his fill of green cheese, almost thought he might never go back to the good old yellow kind until it happened. From inside his once famished tummy protruded a lump and then came a distinguishable noise that he tried to hide until, viola, it came out. Burp. Instantly embarrassed, Gilbert with a furry yet reddened little face realized anew that while his weaknesses could be his strengths, he should better try to live through his main areas of gifting. Then out of a satisfied heart, he could allow the greener areas to humble him into being a better… mouse.

In the end, like Gilbert we might ask ourselves about why our weaknesses are so elusive. In fact, sometimes the only way we see them is when hardship, or pain, or our own mistakes or others’ mistakes make a difficult circumstance into an undesirable reality.

But it is in those times that we must remember that what is green might actually what is golden. For indeed, our weakest weaknesses might become the wellspring out of which our strongest strengths can make us into a really helpful person unlike we ever expected. Why not try to find that kind of positive picture in ourselves and in others?

And if I ask who hid my strengths, I have to be honest about things. It’s not someone else who hides them, but instead it’s me who avoids looking for them.

After all, if you cannot find you own strengths even though they are inside of you waiting to be tapped, then the answer is simple.

So, “Who hid my strengths?” you ask.

The answer is that it could only be you. After all, the “choice” is yours.

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Jonathan J. Doll, PhD, wrote the book, Ending School Shootings. The book is dedicated to the courageous student, Claire Davis, and all proceeds from the first two months of sales are being donated to three charities, including the Arapahoe High School Community Fund, the Sandy Hook Promise, and in Michigan the Alma Stallworth Scholarship Foundation Fund. Learn more at http://www.endingschoolshootings.org.

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End Your Battle With Time

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We stopped by my mom’s house after school. The sky was cloudy and the air crisp. I crossed my arms against my chest while my son rang the doorbell. “Chilly in August?” I thought to myself, “It’s too early.”

Mom came to the door looking beautiful, as she always does. Her sky blue eyes lit up at the sight of her grandson. I could tell she had missed him. We were squatters at her house during the summer, when the days were hot and the pool was cool. But the last two weeks had been different.

He walked inside and flopped onto the rug in the foyer. We both joined him and Mom asked him questions about the new school year. He answered them — short and (not all that) sweet. He wasn’t over the moon about school and working his way through transition.

I thought of my niece as well, she had started school the day before. “The kids are in 5th and 6th grade now,” I thought to myself as Mom and Sam chatted. I realized how quickly the years are passing. I suddenly felt hollow in my chest, like Time had carved a crevasse with a spoon. I was lost in my thoughts when Mom said, “I guess it’s time to close the pool since everyone is back in school. Swimming seems to stop when school starts up — it’s the signal that summer is over.”

Her statement shocked me and something in me wailed, “Summer is over?”

Sure, Sam had been back in school for over a week. Yes, my niece had started too. Of course I’d noticed the crazy morning traffic. Yes, I’d been back at work full time. My brain held the facts, but somehow my spirit had denied them until now.

As the truth sunk in, my body caved under the weight of realization. Spent were the Sundays that didn’t turn into busy Mondays. Expired were the evenings when we’d sit on the tailgate and watch the sun to go down. Over were the impromptu trips with a free flowing ending. Finished was the freedom of summer.

“How can this be?” I asked myself. Without saying anything, I got up and walked out back. I flung off my flip flop and stuck my foot in the pool. It was cold to the touch — not May cold and warming up with longer days ahead, but Fall cold and getting colder as the nights grew longer instead. Reality set in as I said to myself, “Summer. Is. Over.”

Mom had followed me outside. My gaze met hers and we both knew more than summer was gone. Gone was the only season the kids were 10 and 11 and adored hanging out with each other. Gone was the hope of finally getting the whole family to the ocean. Gone was the time we’d gather by her pool and order pizza and listen to the kids beg to spend the night. Gone were the days of kayaking the river just because the water was right. Gone was our grip on yet another season, another year. It was a stabbing reminder that we cannot stop time.

My son and I headed home to take care of our afternoon duties. Though the sun had come out, darkness held me. I took a walk. The strands of golden sunlight passing through the trees brightened my mind a bit.

I moved gingerly through the evening. Aware of how fragile my feelings were, I stayed present and gave thanks for the little things.

I set my phone alarm for an early school morning and crawled into bed. I thought more about summer passing too quickly but this time honesty trumped nostalgia. I realized in the summer months, I had complained about time too. I worried about not having enough time to get my work done while we played. Then I fretted over the time I worked and put my son in front of the TV and his tablet. It seemed I was perpetually battling time.

I turned onto my right side, pulled the covers up over my face and tucked my head in shame. My sleep was restless and torn, but a rich smell wafted in as my coffee maker began its brewing at 5 a.m. It was enough to get my feet to the floor and shuffling to the kitchen.

I pulled a mug from the cabinet, placed a bit of sweet in the bottom and splashed cream over it. I poured from the pot slowly until the color in my cup got just right. The first sip is Sabbath so I sat down and took my time with it.

I noticed in my “trying ever so hard to get quiet” mind, that I was already fighting about time again. I considered all I had to think about and pray for prior to the house waking up. Before that could happen with clarity, I’d have to wait for my thoughts to stop jumping around like corn in a hot skillet. “I’m already behind, and I’ve barely gotten started.” I whimpered.

And somewhere in the midst of it all, truth broke through.

“Why can’t I just make peace with time?” The words were foreign. Everything in me paused and stood like a solider at full attention waiting for what followed:

I say, ‘Time passes too quickly.’ But I am the one who passes too quickly. Time moves along at a perfectly predictable pace.

I say, ‘There is not enough time.’ But that is like saying there is not enough sun or sky. Time is eternal.

I say, ‘I need to manage my time better.’ But that is like saying I need to manage the ocean’s tide. Time lies in God’s hands, not mine.

I say, ‘I’ve run out of time.’ But that is like saying the Mississippi River has run out of water. Time flows perpetually.

I say, ‘She has more time than I do.’ But that is like saying time doesn’t treat everyone the same or share itself equally. Time does not discriminate.

I say, ‘Time is not on my side.’ But I am the one who is adversarial with Time- blaming, criticizing, controlling, kicking and screaming at its stride. And Time takes my tantrums, humbly and dutifully marching on.

This is Time’s job to march on. If Time didn’t do its job, there would be nothing advancing me. Time propels me into decisions… awareness… action… forgiveness… growth. Time underpins the urgency I feel to live and love and serve and savor the moments.

The real story is, Time is my ally. Time lets me participate. Time includes me out of the goodness in its heart.

Today, I am making a peace treaty with the clock, the seasons and the mirror — the places where Time most shows itself marching on. I will recognize and respect Time’s loyal nature and stop blaming it for my problems and pain. In return, Time will give me today… and hopefully tomorrow and next week and years to come — but that is up to Time.

I wrote these things down and closed the journal in my lap. Sam’s alarm clock sounded off in his room. It was time for the day to begin. But before I stood up, I dropped my head to pray, “Thank you, Father Time, for letting me participate. May I make a peace with you that passes all understanding.”

Yes, summer is gone where I live, but the opportunity to change the way I partner with Time has just arrived.

Do you battle time, too? What would it be like to make peace with it? Leave a comment on Facebook or the blog. I’d love to hear from you.

I have Free Gifts for you here. An e-book about your path to purpose, a guided meditation to let go of worry, and a eulogy template. Yep, a place where you can write your own Eulogy now to get clear about the life you want to be living. I hope you’ll use it. It’s life changing.

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8 Tips on How to Improve Your Self-Confidence

Do you have trouble building up your self-confidence? If so, you are not alone. Everybody has trouble with building one’s self-esteem in today’s world. The key is to be persistent and to find the ways to improve your confidence so you can be successful in life.

Here are eight easy suggestions to increasing your self-esteem in your life.

1. Know Your Weaknesses and Strengths: It is important to know what you are good at. Taking a skills assessment test is a great way to determine your strengths and weaknesses. Once you realize your skill sets, the next step is to focus on those things that you are good at doing. A person can’ be good at everything so don’t take yourself too seriously.

2. Accept yourself: You are unique in this world. It is important that you do not beat yourself up over the things that you have trouble doing. Instead of complaining about what your weaknesses, try to find ways to improve your life. Take a class at a local community college to learn a new skill. Accept yourself for who you are.

3. Remember Your Successes: Many people downplay their successes and focus on those things they struggle with. This is a mistake. Always remind yourself of your past accomplishments no matter how small they may be. Do not downplay the positive parts of your life. Stop focusing on the negative parts of your life and instead concentrate on your past achievements.

4. Read Positive Affirmations: It is important that you read affirmations that make you feel confident. Read a self-help book and then write down all of the things that motivate you. Read something positive on a daily basis and reflect on what you can do to improve your situation. Don’t focus on the things that make you feel anxious and fearful.

5. Think About Your Future: Take time to think about what you really want out of life. Do not live your life for others. Spend a lot of time and energy thinking through what you really want in life and decide what is you really want to achieve. Once you determine what you want to accomplish, then write it down and use it as motivation.

6. Create Goals: Set achievable goals on a regular basis and then take small steps to accomplish them. Make sure your goals are measurable and monitor your progress. Don’t get upset if you don’t accomplish all of your goals. You can always change your goals so that you can be more successful.

7. Talk To Others: It is important that you talk to other successful people in order to get a better perspective of your life. Listening to other people’s challenges and accomplishments can go a long way in feeling better about yourself. You can also learn how to find ways to overcome your obstacles in your life.

8. Be Persistent: Do not give up in achieving your goals in your life. Learn from your mistakes and try to improve on your situation. Do not make excuses on why you should quit or give up. Sometimes it takes a lot of effort to be successful. The key is to keep at it until you get what you want.

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You Have Giving All Wrong

Think you are a giver? If you do, most likely you have it all wrong. I know I did, until recently.

Giving has always meant, to me, being able to give a gift or listen to someone by giving my time and energy. But I had no idea the path I would take — as a result of one simple idea I had — that would fundamentally change my outlook on life.

Late last year, I decided I was going to give something away each day of 2015. I was inspired by all the giving that was taking place from the end of November through the end of the year and I didn’t want it to end. There we so many stories that touched my heart, and just about every person and brand had some element of giving happening. I didn’t want it to stop. I wanted to live in a world where giving wasn’t attached to a time of year.

I imagined how I could give something away every day and created a project and called it #365DaysOfGiving. I invited people to be part of it by receiving an email from me each day in which I would offer to give something away. I launched it and waited to see what happened along the way.

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It has been 223 days since the launch and the lessons I’ve learned, so far, have been many. Perhaps the biggest lesson is that it isn’t about what I am giving away that people respond to but the stories I share as to why I am giving it away. Responses like this come in regularly:

This email in particularly resonated with me because I am currently gaining clarity on who I am and recently realized that I had stop waiting for others to choose me, and choose myself.

It wasn’t until the last 30 days that I’ve realized we have giving all wrong.

Learn to receive in order to give.

Early in the year, I had about a dozen people receiving my emails. Even though I was offering something every day, many items went unclaimed. I was crushed. How could I give something away if nobody was receiving what I offered? I started to realize that the act of receiving was as much a part of the process as giving was. To give, someone must receive. The feeling you get from giving feels so good because you know there is another person who receives what you give. In other words, they are actually giving you something by receiving. You both end up being a receiver and a giver regardless of who started the process. In giving, both parties walk away receiving. And many people don’t know how to receive. That’s what I learned.

Taking is not receiving.

One of the main reasons people told me they didn’t want to receive what I was giving away, was because the felt like they were acting like a taker and not a giver. After reading Adam Grant’s book Give and Take, where he classifies people into three groups: givers, takers and matchers, I felt like you were either one or the other, a giver or a taker, not both. But then I had a conversation that made me realize, taking and receiving are two different things. When you take, you gain and someone loses. When you receive, both parties end up gaining something. it’s not give and take, it’s give and receive.

To give is to love.

That feeling you receive when you give something is better than getting money. It’s difficult to put into words because it’s an emotion and not logical or rational. I was at the Gratitude and Trust Summit in NYC this summer and heard one of the speakers talk about the Hebrew word for love, ahavah, which also means to give. This explained it! To give is to love. It’s an emotion and feeling that transcends words. Here is to a world of living to give and love in receiving.
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Please join me in #365DaysOfGiving by signing up to receive what I give away each day. And if you give something and recognize that you are also receiving, share the experience using the hashtag #365DaysOfGivng. To give is to love. To love is to give.

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How Keeping a ‘Today I Failed At’ Notebook Can Bring You Success

The first time I ever sang in public was two years ago in one of Greece’s most prestigious Theatre-arts audition rooms in front of some of the most celebrated actors, vocal coaches and directors of my birth country. Five days later I called and found out I hadn’t been accepted. I was devastated for an afternoon but the next morning I had university classes to attend to so I pulled myself together and plotted my next move.

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At that time, I relied on physics laws to force me off the ground but it was only after I read Thrive that I was ready to plan my Failure crusade — corps. During my first encounters with failure, I was living by two scientific rules:

1. Inertia is “the property of matter by which it retains its state of rest or its velocity … so long as it is not acted upon by an external force”. One can either see failure as an intruding force in life and let it stop one’s movement or, rather, as an identifying force of life and continue undistracted. Once inertia is destigmatized, it reveals its motivating persona

2. Resilience is “the amount of potential energy stored in a material when deformed” and young cells are proven to be the most resilient. I perceive of all amateurs- college applicants, job seekers, new mothers, dieters, as being young. Failure must be seen as a deconstructive rather than a demolishing force. Resilience gives amateurs no other choice than to channel their potential energy into reconstruction

Crafting these quotes, I urged myself to stay restless and hungry for life. I made a bucket list of experiences and started crossing things off. As Arianna Huffington states in Thrive, some jobs are concluded once you admit to yourself that they will never happen. Making the best of my limit — oblivion, I would overreach and fail and then I would under reach and fail again. Once this book landed in my hands, I had set up an immune system for failure but was seeking for advise to turn this into something productive.

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Little by little, simple suggested practices turned into essential habits of my everyday life. I started hiking, organizing my diaries and reviewing them, taking on new projects and giving up on old ones. I would quote passages to my family and friends and then follow up with my own interpretations. Arianna Huffington will not drag you to the finish line but will cheer your way through the track. She helped me build a self coaching — non psychologist mediated — system. She gave me what I needed to turn failure into possibility.

I moved on to set up my Today I Failed At notebook, along with a Facebook page to introduce it. My fail-book, is an everyday diary that consists of six simple sections:
1. Date — section
2. Today I failed at — section where I write what I did not achieve today
3. Comments I gathered — section
4. Feelings — section
5. Do I persist — section (with yes and no tick boxes)
6. If yes, thoughts on adjustments — section

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Today I Failed At users must commit to the following ground rules:
1. Admit irreversible defeat and let go
and most importantly,
2. Revise the adjustments section once a week

After a few months of Today I Failed At coaching, here are my re-adjusted failure quotes:

Nothing will be perfect in the end. Life is not a classroom with predictable pop quizzes. It will throw failures your way again and again. The more you are prepared for them, the more appreciative you’ll be of success

People who have only succeeded have died young. Take Huffington’s advise, redefine success and work for it

Always compare yourself to others. Are you healthy? Do you have food on the table? Do you have a family? Do you live in a peaceful country? Do you have freedom? Do you have access to education? As many times as you fail there’s always someone out there who only wishes to have had your luck. Quit misery. Be grateful

Nurture failures, not champions. Celebrate your children’s defeats as indicators of evolution. Embrace the opportunity and teach them about quitting, re-strategizing and being fearless. Help them dive into life

-You might feel powerful when you don’t know what your limits are but you will only thrive, once you make them work to your advantage

Become a thriving failure crusader.

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7 Things That Get Me High Today (Instead of Booze)

This was originally published at TheFix.com

A lot of people will say that one of the hardest things about sobriety is learning how to have free time. The time that would typically be spent using and getting high is suddenly an intimidating emptiness. For many people, free time is dangerous because it allows them to dwell on missing the high, craving the high. As I’ve witnessed too many times, this can often lead to relapse. So how do you fill a void in your life? Simple: Fill it with something else, something healthier.

Since getting sober, I’ve realized getting high is a state of mind. I would consider getting high to be anything that alters your state of mind in a seemingly positive way — anything that makes you feel above your average self. Alcohol used to do this for me, but since getting sober two years ago, I’ve had to find a number of replacements. The upside of these replacements? They don’t negatively affect my decision-making abilities or get me into trouble with the law or anyone else. The downside? Well, there really isn’t one.

1. Running/lifting/exercise in general. While I’ve yet to experience that runner’s high (I mean, come on, when done running five miles, most people just wanna curl up and cry), exercise still puts me in a clear frame of mind that not much else does. I feel empowered and confident afterwards, much like I felt when I was drinking, but this is actually real. It’s a very healthy time filler, but also has the danger of becoming a cross-addiction–in other words, a replacement for the addiction you are fighting. As with everything in life, moderation is key.

2. Reading. I really, really missed books when I was drinking. Between homework and required reading, I never made time to read for fun. Any free time was spent drinking or recovering from drinking. Now that I’m sober (and no longer have homework), I’ve rediscovered the world of books. They’re so simple to get lost in. Hours can pass when I’m reading and I barely notice–much like a drunken haze, except I’m taking in valuable information instead of making a fool of myself. I think it’s clear which is the better choice.

3. Spending time with the people I love. Sometimes I’m just watching TV with my family, or eating dinner, and it crosses my mind how lucky I am to have people who love me unconditionally. I, as do many people, too often take that for granted when so many people don’t have love like that in their lives.

4. A real relationship. There’s not much that compares to looking at a person when they’re performing a mundane task, such as washing dishes, and literally feeling love fill you up and almost well over. I never had this until I got sober, and I still have trouble believing the relationship I am in really exists. I have trouble believing anything that’s not a drug can make me feel the way a loving relationship does, but it’s true. A real relationship has made me confident, happy, content in my own skin — all things I searched for through drinking before. Now, I don’t have to.

5. Coming home to my pets. This is such a brief part of my day, but a huge part of theirs. It’s an affirming feeling to know that both your absence and presence matter to someone, even if that someone is a furry, four-legged friend who expresses his love through hurling his 80-pound body at you the second you walk in the door. Pets have a way of really making you feel as if you matter, and they have an insight unlike that of humans.

6. Speaking about sobriety. When I first got sober at Hazelden (a rehab center), I swore that the second I was out those doors, I was never walking back in. Not because I planned on staying sober, but because I hated it that much. A few months after being discharged, I walked back in willingly to speak to a group of patients. It was then that I realized the importance of sharing experiences. Something happens when you tell your story and you see it resonate with someone, even just one person. A light appears in their eyes and they think, “Oh, I’m not the only one.” I know because I was one of those patients, and someone who spoke impacted me that way. That day, she was just a person with a story like mine. Today, she is my sponsor and close friend. The same is true of me for one of the patients I spoke to. Life has a funny way of repeating itself. Speaking about my journey still hurts sometimes, but I also learn something about myself each and every time.

7. Writing. I saved the best for last. Flannery O’Connor once said, “I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say.” I truly believe those words. I would not still be sober if it weren’t for writing as an outlet. Writing, whether for myself or an audience, has made me see the reality of the way I was living when I was drinking. Some people are visual, and I am one of them. Seeing raw, honest words in front of me has a way of driving home a point more than simply thinking something does. In addition to that, knowing other people read what I write and draw something from it holds me accountable. I don’t want to let myself down, but more than that, I don’t want to let them down. Writing, once published, is permanent — so the actions that accompany it should be intentional and honest. Readers deserve nothing less.

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7 Under-The-Radar Destinations That Will Reignite Your Sense Of Wonder

Set aside time for awesome experiences and ultimately, studies show, it could help you live a happier life.

Gazing up at a powerful waterfall, losing yourself in the majesty of a sunset, and feeling the icy magnitude of a glacier all have the ability to make us feel small and more generous toward others. Those moments also remind us to step outside ourselves and connect with the great unknown. 

According to studies, awe – that strong combination of fear, respect and wonder — may make people more empathetic, generous and trusting. The emotion can also expand our perception of time, alter decision-making and enhance well-being.

So consider the seven natural wonders below and then book a ticket immediately. 

 

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18 Really Simple Ways To Make Today Better

On days when things seem a little dark, a change of perspective, a mantra or a loving reminder is sometimes all it takes to see a little light. Chocolate cake is helpful, too.

The hashtag #MakeLifeBetterIn3Words has been trending on Twitter lately, highlighting the fact that simple actions, thoughts and reframing can be all it takes to pull yourself out of a rut. We scoured a bunch of tweets and selected 18 inspirational three-word phrases that help those figurative rainclouds dissipate. Check out the words that make life better below, then share your own on Twitter or in the comments section. 

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Recovery on the Road

Last spring I happened to be in Amsterdam on a business trip, and when I had the chance I stopped by a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous. I have been in recovery from alcohol addiction for many years, so while traveling, whenever I can, I find a local meeting. It offers instant fellowship, no matter where I am, and of course helps me stay sober, one day at a time.

My wife (who is also in the program) and I found a listing of English-language meetings on the Internet and picked one nearby. We expected a meeting full of business travelers, and perhaps some ex-pats. So we were surprised that, other than the two of us, everyone in the meeting was Dutch. When the meeting was over, we chatted with some of the others, and asked them about this. Why not attend one of the many Dutch-language meetings in the city? A few said that they simply wanted to practice their English. but for others the answer was more intriguing: AA, they said, is an American program, with a literature written in English, and should really be practiced in English.

Is this true? This experience got us to thinking: What is distinctively American about 12-step recovery, if anything? There are, of course, some universal principles and practices across AA, but are there also regional and cultural variations, within the U.S. and beyond?

We decided to set off on a road trip to explore these questions — to see what’s invariant in AA experience, regardless of region and culture, and what’s novel. We want to catalog the forms of AA, and explore what the differences reveal about the shared experience of sober living.

This is our first dispatch from this reporting trip. (I will be writing these occasional reports, but my wife, Susie, is an equal partner in the reporting.) We are reporting this week from Whitefish, Montana, a town of 6000 or so people located near the western entrance to Glacier National Park. It’s a tourist town, focused on outdoor sports. The people of Whitefish seem fit and friendly.

This is also true of the recovering alcoholics, who we met (as 0ften happens) in a church basement. We attended a couple meetings here, and most of what we experienced was familiar — recitation of the Serenity Prayer, reading of the Preamble and the steps, sharing of experiences. These things can vary from meeting to meeting, but not much. They form the core experience of the fellowship.

Another of the AA pillars is service, and here we did observe an interesting — and really quite wonderful — novelty in the Whitefish meeting. Service can take many forms. More experienced members help — or sponsor — new members. These are also duties that benefit the fellowship as a whole — chairing meetings, keeping the books, or simply showing up early to make coffee.

But in Whitefish we saw a different form of service. Someone had made coffee beforehand, and it was on the table in a few large carafes when the meeting began. But during the hour-long meeting, people stood and walked a carafe of coffee around the table, filling mugs. First one person did this, and then another and another, unbidden. They were, as literally as we’ve ever seen, serving the group.

This may seem like a trivial difference at first, but we believe it is a meaningful evolution of the concept of service–one that adds a dimension to the concept of helping another alcoholic. It requires eye contact and physical closeness. We know from our study of psychology that those subtle forms of human contact can boost well-being in surprising ways, and here we see this personal connection ritualized in an AA church basement.

Our plan is to continue these reports from the road over the months and years ahead, as we travel both in the U.S. and abroad. We hope you will join in our journey of discovery.

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Good News! Your Dreams Are Made of Crap!

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Your dreams are not made of clouds.
Your dreams are not made of pixie dust.
Your dreams are made of CRAP!
Dirty, smelly, inconvenient, annoying, scary, crap.

Often we see all the miles and miles between us and our dreams as a problem. You think, “Aw man if I could just get past this crap, then I’d be happy.” And you sit and dream about magically floating over all the crap you don’t want to deal with.

Floating over the crap never works, because you need the crap to make your dreams real.

Your dreams don’t come true simply by arriving on the other side. They come true when you stop dreaming about them and start digging through all the crap you need to manifest them.

Your great relationship isn’t in the perfect partner. It’s in digging into the crap of talking about your life, deciding where to go to dinner, and giving your partner reassurance that yes indeed they are hot.

Your great small business isn’t in finding the perfect customers. It’s in digging through all the crap of bad web design, poorly thought branding, and missteps in the marketplace until you begin to fully understand what drives you to build a business and how you can truly serve the world you live in.

Your great new career isn’t about finding a job that magically fulfills you. It’s in leaving your comfortable place at a big company, being scared to death, floundering, and searching until you find the work that speaks to your heart like nothing else.

Intentions are not the answer, wishing isn’t the answer, manifesting isn’t the answer, the answer is crap.

When you dig into the crap of your life, you find all the parts of yourself you haven’t faced and the corners of your heart you have locked away. Digging into the crap sucks, but it makes you grow.

You become a wiser, more compassionate and more totally kick ass version of who you truly are. The crap cleanses you, and when you get through it, even your dreams are different.

So now’s the time. Find the crap and dig in. It’s not pretty, but it’s never going to get any prettier than it is right now either.

What are you waiting for?

Toku is a mindfulness expert, speaker, and coach. He lived for over two years at a Zen monastery and now helps passionate people who are good at what they do, be the best at what they do. This post was originally published on MindFitMove. and Good Men Project.

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Finding Meaning in a Digital Age

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“Had I been blessed with even limited access to my own mind, there would have been no reason to write”.

~ Joan Didion

I was at my parent’s dinner table. Before me was a worn journal of thin and discolored pages and a neat script that was gently fading away.

It was my grand fathers journal and now belonged to my father. I never knew my grandfather. He had died in the months leading up to my birth, and had named me in his final days even though there was no proof that the baby to come would be a girl. In the expat life I grew up in, I never got to visit the home he had lived in, the places he had frequented and the people who had been a part of his life’s journey.

I was now about to enter his world, through the words that he had left behind. I smelled the mold of decades of wear and tear and touched the softness of the paper that had grown smooth with time. And within minutes, I was captivated by the power of the written word. It plays on the human’s mind’s capacity to time travel and carries us back and forth in a remarkable interplay of past, present and future. In the magical script before me, I was transported to another era, where guests arrived for no reason but to connect, and were forced to stay for dinner. An age where food was an everyday art, planned, prepared and enjoyed in the company of others. A time where people had the heart to pause their own lives in order to embrace each other’s struggles. All this was conveyed to me in the beauty of the words that flowed together to connect with the writer’s mind and understand the world they lived in. Reading the very words that my grand father had penned eons ago, I felt a strange kinship with him that stories about him had failed to impress.

That kind of writing seems to be lost on us today. The love for words, the agonizing over sentences and the ethical component of good writing that obliged us to pay certain kinds of attention to our experiences, seems to have succumbed to the speed of our times. We have gotten used to writing in bite-sized pieces for a public looking for ease and entertainment, and hungry for information. No wonder, there are nearly 200 million bloggers on the internet and a new blog is created somewhere in the world every half a second. Instead of adding to our collective wisdom, these writings are largely saturated with the vulgarities of human nature and the superficiality and impatience of our day and age. There are “3 easy steps” to whatever your imagination can conjure up, and endless trivial newsfeeds that shift miles in minutes and delude us into confusing meaning with information.

This deprives us not only of the skill of writing eloquent prose, it also inhibits us from delving deeper into what is truly important. Writing humbles us in a way that is vital for our character growth, by reminding us about the limits of the self and our appropriate place in the vast flow of life. Writing frees us from the tyranny of the ego, by helping us wade deeper into the unknown and making us comfortable with the unease of being stupid. For it is then that we let go of perceptions and beliefs that rein us in and truly open up to the magic of the world around us.

Writing also provides us with the courage to face what is happening while keeping our heart in the room. It allows us to choose suffering over safety like C.S Lewis in Shadowlands. Because suffering is not suffering when it is helps us find meaning in our experiences and make sense of our world. It is in staying with the pain of unexplainable circumstances and asking the questions that seem to have no answers, that we often arrive at the best possible response. After all life happens in living it, and meaning emerges not in our heads but in our journeys.

I saw all of this in the writings of my grandfather. His inner journey as he survived the partition of the Indian subcontinent, suffered the consequences of broken trust more than once, and yet never lost hope in the goodness of the human spirit. And I’ve seen it again and again in the writings of the greatest thinkers of humanity, whose wisdom is largely off the very internet that we see as our sole source of information. Their writing reflects deep thought on issues of human importance, such that T.S Eliot wrote no more than 150 pages of poetry in his entire career and James Joyce wrote Ulysses at the rate of a hundred words a day.

By undertaking an inner journey and understanding our own inner worlds, we are reminded that beneath all the layers of psychosocial patina lies a common humanity that shares the same pains, delights in the same joys, and lives for the same purpose. As Sherwin Nuland remarked in How We Die, “the more personal you are willing to be around the details of your own life, the more universal you are”.

And we are reminded too of the wonders of the inner world. For when we spend time contemplating on it, we find that we are all here to do good. It is what ensures our biological survival and brings us spiritual pleasure, if only we were to stop and consider it amongst all our worldly distractions.

It is not a privilege, reserved for a certain population amongst us. After all, the search for meaning is a universal human quest. Luckily life is difficult, mysterious and hard to understand. Andre Gide won the Nobel Prize in Literature for his “fearless love of truth and keen psychological insight”. We may never win the Nobel Prize. But by reflecting upon our experiences with intensity and writing about them with integrity, we can answer the call of the soul with the best possible response.

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When Death Comes in Close

I’m so acutely aware of Death in the field right now.

Always with us, Death is. And yet I’ve been carefully and heartfully tracking, as I know so many of us have been, the very recent deaths of several people in close social circles of mine; noticing the holy ripples these deaths create, through the hearts of loved ones, and everyone their lives then touch — rippling out, making waves, through the sacred web and field of life we blessedly share.

Whether it’s a death from heart-wrenching suicide, or after a long-battled physical disease, or due to a tragic accident, or as a sudden, unexpected surprise, there’s nothing like Death Medicine to bring us so intimately close with the mysterious, precarious edge of aliveness we live with: our precious mortal breath pressed up against the holy, vast unknown.

We wailingly grieve our lost one, fluctuating between glorious celebration of our beloved’s beauty, humbled gratitude to have been blessed with such a miraculous love, and then utter devastation in the face of our losing them, and our world losing them. Sometimes reveling in bittersweet joy and relief upon the passing, knowing that the suffering their life may have included has been released, transmuted and transcended now; they are flying free.

Or perhaps we carefully watch from the periphery those closest in to the loss; our hands resting on our tender, beating hearts, empathizing, bowing, sending love, sending prayers that their grieving hearts might just keep breaking open even wider into the love that holds it all.

Counting our blessings, cherishing those closest to us, while knowing it is truly just a matter of time before we all return to the other side.

When Death comes in close enough to touch us personally, we think of everyone we love so dearly, and remember, at least for a moment, that all form is temporary and fleeting, and know that we, along with all of life, are present here, embodied like this in our world, for only a brief moment.

We look down at our own slowly aging hands, our own bodies, breathing, full of blessed life for now. We pull our beloved children in close to us, and breathe their scent deeply in. We behold our lovers, our parents, our furry creatures, our dear friends, and even those we don’t know, and see them through fresh eyes, taking in their light, their warmth, their utterly unique beauty.

With Death Medicine close we remember to notice what it feels like as the soles of our feet touch the earth, and as the sun kindly lifts our face to kiss us, we notice the sweet smell of flowers on the wind. We revel at sunsets and starshine. We wonder at the mysterious animating force filling these bodies, infusing these senses, only for a time.

We notice when we’re dancing how much gravity loves us to lean in and taste this delicious place where breath and sweat, music and movement allow us to be taken, swallowed up by Life’s aliveness.

We notice, in Death’s presence, if we’re lucky, what, if anything, at this moment of our lives is still left for us unlived; what remains unspoken, unblessed, unthanked, unacknowledged, unforgiven, unloved, unsung?

We notice what we’ve been postponing, and we feel the sacred urge to leap.

We notice our fear of really loving and living life in the way we yearn too. And then we notice our even deeper fear: of waiting even another instant to show up fully for these lives of love we took birth for. What did we come to say, to give, to live, to serve? And what on earth are we waiting for?

We notice that we are alive, and we are surrounded, literally surrounded and graced: by the living and the dying and the dead. Led by the light of our ancestors and the dreams of our unborn great-grandchildren.

And we notice that we truly love to live, to take our humble place in the great circle of life, and we confess quietly to our own hearts how vulnerable we feel in this love and this aliveness.

We pray for right relationship with all of life. We pray for clarity, humility, maturity, discipline, discernment, dignity and integrity. We pray for wisdom, empathy, truth, kindness and compassion.

And then we bow to one another and to ourselves. We bow to this Death Medicine that never fails to shake our hearts awake to Life. We stand at the threshold of inevitable death, and we say to Life: “I give in. I surrender. Yes.”

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You Can Meditate While Moving — And It Totally Counts

I first tried to sit still and clear my mind in college, after a nasty breakup where I was consumed with heartache. For weeks, I moped around the city playing whack-a-mole against all the feelings of betrayal and hurt that were popping up in my head, but I had taken enough yoga classes at that point to know that the nasty things I wanted to say to my ex were a poison I was pouring down my own throat.

I wanted meditation to be the way out, to interrupt the subconscious train of destructive patterns and surround me with all its benefits — the decreased heart rate, the lower blood pressure and the general feelings of improved health and mental clarity.

But how?

“I’m really bad at meditating,” I complained to my friend Eric after a few fidgety attempts. “I hate sitting still. My back hurts, my shoulders ache, my feet always fall asleep.”

Eric happened be a Feldenkrais instructor–a type of holistic movement therapy that aims at bringing people more fully into their bodies. Think of it as yoga’s kin.

“Meditating while sitting still is unnatural,” he said without missing a beat. “Of course it’s hard. I never sit still when I meditate,” he added.

“Wait, what?” My eyes crossed. “You can meditate without uh, sitting still? That counts?”

Eric rolled his eyes.

“Yeah, especially for people who have mobility issues–joint pain, muscle weakness–moving meditation is much more accessible.”

Holy crap!

That feeling of sinking into a deep exhale when I hit my first down dog of the day–that was meditation. That full inhale I focused in on to help hold me up in Warrior II? That was meditating too. Turned out, I did know how to meditate!

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Some people, usually people who have trained long and hard, can meditate while sitting still. But for a lot of us, moving is the best gateway. Those movements help maintain focus on something beyond our day-to-day concerns and our mind naturally gravitates towards what it is doing. In yoga, breath cues are integral to the practice of stretching, flexing, and holding–it provides a focal point for whack-a-mole minds of all shapes and sizes to latch onto.

When you have a sequence of connected moments where you have stopped thinking about what you need to pick up at the store, the horrible things you want to say to an ex, and the ten pounds you want to lose, you have successfully meditated. When you can string these moments on demand, you develop a new tool in your arsenal to fight existential angst, anxiety, and stress.

Yoga teaches that there is prana coursing through our bodies–it’s also called the life force, or Qi in the Chinese tradition. Having a controlled breath means you can get a lasso around your prana. The breath is what bridges the gap–it is the gateway to the mind-body connection. If you can regulate your breath first, you have a toehold in working the muscles that regulate your mind.

Any ritual that derails that thought train barreling around your brain, whether it be planning for the future or reliving the past, can be meditation. Whether it’s folding laundry or standing on your head–all you need is the proper intent.

The golden pot at the end of this meditation rainbow is a sneaky feeling that floods the senses when unwanted thoughts come and you have the power to easily release them because you are happily focusing on your breath. A calm, focused presence arises when you don’t have to be or do something else.

Pausing and consciously relaxing–even for a minute–shifts us away from the defensive and aggressive sympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for our fight or flight impulses. Most of us aren’t even aware of the low-level fight or flight anxiety that follows us around all day until we get a break from it.

Meditation is a pattern interrupt–and whatever skillful means you can use to bring your thought to your breath will derail the unconscious brain train rumbling around inside your head.

So get fixated on your breath–get all OCD about coming back to every tiny sensation of inhaling and exhaling–feeling the air as it enters your nostrils, feeling the skin stretch at your ribcage as your lungs expand, feeling the minuscule movement as you pause and then take in just a tiny bit more oxygen.

If sitting still doesn’t work for you, but you want to have a calmer mind, yoga is one of the best ways to start developing the muscles of attention so you can step off the thought train whenever you need a break.

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Being Calm and Mindful for Your Child

The school year is just starting all over the country; children will be encountering new teachers, higher expectations, peers who may have grown or matured in varying degrees over the summer, and changing alliances among those peers. Your child may face a calm re-entry to the school year, or may be distressed to find himself in very unfamiliar, and unhappy, territory. Your child may look to you for comfort and support; how are you going to handle your role?

While every parent wants his or her child to be happy, successful, and well-liked, we don’t always get our wish. If your child is the one who comes home with a long face and teary eyes, be prepared to offer assistance that will build his skill-set and improve his level of resilience; comfort him, and help him search for what will help him the most. This would NOT mean providing solutions and answers, but helping him discover those solutions and answers on his own.

If your child is upset over a school issue, do not become overemotional about the issue.

  • Stop and think: What else could be true? What might my child have left out of the story (intentionally or unintentionally)? Do not relate this situation to one that involved you when you were young. Realize this is a completely new situation that involves your child, not you.
  • Ask questions. Exactly what happened? What were the responses? What did you say? How did you say it? How do you think it sounded/seemed to the other purple involved? What led up to the situation?
  • Who else was there? Was there someone you could have asked for help about this at the time? Is this a big deal, or just a little something that happened? Is this worth worrying about, or could it be forgotten so tomorrow can be a fresh start?
  • If someone says something about this incident tomorrow, how can your child respond that is neither unkind nor sarcastic to anyone, but treats the situation as no big deal so things don’t have to get out of hand?
  • Is there an adult at school to whom your child could speak about this privately? Is there a teacher, counselor, administrator, or nurse who he trusts to keep a confidence, and give good advice?
  • What can your child try, on his own, to solve this problem? What could be done differently next time? Or, with whom can your child spend his time instead of with that person(s)?
  • Responding calmly to events that involve neither hurt nor intimidation, nor danger of any kind, lets your child know that not every issue needs to be treated like a major catastrophe. Sometimes things just don’t go our way; we can learn to accept this gracefully, and then move on to the next event.

If situations are reoccurring for your child, it may be advisable for you, as the adult, to speak confidentially to a teacher or counselor. Ask if they are aware of the event. Ask if they feel you need to be involved, or how they can help your child move forward. The object is to avoid over-parenting, a pattern that can compromise children’s autonomy, mastery, and personal growth. Rather, help your child grow into a competent, kind, resourceful person who has the resilience to survive the tough times.

Good luck; let me know how it goes.

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7 Things I Learned on My Journey to True Love

2015-08-19-1439995202-2034426-IMG_7933.jpegAs you may have heard, I met the love of my life through The Huffington Post. Who knew a mouthy manifesto I wrote after a bad post-divorce date would lead me to my very own Magic Mike, a man who makes me giggle like a school girl on HuffPost Live?

Honestly, being struck by lightening and resuscitated by Channing Tatum himself would have seemed more in the realm of possibility.

You see, I have had a black cloud stalking me for decades. At 42, I have done it all… dating (high school, college, adult… oh my!), flings, short-and long-term relationships, tripping down the aisle. Nursing a shattered heart, I convinced myself that I gave birth to the man who would piece me back together. I flirted. I dated. I dreamed. But I didn’t think my soulmate was in the forecast.

Here’s seven things I learned on my terrifyingly dark, unpaved third world country type of road to happiness (chock full of I-need-a-barf-bag-to-deal-with-twists-and-turns moments).

1. It happens when you least expect it. It’s so annoying but it’s so true. If you told me my dream guy would read my post, which was basically designed to rip men a collective new a$ $ , and relate to my rant enough to craft a thoughtful response, I would have laughed. Hell, I would have scoffed. Cackled, maybe. But that’s exactly what happened.

2. Be fierce. Repeatedly striking out in love is a gift. When you f*ck up, you lose your fear of failure. Empowered by my perfectly imperfect track record, I was unabashedly myself when I met Mike. I didn’t sacrifice one ounce of who I am and he adores me anyway.

3. Be open (just not in a prostitute kind of way). Date against type, my friends. I am infatuated with a man I would have discounted under traditional dating circumstances. I am a serial plant killer and he is a gardner extraordinaire. Come football season, we will be screaming for different teams in our living room. We will definitely vote for sparring politicians. But, wow, the synergy, the sparks, the soulful love we have is undeniable.

4. Kiss frogs. Come on now, don’t be shy. Every single frog — even the wart covered ones who get off hearing themselves ribbit — are a value add. They teach you about yourself if you listen. They bring you closer to your proverbial prince.

5. It’s cosmic. Finding true love is a spiritual awakening. It’s intuitive. You just know. When you cross paths with your soulmate, love blooms faster than a celebrity dons extensions after a bad haircut. It’s involuntary.

A soul connection differs from a honeymoon phase type of giddiness. The person is a natural extension of you, without warning, without effort, without compromise. The attraction is wild. When you hold hands, there’s an electric current, there’s a perfect fit. The amount of time you’ve been together doesn’t matter; the time you spent apart does.

6. Haters exist. Some people despise happy endings. They don’t believe in fairytales. Others are jealous. I have a friend who has been dismissive about my relationship since the beginning. Readers have left dozens of negative comments. I knew the first time I spoke to Mike that he was like no other. He understood me without explanation. Trust your gut, the telltale signs, the palpable energy. Haters be damned.

7. Live in hope. I have paid my misery dues for a lifetime. I buried my beautiful mom and filed for divorce months later. I have been lied to, spit on, let down. I have felt excruciating pain. I have been emotionally abandoned. I have lost. I ended relationships that weren’t right even though I knew I would be criticized for my choices. Despite everything, I always basked in the rays of hope. I believed in brighter tomorrows. And, finally, my day has come.

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The Connection Between Honesty and Good Health

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By Susi Amendola

Being truthful in our thoughts, words, and actions can create integrity and harmony in our lives. It provides us with a foundation for connected relationships with others and ourselves. When we are able to speak what we truly feel and believe, we set the foundation for honest and open communication with others.

Being truthful can also be linked to good health. In 2012, Anita Kelly, a psychology professor at the University of Notre Dame, spent 10 weeks tracking the health of 110 adults. “When they told more lies, their health went down,” she has said. “And when they told the truth, it improved.” In fact, she found that people who told three fewer minor lies a week had four fewer mental health complaints and three fewer physical complaints.

Deliver Truth with Compassion

Telling the truth can be very different from simply voicing our opinions and judgments. Yesterday while shopping, I was trying on clothes in the dressing room and I heard the woman next to me saying to her friend, “I’m just going to tell you the truth! That dress looks awful on you! I hate that color and the way it hangs!” The other woman said, “Really? I kind of like it, I feel good in it.” The woman was offering her friend an opinion that didn’t match what her friend was feeling. Opinions connect us to our thinking mind. They are quite often rooted in judgments, where as being truthful requires listening to our hearts. Real truth involves a level of compassion that can trump the negative effects of the brutal honesty we deliver to others in order to be real. Using the truth as a weapon lacks compassion. For our inner truth to emerge we need to hold a place of tenderness as we pay attention to what we are feeling in each moment. This kind of moment-by-moment awareness leads us to what is true.

How Yoga Can Help Us Be More Truthful

Our daily yoga practice gives us the tools to face ourselves with kindness and honesty. On our yoga mat we have the choice to listen to our body or disregard what is being presented to us in every moment. For example, if we start to slide into a seated forward bend and we feel the agonizing pull of the hamstrings, we can retreat, push, or pause. If we retreat, we disengage and that may take the pressure off, but we also might lose some valuable information the posture is offering us about ourselves if we were to stay engaged. If we push through, we are going against the simple truth that our body is telling us (or yelling us) in that moment. We are disregarding the message to reach some sort of outcome or meet some goal we have created for ourselves. If we pause, we can listen more deeply and gather more information. We are inviting a dialogue with our own body.

When we become skilled at pausing and listening we gain a sense of clarity and honesty with ourselves. This kind of honesty goes a long way in teaching us about aligning with our own inner truth. When we step out of what is true for us, we pay a price. If we try to be someone else or something else, or if we try to be somewhere we are not, it’s like trying to swim against the current.

Doing yoga postures daily gives us the opportunity to align ourselves with how we are feeling. In time, we begin to trust ourselves and honor what is right for us. We move, we observe, we explore our edges. We notice our resistance, our sensations, and feelings as we drop into the richness of each moment. It’s there that we meet our authentic self. The more we practice, the more opportunity we have to cultivate a heartfelt connection to ourselves. Being authentic comes from knowing ourselves and honoring what we know to be true for us in any given moment. If we think, speak and act from our truth our lives begin to take shape around the organizing principle of honesty. The truth finds its way from our hearts into the hearts of those around us.

Have you noticed a difference in how you feel when speak the truth?

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How People Live Up to Our Expectations

Have you ever had a teacher who brought out the best in you? Or been in a relationship that encouraged you to live at your maximum potential? In such interactions, the common denominators are belief and vision. We have far more power over the lives of those around us than we may perceive. And conversely, people tend to live out our expectations of them.

Imagine a high school history teacher who pours enthusiasm into his lessons. He uplifts the energy of the class by engaging and inspiring them, making dates, major occurrences and important people memorable. He demonstrates to his class that one person has the ability to change the world, whether for good or bad. And he repeatedly tells his class that each student has the capability to do great things; to be that one who makes a difference for the better, or even start a movement for the betterment of society.

By employing this educational style, he not only instills the belief that it’s possible for his students to make such an impact; he also expands their vision and imagination.

Now imagine another history teacher who has no real enthusiasm for the subject. He only comes to work out of a sense of obligation. All he does is stand before the class reiterating various dates, and information about wars and the other major occurrences as required by the curriculum. His presentations lack impact because he himself lacks exuberance. And not only do his lessons lack life; he cannot imagine a grand life for his pupils.

Just as he enters the classroom each day merely to fulfill a job requirement, he assumes that the same fate awaits his students. His apathy bores the children and in turn they gradually lose interest in anything to do with history.

The lesson is obvious: Energy is contagious. When we spread motivation, belief, encouragement and imagination, not only are we spreading happiness; we are doing something even more important. We are fueling the human spirit.

On a conscious or subconscious level, how we feel on the inside is how we will affect each person who crosses our path. The history teacher who loves his job shares that energy with his students. Those students in turn are given the space to dream big, to love learning, and to realize their worth in society.

This belief and grand vision can be applied to all sorts of relationships. What we put out is what we will get back. If you encourage your family, coworkers or friends to become conscious of the excellence they can offer, they will subconsciously live up to that expectation; step up into the light that you turned on in them.

Of course, like anything else, this can be taken too far — for instance, if you expect the other person to live according to your dreams. This is especially prevalent in parent/child relationships. Sharing enthusiasm and encouragement is at its most genuine when we also allow others to dream for themselves, rather than boxing them into ambitions they do not really share.

Ultimately, we all feed off one another. At every moment, we are exchanging energy. Why not bear this in mind, and share constructive effervescence? In truth, to give and receive are one. The energy we put out will certainly make its way back to us.

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7 Things I Want My Son to Know About Leadership

Standing in a crowded gym I watched as my teenage son and several of his friends took to the basketball court. He’s been playing sports since he was four years old and in many ways is a natural athlete when it’s channeled and honed by the great coaches he’s had. In prior seasons it’s taken him a good five minutes or so of play to warm up and adjust to being watched by a crowd of people. This year though, as one of only two eighth-graders on the varsity team, there’s no time for warming up. From tip off to the final buzzer he’s pretty much in, unless he gets fouled out. He’s pretty aggressive. I don’t mind that because I think it will serve him well someday. But this year I’ve witnessed a change.

The shy kid who was reluctant to take a shot is not only hitting occasional three pointers but his shoulders have changed. He stands solid, he’s encouraging his teammates, and he’s taking more control. It’s a metamorphosis on the hardwood. I’m witnessing the former shy kid show confidence and leadership. I’m amazed and proud. As he moves beyond middle school, I’m sure I’ll be in awe of plenty of other changes. Meanwhile, I hope I can look back and see that I’ve taught him these seven things, I believe every leader should know.

Leaders are proud of their roots. Never, ever be ashamed of your family, your faith, your friends, or your job. Where you come from is ok, and where others come from is okay. In fact it’s better than okay. The road to the person we become is paved by all those things. Besides, I once heard “my home may be someone else’s dream home, my car someone else’s dream car, my job someone else’s dream job.” Be proud, just don’t be prideful. The most shameful thing you can do is treat others less than yourself. Rather than chasing acceptance or approval from others, pursue your purpose and help show others theirs.

Leaders Communicate. Be confident and comfortable looking others in the eye. Soak up information and know your stuff. Knowing how to share your knowledge effectively is a skill. Be humble and bear in mind that no one likes a know-it-all. Know when to step up to the plate. Know when to step back. Don’t be a fake flatterer or tell people things just to tickle their egos. The most valued people are those who can keep confidence and who also speak truth out of genuine concern. Become to the go-to person who will shoot straight with people. You don’t always have to speak first. Sometimes it’s best to be last. Be kind, fair, and judicious in all you say, and above all remember this: Sometimes the most powerful or effective thing you can say is nothing at all.

Leaders Show Respect. You might feel that others need to earn your respect, but a leader shows respect in everything, every day. Respect property. Respect laws. Respect tradition but also respect dreams, innovation, and new ideas. Respect our leaders. Respect our country. Respect the process, and those who fight to preserve our freedoms. Respect the one you love in public and in private, and finally, for the sake of your integrity have a strong sense of self-respect.

Leaders Show Strength. Many people have ideas about what it means to be strong. Real strength is shown in how you react to life’s circumstances, surprises, and failures. Our strength is proven through our determination. Be relentless in pursuing your dreams, but remember “a dream is just a wish without a plan.” Strong people make plans, and strong people can accept when plans need to change. The key is just to have a plan. Have the guts to stand up for what’s right. For example, silence when someone is bullied or mistreated is a sign of weakness and being a bully just makes you a jerk or worse. Be resilient, be driven and own up to your mistakes. That is strength.

A Leader is Someone You can Count On. Unless there’s an emergency (a real one), if you say you’ll do something, do it. Be where you said you’ll be, do what you said you’d do, and in the rare event you can’t meet your obligation ask forgiveness, and make it right.

Leaders Are Human and It’s Okay to Show it. Part of the problem in our broken world is that too many people are afraid to express love or emotions because of poor examples or negative life experiences. Don’t shy away from emotion. Don’t ever let anyone tell you it’s not ok to “feel” something. Show affection when it’s appropriate. And hey, it’s okay to shed a tear over things that matter, just don’t be a crybaby or whiner when things don’t go your way. There’s a difference. One way to show your humanity is by serving others. Remember that it’s difficult to feed hate when we’re feeding others together and it’s hard to tear people down when we’re building something together. Show you care, and if you really care, you’ll act on it.

Leaders Solve Problems. Be a problem solver. There’s a big difference between “problems” and “situations.” No matter how big or small the problem is, if you don’t like something or you see an injustice, then commence to changing it. There’s almost always more than one way to solve a problem. Remember not every problem can be solved overnight, but you have to start somewhere.

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Happiness, Higher Education and the Pillars of Life

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Posing at my alma mater Boston College

Will an Ivy League degree — or even your next advanced degree — bring you happiness, satisfaction and personal success?

I’m not sure if two recent trips around the northeast or August back-to-school fever prompted this question that beckoned a response.

Surprisingly, within a 10-day time span, I’d visited over a dozen university campuses to query students, observe campus cultures and cultivate something of an answer.

I’ve always venerated higher thought and education played a significant role in my upbringing. So did the pursuit of happiness. At times, my desire for happiness conflicted with social beliefs and educational expectations.

For example, in their effort to have me follow in my grandfather’s footsteps as an attorney, my parents sent me to a private prep school for girls. The education was supposed to be better than our public high school, but the constricting atmosphere dampened my spirit. I excelled in academics but also turned anorexic.

A return to public high school buoyed me and I regained energy as well as girth.

By the time I was college bound, the need for an appealing culture was as important to me as access to a quality education. Stepping onto the grounds of Boston College during a campus visit, I knew I’d found a welcome home. I sensed a place where I could grow intellectually while remaining pleasantly grounded.

However, law school proved a different experience. Trying to please parents whose professional goal for me had never changed, I moved back to New Jersey after graduation and trudged into my next academic chapter.

My LSATs were decent. I’d been accepted to several law schools in New York but instinctively knew that commuting via public transportation during inclement weather would prove an easy deterrent to attendance. I opted instead for Seton Hall Law School in Newark, a mere 12-minute drive from home.

Our L1 class was intimate. I marveled at several fellow classmates who carried passionate desires for a future in law. Two others who spent several post-graduate years gaining business and life experience knew exactly why they were pursuing a J.D. too.

For me, there was neither passion nor sufficient life experience. I perceived no joy spending the majority of my adult years practicing law. I exited mid-stream and never looked back.

While the loss to my family was palpable, I could no longer carry the excess weight. I was purposed to find my own life calling and could no longer support the expectations of others. The decision to leave was daunting. However, the rewards of developing my own talents and paving my own path to professional success proved golden.

I marveled at this most recent university pilgrimage which spanned two recent trips up north.

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Smiling during my recent return to Seton Hall School of Law

A trip to New England with my husband for his New England Basketball Hall of Fame induction gave us a few days for tooling around the region by car. While in Connecticut, we toured the campuses of Yale, Trinity College and Quinnipiac University .

A visit to Providence, Rhode Island brought us to College Hill for Brown University and Rhode Island School of Design. Checking out the resort town of Newport, I stumbled upon Salve Regina University, uniquely housed within a waterfront mansion.

Onward to Massachusetts, we toured our alma mater Boston College and College of the Holy Cross, another Jesuit institution and BC rival from our era.

As my husband flew back to Florida, I boarded a bus to New York. A few days in Newark, NJ brought me together with old friends and my first return to Seton Hall Law School since my departure.

The next day, a friend pursuing her PhD picked me up for lunch and brought me to Seton Hall’s main campus where she’s currently matriculating. We toured the quiet grounds and investigated Seton Hall’s Graduate School of Diplomacy.

My final stops on the university circuit arrived while spending time with our Brooklyn-based daughter. A lengthy summer walk through Manhattan brought me to the grounds of Columbia University and, finally, to Fordham Law.

Each collegiate venue delivered its own culture and sense of place. I appreciated every school’s unique strengths and assets. But rather than checking out admissions statistics, tuition costs or the latest rankings from U.S. News & World Report, I was on a different kind of journey.

I wanted to investigate those on a path of personal happiness and needed to chat with those heading toward career and life satisfaction.

Not surprisingly, I unearthed no correlation between happiness and the more rarefied universities. Neither did I find a lack of expectation or joy at some of the lesser known institutions.

Instead, I discovered that stressed, anxious and sometimes near panic-stricken students were those feeling compelled to attain goals held in esteem by others — rather than themselves.

Conversely, the confident and energized students were those whose university provided them with the conduit to do what they had a personal passion for and engage with what they truly loved.

While at Columbia, I was inspired to ask about the pillars of our lives. The question is as pertinent for the academic as it is for anyone on a path toward life purpose and satisfaction.

A young coed I chatted with captured my reflective question on video. I hope you pause to watch it and ask yourself this question, too.

You may be studying as an undergrad, a graduate student or even as a life long learner.

Whatever your goals, may you find your pursuits of higher learning helping you to raise the unique — and satisfying — pillars of your life!

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What a Guy Who Ate an Entire Airplane Teaches Us About Stress

Of all the believe-it-or-not, world record stunts out there, one of the most intriguing and sensory-grating examples can teach us some important lessons about stress.

Meet Michel Lotito, aka “Mr. Eats All”, known for showing off his proclivity towards eating objects — light bulbs, shopping carts, and chandeliers. His largest feat was a Cessna 150 aircraft, bringing his lifetime tally of metal (and perhaps mental) mayhem to nine tons.

This perplexing behavior was not just a case of extreme pica (an eating disorder characterized by consuming objects that cannot be digested), but one that shows us that we are often capable of things beyond our comprehension (and yes, some pretty bizarre behavior, too!)

Mr. Eats-All apparently went about his quest with careful and deliberate precision, infusing mineral oil to aid him, and making sure he went bit-by-bit in small, manageable chunks. He apparently knew when-to-say-when, and was adept at knowing his maximum threshold. (Perhaps he was an unsuspecting pioneer of portion control, even).

Like our stomachs, our brains are constantly involved in a process of digestion. We are required to process gargantuan amounts of information, massive changes and constant stimulation — flooding our circuits and leaving us reeling. This can lead to some serious brain indigestion.

Unlike Mr. Eats-All, we can’t manufacture a perfectly controlled system of digesting the myriad of whopper’s that come into play and overload our minds. But there’s still something to learn from this example of culinary chaos:

1. We are capable of digesting difficult things. Even when pierced with life’s stingers, we are wired for resilience and have incredible capacity for healing — even when life delivers blows that puncture our dreams and disrupt our sense of stability and happiness. Life may be tough, but so are we.

2. We need to know our maximum threshold. Each day is filled with a never-ending to-do list. There’s only so much that can be digested within our daily span. Avoid trying to solve all of your problems at once, and instead carve out space to regroup. Know when to say when.

3. We benefit from setting strategic goals. It’s unlikely that we can control the heaping portions of stress we experience — they usually clobber us all at once, creeping over our wall of coping. We can learn to prioritize what needs our attention and break action steps into small bites. Step by step, chunk by chunk, we’ll get there.

4. Progress takes time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. And apparently, the airplane to fly there wasn’t eaten in a day, either. What makes us think we can work through challenges or meet our goals all in one fell swoop? If we rush, we might risk unfavorable outcomes. A sense of urgency can be helpful, but keep expectations realistic.

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We all need a little mineral oil, or as Mary Poppins called for — a spoonful of sugar to make the medicine go down. We all need help with digesting what’s at hand. Search for your remedies. Look around for internal resources (like humor, faith, creativity) and external resources (like trusted friends, colleagues or mentors) to help keep you from chronic brain indigestion. We can’t always change what we have to digest, but can focus on how we digest for greater health and happiness.

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How to Clear Obstacles Using a Powerful Meditation Object

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Many people resist getting to their meditation cushion. When I ask why, the occasional person will confess something that most of us feel deep inside: “I don’t want to face my own mind.”

Much of my first year in a three-year meditation retreat was spent clearing obstacles that blocked my mind from reaching meditative stillness. As tough as it was, I found great benefit in facing my personal failures and shortcomings so that my heart and mind could finally be at peace.

At times, meditation felt like cleaning out a garage. First, you move out the big stuff you know is there and then you discover things you’re still holding on to from over a decade ago — maybe even from high school.

Because agitation is a major obstacle you face when you first start to meditate, clearing mental obstacles is among the very first things you have to do.

I’ve found there are no short-cuts to spiritual progress. It’s better to deal with your stuff first. You can bury it, you can suppress it, you can pretend it isn’t there, but when you’re free of obstacles everything proceeds easier.

So when spiritual masters work with people, getting them to stop and let go of the things that are hurting them is often the very first thing done. This helps to settle the mind so it can stay on your meditation object.

We all have stuff that we are holding on to — baggage that is weighing us down — things that we have to let go of. We all know we have habits that are no good for us, that agitate our mind, and hold us back from becoming who we want to be.

But sometimes it’s not so clear what it is precisely. And even if we know, we don’t have a mechanism for dealing with it and letting it go.

So that’s what you’re going to gain today: the first of the three most powerful meditation techniques (I know I promised these for you in an earlier blog article). This is a problem-solving meditative technique to clearly identify your obstacles and let them go. You can call this process: Compare and Dare to Let Go.

Step 1: Invite your image of an enlightened being into your meditation and think about their good qualities.

Notice I said your image of an enlightened being. It can be Jesus. It can be the Buddha. You can also imagine what your enlightened self will be like in the future and have a conversation with them. Choose whatever enlightened image resonates with you. But don’t settle for an ordinary image, because the purification will be too slow.

Your mind is like silly putty. Whatever you expose it to it becomes. If you bring an extraordinary image to your mind, you will get extraordinary results. The great 9th century scholar-saint Dharmamitra, in his Clear Words Commentary, noted this principle: “Meditating is making the mind take on the state or condition of the object of meditation.” Simply, meditate on what you want to become.

Step 2: Compare your mind to the enlightened image you’ve invited into your meditation and ask, “What do I have to give up to be more like you?” This brings your obstacles to your attention.

Perhaps now the benefit of inviting an enlightened being into your meditation is even clearer. You gain a rare chance to see who you’ll be without all your blockers. See that it will be better.

It takes courage to let go of some of your stories, because you’re not sure who you will be without them. Having a goal in sight of the kind of being you want to become greatly speeds the process.

Amazing things happen in meditation when you’re willing to listen. Ask the question again, “What do I have to give up to gain more peace?”

Just listen. The answers will come.

Step 3: Once you have identified your obstacle, prepare to destroy the thing that is holding you back and causing you and others suffering. Decide to let it go. So you can be available to be the person you want to be.

Put your obstacle in a box and label it clearly. Recognize that your enlightened being wants you to be free of this obstacle so you can be of more benefit to more people. As you prepare to give it to them to destroy, remember once you give it away, it’s no longer yours. Don’t try to take it back.

When you give your obstacle away see it destroyed in a flash of white light.

Step 4: Enjoy feeling clear of your obstacle. With no obstacles in your way, bring your enlightened being into your heart. Radiate golden or white light throughout your entire body and mind. Send that goodness out into the world.

Letting go brings further peace and clarity to our lives. Experience will show you that purifying your mind of obstacles and growing in goodness are the two keys for reaching meditative stillness.

A complete guided meditation of How to Clear Obstacles is available for free at my non-profit website GoBeyond.org. A more detailed step-by-step outline of the meditation, authentic scriptural sources for this meditation, and teaching videos are also available for free too. Enjoy.

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My Q and A With Petteri Lahtela, Whose OURA Ring Will Track Your Sleep

Petteri Lahtela is the CEO and co-founder of OURA, a wearable device — in the form of a waterproof ring — that measures our well-being as we sleep. In answer to my questions, he shared his insights on the restorative power of sleep, the future of sleep technology, and how wearable devices can enhance the body-mind connection.

What is the OURA ring, and why did you see a need for it?

Our goal was to create a simple and comfortable way for people to learn how to be fully charged at the start of every day, feel well and be ready to perform at their best. We needed to gain a long-term view on how our body and mind respond to sleep, rest and active life. To get that long-term view on physiological changes in the body, we had to find a unique way to access the data with high accuracy, yet at the same time we wanted to make a very desirable, comfortable and ergonomic design. Through extensive research and prototyping, we found the finger to be an optimum place for accessing comprehensive physiological data — the OURA ring was born.

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How is the OURA ring different from other tracker-type devices on the market?

OURA ring combines style and comfort with high-end technology and proprietary algorithms, with over three decades of science and pioneering research of human physiology, psychophysiology and behavior behind it.

OURA ring measures your sleep in detail, letting you know of your sleep time, sleep efficiency and how long you spend in each sleep stage. With OURA you can also see how your daytime activities are reflected in your sleep parameters and resting heart rate in both the short- and long-term. Once you get the objective data on your activity quantified, it’s easier for you to set targets for gradual improvements and balancing them to the needs of your body.

OURA App gives personalized and actionable guidance on how you can balance your activity in relation to sleep and recovery. On some days your body is not ready for 10,000 steps, whereas other days it has the capacity for much more. Balancing the physical activity based on the actual needs and readiness of the body provides the way to maintain and increase capacity over time.

Can the OURA ring improve our sleep?

OURA learns about you and your body’s reactions in relation to sleep, rest, activity, rhythms of life and your overall behavior. You can learn how improved sleep quality affects your daytime performance, feelings and health.

The app personalizes the guidance based on the correlated measured data and delivers clear, textual recommendations with actionable content. The app gives guidance on how to improve sleep quality and adjust daily activity based on recovery status. OURA helps you to build a proactive approach to stay healthy and maintain good performance levels.

What do you see as the future of the wearable/sleep tech industry?

With fitness gadgets you quickly learn about your activity level, but your body’s reactions are not measured and therefore goals are not adjusted optimally for you. Therefore, benefit is very limited. But when people get personalized recommendations based on accurate and objectively measured data from their own body, they are more inclined to make small adjustments to their lifestyle for improved sleep quality and daytime performance.

We believe that one reason for ignoring the needs of the body is that we have not had easy and comfortable ways to monitor how our body is reacting in our daily life. There has not been a simple way to get concrete, quantitative and comprehensive information about how our body is doing in relation to our sleep, activity, overall lifestyle and daily rhythms.

For developing and maintaining optimal well-being, body-mind balance and performance we need to be able to form a comprehensive picture of how our daily choices affect our sleep and performance during the day. That is what we wanted to enable.

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Am I Actually a Lion or a Sheep in a Lion’s Body?

As I fell down the rabbit hole of Instagram late one night, as many of us unhealthily do, I found myself staring at the pictures of people who once were friends, good friends, and I couldn’t shake a feeling of contempt, annoyance and a general disdain.

One photo led to a different person’s profile, which lead to another photo, which led to another person’s profile, and before I knew it, I forgot how I had even gotten to the profile I landed on, especially because I in fact do not follow any of these people. However, curiosity killed the cat, or lion as this story would have it, and I always find it beyond fascinating how people we tend to not enjoy seem to find one another. My guess is they share a similar quality that we’d actively not wanted to be a part of, and like attracts like.

Sitting in the dark, staring at the glowing screen on my phone, the recently popular saying, “A lion doesn’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep,” came to mind. Here I was a lion, and there they were, a herd of sheep. Yet, I was up later than I wanted to be, and it was in fact because of people I would relate to as sheep.

However, something about that saying felt somewhat unfair, not quite right, and made a lion somehow better than sheep. And while I do not necessarily like all these people because of past interactions, I find it healthier to let things go, and not think myself better than anyone else.

Sure, lions are technically more alpha to sheep, and in a head to head match a lion would greatly out preform a sheep in every possible way, but who’s to say that the lion doesn’t care, or is in fact better? That’s what the statement is implying after all, right?

We’ve all seen the amazingly adorable, and somewhat astonishing videos of animals that shouldn’t be getting along, interacting in such friendly manners, gently playing with each other, caring for one another, and cuddling. There’s the hippo and the dog, the chicken and the cat, the baby deer and the lion.

It was this last duo that seemed to relate somewhat perfectly to what I had been pondering, and got me thinking. How were the two able to interact in such “unnatural” ways? What could possibly be different about this interaction? How had they “befriended” each other?

Then it hit me: Hunger.

Hunger and thirst are what motivate us to act in such “animalistic” ways, and can completely change the interactions that we have. When we aren’t hungry, or hungry for something someone else has we tend to play nice as a whole. Both animal kingdom and mankind are able to shift primal forces into civilized needs.

While a deer and a sheep are in fact not the same, the idea correlates quite easily that normally we’d expect the lion to simply kill and eat the deer, or sheep, but when the lion is not hungry, she sees the deer differently, more complex, more equal.

Primal urges are replaced with an intricate thought.

I don’t know what came of the two animals, but considering this interaction opened my eyes in two specific ways, and helped me identify why I had such a negative reaction to people I once cared deeply for.

Firstly, I had felt hurt because I had been left behind by sheep, a herd, a group of people. Secondly lions are more than meat hungry death eaters.

As I pondered lions and sheep and deer, oh my, I began to understand why my emotions had initially been so strong, and why that specific quote can feel quite empowering. Ultimately, it’s because no one likes to feel left behind.

Here I was late at night, unexpectedly staring at my ex, my ex-friends, and a really promising, but bad first date all hanging out together, appearing to be happy. They had created their herd. Whether or not they’re all friends, in fact happy, or just using the same person for an awesome beach house is unknown to me, but I understand that being a part of a group, or a herd, if you will, feels safer, better, more comfortable.

As I realized the deeper emotions of hurt, loss, and a tinge of sadness I realized it was time to turn off my phone, and to not wish these guys anything but happiness, and if they had found it together than great.

I also came to the realization that while I may feel left out at that one trivial moment late night, I was in fact not alone, and like the lion far more complex. I had allowed myself the moment of hunger, but realized I was not hungry for anything they had at all. I was and am beyond full.

By being left behind by the large herd of sheep, I have been able to find my smaller, but stronger pride of lions. I have been able to satisfy my hunger, and at moments even play nice with the sheep. In general,