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Just How Badly Do Some People Want To Get Into The Guinness Book?

If records are made to be broken, now is the time: It’s Guinness World Records Day.

2015 marks the 11th year of the event, which annually takes place during the second week of November.

Guinness World Records officials estimate that 650,000 people are attempting to earn their way into the record books this year.

But not all record breakers are human. Otto the Skateboarding Bulldog set a record in Lima, Peru, for “longest human tunnel travelled through by a dog skateboarder.”

Otto doggedly rode through the legs of 30 people on his roll to glory. 

Meanwhile, Japan’s Kenichi Ito scampered into the record books by reclaiming his record for the “fastest 100 meter running on all fours” (by a human).

Ito shaved 0.15 seconds off his previous record of 15.86 seconds for a new mark of 15.71 seconds.

The Harlem Globetrotters may have scored an unofficial record for “sports that set the most world records in one day.”

Globetrotter players established seven new Guinness World Records titles at Talking Stick Resort Arena in Phoenix, Arizona, including “farthest kneeling basketball shot made backwards” (60 feet, 7.5 inches), “longest basketball shot made blindfolded” (69 feet, 6 inches) and “farthest blindfold basketball hook shot” (50 feet, 3.5 inches).

But while records are made to be broken, some might make you wonder why they were attempted in the first place.

Benedikt Mordstein of Freising, Germany, set a record for “fastest time to type a text message on a mobile phone while performing head spins.”

Some of the wackiest records set today include the following:

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You Can Be Whatever Princess (Or Prince) You Want This Halloween

 Since I was 5 years old, nearly every Halloween someone has told me to go as Princess Jasmine from “Aladdin.” I mean, I get it — we’re both stunningly gorgeous and brown — but it always felt so limiting. I contain multitudes and I can go as any princess (or animal or superhero or pun) I want.

YouTuber and makeup artist Deepica Mutyala decided to take tired assumptions about what women of color should — and shouldn’t — be, and turn them on their head in a fun video. Through the power of makeup (and fast-forward), she proves that skin and hair color have little to do with what makes an incredible and believable costume. Jasmine? Cinderella? Little Mermaid? You name it, Mutyala can be it.

Through the power of makeup (and fast-forward), she proves that skin and hair color have little to do with what makes an incredible and believable costume. Jasmine? Cinderella? Little Mermaid? You name it, Mutyala can be it.

Whether you’re black, white, brown, yellow, blue, or any color in between, we all deserve to be whoever/whatever we want to be,” Mutyala wrote in an Instagram post about the video.

And if you think a woman needs a man on her arm to make her costume (or life) complete, think again. As Mutyala says, “I can be my own Prince Charming.” Watch to the end of the video to see just how serious she is about that statement.

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How Can We Get Our Partners to Do What We Want?

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One of my friends believes that his wife should have more photos of him on her social media site, and he feels bad about it. His mistake is in thinking that those two things are connected — her action and his feeling — because attaching a feeling to a should doesn’t get us what we want.

Shoulding on our partners will not fill our needs. So these statements won’t help: “You should come home when you say you will!” “You should stop spending all our money!” “You should pay attention to what I say!” “You should treat me better!”

Should-statements don’t work. They do provide important clues about our needs and expectations though. Problems begin when we make our needs someone else’s responsibility and then believe we have the right to get angry about it.

Our anger indicates an action for us to take, not someone else.

In a recent article on how to get what we want from people, I wrote that we train everyone in our lives how to treat us, through our response to what they do. So changing our partner’s behavior begins with changing our own.

Here’s how it goes: We have a need – but instead of taking care of it ourselves, we hold our partners responsible for filling it. What begins as an expectation turns into a should, and then becomes a demand. When our partners don’t respond the way we want, we feel desperate. Then we choose anger, to manipulate them. It doesn’t work. So then we grab a missile out of our black bag.

What’s a black bag? That’s where we’ve been storing information about our partners. It includes whatever words they’ve told us that they “just can’t stand,” whatever actions they’ve said that they “won’t tolerate,” secrets that no one else knows about them, and especially anything they’ve ever told us that they don’t like about us. All of that has been stored for future use, in case we dislike our partners’ behavior and want to fire a missile at them.

Of course, our partners also have black bags by now, and they’ll probably return the fire. Matching missile for missile may provide some dysfunctional satisfaction because at least we’re both paying attention. But the result is that no one’s need is met.

What will work better? Creating conditions and perspectives that support success!

• Discuss issues when they’re not heated. Make criticizing, complaining and blaming off limits. And avoid saying always, never or you.

• State the need: “This is what I’m requesting.” And explain why it’s important to you.

• Also find out what your partner needs. Listen for keywords and ask open questions.

• Agreeing to disagree won’t be enough, so find a solution that works for both of you.

• Hug it out and say, “Thank you!”

All of this is about focusing on what is going well so that what is not can transform – because focusing on solutions depowers problems. And when being solution-oriented becomes second nature, answers begin showing up even before the problems do.

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This Foolproof Guide Will Help You Get Out Of Things You Don’t Want To Go To

It begins innocently enough.

Your neighbor casually mentions an upcoming BBQ and you respond that it sounds like fun. The conversation turns to golf or harpoon guns or something else banal and you forget about the BBQ. Next thing you know, your family is responsible for bringing the potato salad to an all-day birthday party in a park across town. At the same time as the Niners game. And it’s the playoffs. And you hate potato salad.

We’ve all found ourselves committed to social events that either sounded like a good idea at the time but something came up, or that we were roped into against our conscious will. Bound by merciless societal norms, backing out sans excuse isn’t an option.

To help the over-committed un-commit gracefully, we’ve partnered with US Cellular to bring you a step-by-step guide to smoothly getting out of an undesirable party, shower, or event. To avoid awkward run-ins with the host in the future, read carefully and don’t skip a step:


1. Display Genuine Regret

First and foremost, you have to convey how unfortunate it is that you won’t be able to make it. The whole plan will fall apart if you don’t sell your regret. It reassures the host that you’re only skipping out because of unforeseen, uncontrollable outside factors. If you’re having a hard time with the delivery, channel your inner Ryan O’Neill or Tom Hanks (and not so much your Space Odyssey HAL).


2. Finely Tuned Excuse

A good excuse should be specific, but not too specific. Specific enough that it seems credible, but not so overly detailed that it feels forced. Illness is fine, but it’s tougher to give advance notice of an illness and you don’t want to inconvenience the party thrower unnecessarily. Instead, stick to events that came up without warning that take precedence for an obvious reason, like work-related projects or business trips. If necessary, you can also use family members as an out — blame it on the spouse or kids.


3. Pledge Future Commitment

This one is tricky because you don’t want to land yourself in the same predicament. Nevertheless, showing an interest in future plans reinforces step #1 and can often allow you to take the initiative. If your neighbor always throws BBQs on game day, you can propose something that fits your schedule better. If it doesn’t work out, it becomes more of a mutually unfortunate thing than just you being reticent.


4. Follow-up

The follow-up is key. Repeat steps #1 and #3 (not step #2 — remember, no over-selling), and reinforce the fact that you were genuinely interested. A simple text asking how it went usually works best.


5. Don’t Screw It Up

If you had to back out of the commitment for a less than savory reason (not everyone thinks football is as important as you), you want to make absolute sure you don’t screw it up by Tweeting “Touchdown” 10 minutes into the BBQ when you’re supposed to be at your spouse’s work function. Your digital trail is more closely watched than you probably realize. It also helps to have support from your family which brings us to…


6. Rehearse Alibi With Family

Your kids go to school together, your spouses go to the same gym, and you know people who know the same people. To make sure you don’t reveal conflicting stories, it might be helpful to rehearse the established alibi with the family.


7. Revel In Your Guilt-Free Freedom

Look, at the end of the day, the fact is that time is precious. Don’t spend your life doing things you don’t want to do. We all have to face uncomfortable social situations from time to time, so it’s best to do so with a plan. A well-crafted strategy will let you enjoy your activity of choice with peace of mind and ensure that you aren’t burning bridges or hurting anyone’s feelings. If you executed said plan well, make sure you enjoy the moment.

Many people are stuck with a decision they made — whether intentionally or unintentionally — in the past, but U.S. Cellular is offering an opportunity to walk away from your wireless ones. Switch to U.S. Cellular, get a better price, and get your entire existing contract paid off.

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This Foolproof Guide Will Help You Get Out Of Things You Don’t Want To Go To

It begins innocently enough.

Your neighbor casually mentions an upcoming BBQ and you respond that it sounds like fun. The conversation turns to golf or harpoon guns or something else banal and you forget about the BBQ. Next thing you know, your family is responsible for bringing the potato salad to an all-day birthday party in a park across town. At the same time as the Niners game. And it’s the playoffs. And you hate potato salad.

We’ve all found ourselves committed to social events that either sounded like a good idea at the time but something came up, or that we were roped into against our conscious will. Bound by merciless societal norms, backing out sans excuse isn’t an option.

To help the over-committed un-commit gracefully, we’ve partnered with US Cellular to bring you a step-by-step guide to smoothly getting out of an undesirable party, shower, or event. To avoid awkward run-ins with the host in the future, read carefully and don’t skip a step:


1. Display Genuine Regret

First and foremost, you have to convey how unfortunate it is that you won’t be able to make it. The whole plan will fall apart if you don’t sell your regret. It reassures the host that you’re only skipping out because of unforeseen, uncontrollable outside factors. If you’re having a hard time with the delivery, channel your inner Ryan O’Neill or Tom Hanks (and not so much your Space Odyssey HAL).


2. Finely Tuned Excuse

A good excuse should be specific, but not too specific. Specific enough that it seems credible, but not so overly detailed that it feels forced. Illness is fine, but it’s tougher to give advance notice of an illness and you don’t want to inconvenience the party thrower unnecessarily. Instead, stick to events that came up without warning that take precedence for an obvious reason, like work-related projects or business trips. If necessary, you can also use family members as an out — blame it on the spouse or kids.


3. Pledge Future Commitment

This one is tricky because you don’t want to land yourself in the same predicament. Nevertheless, showing an interest in future plans reinforces step #1 and can often allow you to take the initiative. If your neighbor always throws BBQs on game day, you can propose something that fits your schedule better. If it doesn’t work out, it becomes more of a mutually unfortunate thing than just you being reticent.


4. Follow-up

The follow-up is key. Repeat steps #1 and #3 (not step #2 — remember, no over-selling), and reinforce the fact that you were genuinely interested. A simple text asking how it went usually works best.


5. Don’t Screw It Up

If you had to back out of the commitment for a less than savory reason (not everyone thinks football is as important as you), you want to make absolute sure you don’t screw it up by Tweeting “Touchdown” 10 minutes into the BBQ when you’re supposed to be at your spouse’s work function. Your digital trail is more closely watched than you probably realize. It also helps to have support from your family which brings us to…


6. Rehearse Alibi With Family

Your kids go to school together, your spouses go to the same gym, and you know people who know the same people. To make sure you don’t reveal conflicting stories, it might be helpful to rehearse the established alibi with the family.


7. Revel In Your Guilt-Free Freedom

Look, at the end of the day, the fact is that time is precious. Don’t spend your life doing things you don’t want to do. We all have to face uncomfortable social situations from time to time, so it’s best to do so with a plan. A well-crafted strategy will let you enjoy your activity of choice with peace of mind and ensure that you aren’t burning bridges or hurting anyone’s feelings. If you executed said plan well, make sure you enjoy the moment.

Many people are stuck with a decision they made — whether intentionally or unintentionally — in the past, but U.S. Cellular is offering an opportunity to walk away from your wireless ones. Switch to U.S. Cellular, get a better price, and get your entire existing contract paid off.

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4 Things to Remember When You Want to Get Married, But It’s Not Happening

Back when I was in my early to mid-20s I was worried and concerned about getting married, but every attempt to create a stable, loving and committed relationship turned into an utter failure.

Based on what I’ve learned, here are four things to remember when you want to get married, but it’s not happening:

#1 — You gotta focus on making yourself happy.

Be your own best friend. Learn how to love your life whether there is a guy in your life or not. The more joyful and loving that you are when alone with yourself, the better because others are going to recognize that energy that you are putting out.

And trust me — being joyful, happy, and loving is a lot more attractive then being depressed, self-conscious, and anxious. Just imagine what it’d be like going on a date with someone who is really depressed, self conscious and anxious. Would you want to go out with them again? Enough said.

#2 — Know that you deserve and are capable of having a loving relationship.

We can be happy and joyful in our lives and with ourselves all we want, but if we don’t think that we deserve and are capable of having a loving and joyful relationship that can turn into a successful marriage then it’s not going to happen. We have to really truly know and believe that we are worthy.

Doing this doesn’t have to be super complicated. It can happen at any given moment that you choose to fully admit to yourself and the universe what it is that you truly desire and you choose to fully know you are worthy. And, as a result, the universe can respond very quickly.

I know this very well from experience. A few years ago I was traveling in Japan after spending several months suffering with the aftermath from a breakup. I was working on being happy by myself but nothing new came along because I didn’t really believe I was ready for a new relationship. I deeply believed that I’d screw any new relationship up. I didn’t trust myself.

While walking around the Golden Pavillion (Kinkai-ju) in Kyoto I saw a section where you could buy candles for various different things and light them for a prayer. These were all in English so I felt inclined to light one. At first I rationalized and started telling myself to do one for world peace, but my eyes kept going back to one that was for finding love.

In that moment, finally admitted to myself and the universe my true desire and I knew that I deserved it. I lit the candle and left — forgetting about it.

Later that day, upon trying to get to the airport, a storm came through that caused me to miss my flight. I ended up meeting a man in this this stressful situation who helped me with language translations. This man I ended up having a stable relationship with for about a year.

Which leads me to my next point…

#3 — Always be open to possibilities.

When we have this very specific picture of what it is that we want then we are not going to be open for all of the creative possibilities. We may overlook or not even allow ourselves to see what is right in front of us.

It’s okay to have some standards of what you want: Like someone who is honest, loyal, caring, and so on. But if we’re going so far as to being very particular about how someone looks, their job, or where they grew up then we may be blocking ourselves from being with who we are truly mean to be with.

Also, I think it’s very important to remember that when I say “be open to possibilities” it’s not about letting go of the desire completely. It’s not about shifting your thoughts in a way to be forcing yourself to be thinking, “I don’t want to get married” because that doesn’t leave you open to the potential of marriage ever. It’s like going up to the universe and saying “I’m closing up shop” and the universe is thinking, “But, wait, I had all these customers lined up for you. What gives?”

The key is to learn how to get into a neutral space of “I am happy and love my life no matter what happens”. It’s about letting go of any concern or worry about the outcome and being open for all creative possibilities. That creates the foundation for a real change (or miracle) to occur, internally and, ultimately, externally.

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#4 — Have faith.

Trust that what is going to happen will happen. Not all of us are meant to get married or have children by a certain age. It’s also true that not all of us are meant to only be married once. Things happen — it’s just the way life works out sometimes.

So trust and have faith that what comes to you is what is in your highest good. You have you own individual lessons to learn in this life that is totally unique to you. Nobody else shares those same specific lessons that you need to learn with you. So trust, have faith, and follow the flow of your own intuition and inner guidance.

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Let’s do #1: What can you start doing today to help yourself love your life more? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Jennifer is a self and relationship coach and the founder of JenniferTwardowski.com. Her mission is to help women create loving relationships with both others and themselves. Click here for her Free Self and Relationship Healing Meditation and weekly blog updates. To learn about how you can work with her, click here.

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‘Intimacy Art Show’ Will Make You Want To Get Close To Somebody

“Intimate”: It’s one of those loaded words that can imply everything from meaningless sex to a revealing, heartfelt conversation. It can sound warm and inviting, but it can also awaken unsettling fears of risk and vulnerability.

Artists Aaron Tsuru and Kate Sweeney, in an August 22 pop-up show they’ve curated at Rabbithole Studio in Brooklyn, NY, lean in to the saccharine and the sharp-edged implications of the term. “Intimacy Art Show,” a first-time curation collaboration from the two artists, who have been friends and collaborators in other forms for several years, captures their shared fascination with the human urge for closeness. “It may mean something a little different for everyone, but we’ve all experienced it in some way or another,” Sweeney told The Huffington Post via email.

The show features photography by both Tsuru and Sweeney, which reveal the poignancy and risk inherent in getting intimate with someone else. But the curators also admitted that they were overwhelmed by the unexpected and revealing submissions they received from other artists.

“‘Jewels from the Hinterland’ … addresses questions of place, belonging, and perceived cultural identity within the African Diaspora,” said Sweeney of a photo series by Naima Green. “There is such a beautiful, deep sense of intimacy with nature.” In her artist’s statement, Green pointed out, “There is a dominant narrative that situates brown bodies in green spaces for work, never for leisure.” Her photographs subvert this, showing black and brown people relaxing and connecting with their natural surroundings.

Tsuru commented on a rather shocking photograph, by Molly Broxton, of herself with her late dog’s fur. “It was just so beautiful and touching and exactly the kind of atypical thinking I was hoping to see,” Tsuru told HuffPost. “Intimacy is many things, it’s letting people or other beings or things into our lives in a deeper more personal way.” 

Intimacy seems like a self-evidently desirable experience, as the loving smiles and tender embraces in many of these works suggest. But it’s also a fraught process for many people, one that invites the possibility of heartbreak, loss and betrayal. At best, intimacy can be weird, occasionally intrusive, exclusionary to those on the outside. Tsuru told HuffPost they want viewers to confront the more difficult aspects of intimacy as well. “We’d love if some of the viewers even felt a little uncomfortable, in a good way, like feeling a bit broken open.”

“In a good way,” of course, is still the operative phrase. “We hope people walk away from the show with more of an open mind about being intimate,” Tsuru added. “The risk is worth the experience.

View more selections from “Intimacy Art Show” below, and if you’re near NYC, head to Brooklyn to enjoy the one-night-only show Saturday, August 22 at Rabbithole Studio. For more from Aaron Tsuru and Kate Sweeney, check out their personal websites.

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7 Things I Want My Son to Know About Leadership

Standing in a crowded gym I watched as my teenage son and several of his friends took to the basketball court. He’s been playing sports since he was four years old and in many ways is a natural athlete when it’s channeled and honed by the great coaches he’s had. In prior seasons it’s taken him a good five minutes or so of play to warm up and adjust to being watched by a crowd of people. This year though, as one of only two eighth-graders on the varsity team, there’s no time for warming up. From tip off to the final buzzer he’s pretty much in, unless he gets fouled out. He’s pretty aggressive. I don’t mind that because I think it will serve him well someday. But this year I’ve witnessed a change.

The shy kid who was reluctant to take a shot is not only hitting occasional three pointers but his shoulders have changed. He stands solid, he’s encouraging his teammates, and he’s taking more control. It’s a metamorphosis on the hardwood. I’m witnessing the former shy kid show confidence and leadership. I’m amazed and proud. As he moves beyond middle school, I’m sure I’ll be in awe of plenty of other changes. Meanwhile, I hope I can look back and see that I’ve taught him these seven things, I believe every leader should know.

Leaders are proud of their roots. Never, ever be ashamed of your family, your faith, your friends, or your job. Where you come from is ok, and where others come from is okay. In fact it’s better than okay. The road to the person we become is paved by all those things. Besides, I once heard “my home may be someone else’s dream home, my car someone else’s dream car, my job someone else’s dream job.” Be proud, just don’t be prideful. The most shameful thing you can do is treat others less than yourself. Rather than chasing acceptance or approval from others, pursue your purpose and help show others theirs.

Leaders Communicate. Be confident and comfortable looking others in the eye. Soak up information and know your stuff. Knowing how to share your knowledge effectively is a skill. Be humble and bear in mind that no one likes a know-it-all. Know when to step up to the plate. Know when to step back. Don’t be a fake flatterer or tell people things just to tickle their egos. The most valued people are those who can keep confidence and who also speak truth out of genuine concern. Become to the go-to person who will shoot straight with people. You don’t always have to speak first. Sometimes it’s best to be last. Be kind, fair, and judicious in all you say, and above all remember this: Sometimes the most powerful or effective thing you can say is nothing at all.

Leaders Show Respect. You might feel that others need to earn your respect, but a leader shows respect in everything, every day. Respect property. Respect laws. Respect tradition but also respect dreams, innovation, and new ideas. Respect our leaders. Respect our country. Respect the process, and those who fight to preserve our freedoms. Respect the one you love in public and in private, and finally, for the sake of your integrity have a strong sense of self-respect.

Leaders Show Strength. Many people have ideas about what it means to be strong. Real strength is shown in how you react to life’s circumstances, surprises, and failures. Our strength is proven through our determination. Be relentless in pursuing your dreams, but remember “a dream is just a wish without a plan.” Strong people make plans, and strong people can accept when plans need to change. The key is just to have a plan. Have the guts to stand up for what’s right. For example, silence when someone is bullied or mistreated is a sign of weakness and being a bully just makes you a jerk or worse. Be resilient, be driven and own up to your mistakes. That is strength.

A Leader is Someone You can Count On. Unless there’s an emergency (a real one), if you say you’ll do something, do it. Be where you said you’ll be, do what you said you’d do, and in the rare event you can’t meet your obligation ask forgiveness, and make it right.

Leaders Are Human and It’s Okay to Show it. Part of the problem in our broken world is that too many people are afraid to express love or emotions because of poor examples or negative life experiences. Don’t shy away from emotion. Don’t ever let anyone tell you it’s not ok to “feel” something. Show affection when it’s appropriate. And hey, it’s okay to shed a tear over things that matter, just don’t be a crybaby or whiner when things don’t go your way. There’s a difference. One way to show your humanity is by serving others. Remember that it’s difficult to feed hate when we’re feeding others together and it’s hard to tear people down when we’re building something together. Show you care, and if you really care, you’ll act on it.

Leaders Solve Problems. Be a problem solver. There’s a big difference between “problems” and “situations.” No matter how big or small the problem is, if you don’t like something or you see an injustice, then commence to changing it. There’s almost always more than one way to solve a problem. Remember not every problem can be solved overnight, but you have to start somewhere.

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These Photos Will Make You Want To Put Your Phone Down Forever

It looks like smartphones really have killed the concept of “idle time.”

Last year, photographer Babycakes Romero captured an array of images showing people glued to their mobile devices when they could otherwise be having a conversation, enjoying dinner or simply staring into space. The series, titled “The Death of Conversation,” was published on Bored Panda and ultimately led to a TEDx Talk this Tuesday.

In the time that’s passed since he first published the photo series, Romero says the smartphone problem — as he sees it — has only gotten worse.

“As smartphones encompass more and more of people’s lives everyone is turning to them more and more as every aspect of their existence has been digitized and made accessible to them 24/7,” Romero told The Huffington Post via email.

You’ve probably noticed something like this in your own life: You’re at dinner with someone, there’s a lull in the conversation, and suddenly both of you are checking your smartphones. Romero says the devices become an excuse to hide a “lost connection” between people.

“It is sad that this technology which was supposed to connect people is making them disconnect from each other in person,” Romero told HuffPost.

Agree or not, his photos offer pretty striking evidence that people everywhere are hooked on their smartphones. Take a look for yourself:

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Chinese couturier Guo Pei became an international fashion superstar the moment Rihanna took her first step on the Met Gala red carpet in May—but if the designer had her way, RiRi wouldn’t have worn it at all.

“I actually didn’t think the dress was the right one for her,” Guo told WWD. “I thought it would be too heavy and too hot, but she was so touched the moment she put it on.”

Bad-gal RiRi knows what works for her, though. The embroidered cape with fur trim and mile-long train was arguably the most photographed—and talked-about—dress of fashion’s biggest night. Pei revealed that the cape weighs 55 pounds and took nearly two years to make. Talk about conviction!

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Kate Moss‘ younger sister Lottie might have entered the modeling world, but the supermodel has another mini-me who’s not keen on the catwalk: her daughter with magazine editor Jefferson Hack, 12-year-old Lila Grace.

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The tween opened herself up to Internet questions via her since disabled ask.fm page, resulting in an admission that just like everyone else and their mom, sometimes Moss embarrasses her. Thanks to an ask about what she envisions for her future, the world knows that while Lila might like to become a designer, she has no aspirations of super-dom (“mayb a fashion designer idrk but defo not a model” (sic)). For a favorite designer, she named Stella McCartney.

Kate’s daughter certainly has time to change her mind, but hearing that it’s a profession that holds little interest is seriously surprising. With the children of ’90s superstars coming of age right about now, we’ve seen an entire wave of genetically blessed offspring rise up and say they want to model (like gorgeous daughters belonging to Cindy Crawford and Sylvester Stallone, respectively).

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What the Dying Want You to Know About Life

It was a rainy December day when I knocked on Melissa and Bradley’s* door for the first time. I was pregnant, cold, wet and without an umbrella; it rarely rains here. Melissa answered the door, quiet, sullen, with dark bags under her eyes, and probably (definitely) anemic. She devoted all of her time to taking care of Bradley, at her expense. Since his ALS diagnosis, Bradley had become steadily weaker, less capable. Refusing a voice-assistive device, he had been reduced to grunts and nods, a barely effective means of communication. He had been robbed of ability to stand, walk or to use his limbs at all.

Melissa embraced me in the doorway, the desperate grip of someone who had lost hope. She had never seen me. No matter.

Hospice does that to people. It makes strangers family.

Melissa took my saturated sweater, saying, “I don’t see your wings, but I know they are there. You are surely an angel.” She invited me in, offered me a cookie and showed me a seat.

That day stands out, maybe because Bradley and Melissa are so much like me and my husband. Maybe because I saw my own sullen face in hers. Maybe because of the profound fear that I felt; the fear of losing someone you love so deeply, so deeply that the world couldn’t possibly continue to move around the sun without them.

When you tell people you’re a hospice nurse, the default comment is always, “Oh I could never do that. I would cry all the time.” In truth, those who work in hospice do cry, not every day, but certainly enough. Still, despite the tears shed, there is a real privilege in being at the bedside of the dying. I’ve traded my stethoscope in (at least temporarily) for a laptop. But my hospice experiences are indelibly etched, and what I learned from the dying is important.

And worth sharing.

Don’t sweat the small stuff (it’s all small stuff). At the end of your life, everything that’s not vitally important — oh, let’s say, whether or not your pants are too tight — suddenly seems really unimportant. Ask yourself if what worries you will still worry you in 10 or 20 or 50 years. Answer honestly.

Don’t ignore pains, aches or symptoms of disease. Especially those involving the breast, testicles, bowels or skin. This isn’t particularly deep or moving. But it’s important. These things sneak up on you. Many people wish they had faced their fear, seen the doctor earlier and gotten treatment earlier.

Money is an illusion. You think you need so much. In the end, you don’t really need any of it. Prioritize people and experiences over possession.

The key to a long life? There isn’t one. But a 105-year-old woman told me she lived to be that old because she, “didn’t take no shit from no one.” The same woman told me that the one piece of advice she’d give any woman is this: “A woman can do any damn thing a man can do. You don’t need no man for nothing.” From the mouths of the incredibly old. Sage wisdom.

Your body is just a vessel for your soul. Quit looking in the mirror. Quit obsessing over your wrinkles, your ass, your dress size. Quit worrying about your hair, makeup, saggy breasts, varicose veins, stretch marks or that mole on your chin (unless it might be cancerous). Quit thinking about any of that shit. It all fades anyway, one way or another.

Repair what’s broken. Above all else, at the end of their life, the one regret that every person shares is broken relationships. Whether it’s with your parents, your children or your siblings, if it can be repaired, repair it. Don’t do it to your detriment, but if it can be done, do it. At the end, love is everything.

In hospice there are a lot of tears, and a lot to learn.

*names and some details have been changed to protect patient privacy

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You Want Attention? Talk About Me, Not You

I don’t mean to literally talk about me, Tucker Max, that would be a terrible way to get attention.

I am talking about “me” in the plural sense, as the customer or reader or client. Lemme explain. Every single day of my life, someone asks me this question:

“How do I get people to pay attention to my writing? What’s your trick?”

So I’ll ask them who their writing is for, and this is what they say:

“Me, me, me, me, me, me! MEEEE!! EVERYONE LOOK AT ME!!”

OK, I’m exaggerating. They usually don’t scream, but the answer is always about themselves, never about their audience. They tell me what their book or blog post or writing means to them. Most people write only with themselves in mind, and not with an audience in mind.

And that’s precisely the reason why no ones care about their writing.

It’s really funny that Tucker Max is telling you this, isn’t it? To not focus on yourself? Because you’re probably thinking, “Didn’t you sell millions of books that were just talking about yourself?”

Actually, no.

My books are the perfect example of the right way to do this. Even if you’re a huge fan and read all my books cover to cover, you still don’t know very much about me at all. My books are funny stories about stupid things I did, and they are designed to entertain the reader. There is almost nothing in there that is actually about me, or written for me. It’s all written for the reader – which is why it sells so well, and that is key lesson here. If you’re trying to get attention for your writing – or actually, ANY product or idea at all – please listen to this fact:

No one cares about your writing. They only care about what your writing does for them.

This is the best advice you can get for trying to get anyone to do anything – read your writing, buy your product, go to your bar, anything. My area of expertise is writing and books and publishing, but this applies to everything. See, watch it work:

No one cares about your product, they only care about what your product does for them.

And of course, services:

No one cares about your service, they only care about what your service does for them.

Watch it work in all sales:

No one cares about what you’re selling, they only care about what it does for them.

It even works in broad categories, like ideas:

No one cares about your idea, they only care about what your idea means to them.

I bet you understand already. We’re all sophisticated buyers of products and services, and this is how we buy things for ourselves  - - by calculating if the product or service will provide a value to us.

Yet, when the roles are reversed and people start trying to get attention for their product or service, they lose their damn minds, and somehow think that everyone has to pay attention to them just because they want them to. It’s like as a society we have decided to be perfectly rational buyers, and totally irrational sellers.

But at least with a product or a service, people ultimately understand that they’re making something for someone else. So unless they are blinded by the self-proclaimed brilliance of their idea/product, they eventually get that it has to appeal to the buyer. With books or blog posts or writing, people really lose their minds, because people think of a their writing in a totally different way.

Most people see their writing as a piece of themselves, as a representation of their identity, or some sort of personal validation. They think that getting attention for their writing will confirm and validate their idea, and thus themselves. I have seen this over and over and over.

I would say less than 10 percent of the writing I see is actually about delivering value to an audience; the rest is ultimately about the writer, not the audience. You’re probably making this mistake too, without even realizing it.

This is literally what we deal with everyday in our publishing company. When we started our company, we thought the most important service we provided to authors was saving them time (our process only takes authors about 12 hours). That time saving is great, but the real value we provide to authors comes from helping them see exactly what wisdom they have that’s interesting to other people  —  which is the only way to get attention for your book.

We charge a decent sized fee for our services, but I’ll explain to you exactly what we do to get authors to understand this, because if you write anything for anyone  —  a book, blog, newsletter  —  this is process will make your writing better.

There’s three basic steps that will ensure you get attention for your book or blog post (and yes, this works almost the exact same way for anything):

-What is your goal for this book/blog post/piece of writing (or product or service or idea)?

-What audience do you need to reach in order to accomplish that goal?

-What wisdom, information or value can you deliver to that audience that will help them reach their goals?

Do you see what that process does? It centers the entire discussion on the audience, not on yourself. Why does this matter? Because no one cares about your writing, they care about what your writing does for them.

I’ll give you a specific example of how we took an author through this process, how it turned his book from a dud into something that got a ton of attention, and it will show you how to do this with your writing (or product):

This entrepreneur wanted to write a book about how he built a large commercial plumbing contracting business, in order to drive clients to his business and raise his profile in the plumbing industry. He was very proud of his company and wanted more people to know about it (and I think he secretly had visions of this book elevating him alongside famous business people like Jack Welch and Sheryl Sandberg). There was a small problem:

No one on earth wants to read a self-congratulatory book about plumbing (I won’t make the obvious poop joke here).

We walked him through our exercise, and he realized that the audience he needed to hit in order to reach his goal (people who buy commercial plumbing services or care about the plumbing industry) were never going to read his book  —  unless he said something of interest to them.

So we asked him a bunch of questions about plumbing, the problems in the business, his experiences, and realized something: He had an incredible way of evaluating and speccing out commercial jobs that was genuinely revolutionary (at least as far as you can revolutionize plumbing). And guess what? That information would be incredibly valuable to the exact audience he needed to hit: people who buy commercial plumbing services.

So that’s what his book became  —  the definitive guide on how to evaluate and spec out commercial plumbing jobs. Which will NOT put him next to the titans of business, but it WILL get him in front of exactly the people he wants, in exactly the way he wants it.

And it’s happening only because he used his wisdom to help his audience reach their goals.

See how this works? This is the key to getting attention for any writing  –  books, blog posts, even tweets  —  first make your writing about the other person, help them reach their goals, and that will inspire them to both engage your writing and then share it with others. That’s the only writing that anyone cares about reading  –  the writing that helps them.

You decide what to read based on the same calculus, right  —  what is potentially useful to you? So why do you think anyone will read your writing based on what it means to you? They won’t. Write with your audience in mind, and then getting attention is easy. And if you do that, then they will engage your writing (or product or idea), and that is how you reach your goal.

As my friend Justine Musk says, “The question isn’t how the world can cater to your passions, but how your passions can cater to the world.”

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Want a Lasting Relationship? Embrace This One Agreement

The other night I had dinner with a friend and she asked me about the agreements my husband and I had made when we decided our relationship would be different from anything either of us had ever had before.

Listening to her question, I was suddenly silent but then I remembered.

It was shortly after he and I had confessed our love to one another and were discussing our future.

“If we’re going to be together it has to be totally different from anything we’ve ever had before,” I’d offered. “So many relationships end up being about power or control and I don’t want that anymore.”

He’d agreed and added, “Most relationships are based on conditional love, too. The ‘you only love me because.’ Those end up being about tearing each other down.”

“Can’t there be another way? Another kind of relationship that lifts both people up?”

“Yeah,” he replied, “but it has to be about God first and about honoring the God within each other.”

Instantly I knew he was right. “That’s it!”

So what exactly is that, honoring the God within each other?

A simple way to think about it is the Hindi greeting, Namaste, commonly used across India but also often spoken amongst yoga practitioners. Translated it means the divinity in me recognizes the divinity in you.

Honoring the God in one another is about appealing to the higher self in all of us, the one yearning to be seen, heard and acknowledged. It’s about me rising into this space within myself and then seeing it in my partner and speaking to this aspect of him or her.

This kind of commitment is a relationship based on mutual love and respect.

It’s wanting your partner to live her passion, and encouraging her to take leaps and risks when they feed her and move her toward fulfilling her dreams and happiness. It’s giving your partner space to grow and evolve even if it means they leave you or aren’t always there for you.

This actually recently played out in my intimate relationship.

In 2004, my husband and I started a business together. After working side by side for nearly a decade, I was ready to move on. I knew it was time for me to shift careers yet I felt bad about leaving him to run the business on his own.

He could have easily fed that guilty place in me and said things to trigger it. Then I would have stayed because I love him and because I felt obligated since we’d started the business together.

Instead, he encouraged me to leave.

He was excited about what I was doing and the new direction my life was taking. It meant his life got harder initially, because it took time to fill the void I left. But he never wavered in his support of my new venture.

Now, he’s happier than ever and so am I. My shift allowed him to step more fully into roles that he had shied away from too.

He chose to remember our agreement of honoring the higher self in each of us, the God. He gave me both the room and the encouragement to follow my new path.

Change isn’t always easy, especially in our intimate relationships. It causes us to shift too as we make room for the other person to unfold. Yet when we choose to honor each other and celebrate who we are, not only is it more fulfilling but energizing too.

Positive change brings new opportunities and enthusiasm, which can be contagious and inspiring. We all know how good it feels when we’re in our flow. We are more alive, more present and more connected. Isn’t that what we all want for ourselves and for our loved ones?

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I Want to Outlive My Child (And 3 Other Horrible Truths About Being a Special Needs Parent)

We all know the brave, strong, inspiring images of parents of kids with significant special needs who wear their challenges like a suit of armor. I have been that parent sometimes. I have also been the parent who is crying so hard that I can’t speak because I don’t know what to do. There are also several dark truths that we all feel, but mostly don’t discuss.

1. I want to outlive my child.

We live in fear of what will happen to our son or daughter when we die. Where will they live? Will anyone care for them like we have? I know there are excellent group homes out there and I know that I can’t afford any of them. I know there are compassionate, wonderful people who work in state-funded homes, but I don’t know how to find them. These are thoughts that steal sleep or wake me in the middle of the night.

2. Most of us dread summer.

The majority of special needs kids need routine like the rest of us need air. School provides the structure these kids need and the break or daycare the parents need. It is an awful misrepresentation to call school daycare, but it’s a harsh reality most of us face because after middle school, it is exceedingly difficult to find a daycare that will accept our child. Some states have excellent summer school programs. In most, however, there is so little funding for special needs summer school that the slots go to those who are close friends with Harry Potter.

I am fortunate to be able to stay home full-time with my son, Caleb, but it makes summer drag out like endless loops of fishing wire. The first month of summer we usually search for routine with lots of swimming (which results in several ear infections), lots of visits to the library, maybe a movie or two and my feeble attempts to emulate the educational models Caleb’s teacher flawlessly presents every day. At some point in those four weeks, Caleb begs out of these activities. He wants to be at school with his teachers and his friends. Their routine trumps anything I could even attempt.

By the time school resumes, I am weakened and depressed from the toll of long summer days. Caleb’s health issues make summer even more challenging, because he can’t regulate his body temperature and will die if he gets too hot. Summer camps are usually not an option for him because of his specific temperature needs. Aside from swimming, we are restricted indoors and that takes a toll on both of us.

3. Worse than summer, we dread the day our child turns 21.

Federal law requires that students with disabilities can attend public school until the year in which they turn 21. It is amazing that education is extended for these students, but it ends there. After age 21, parents are left scrambling to find programs for their young adults. I have visited several day programs that mimic school for young adults. Some are really structured and provide wonderful outlets for young adults with special needs. These are usually the ones that cost the most, excluding many of the people who need these programs. Some of these programs provide services for a few hours a day, not a full day, which leaves parents who work with untenable choices.

Because our kids are mentally much younger than age 21, many of us are reluctant to start the search for a group home until we are physically unable to care for our child. At a time when our friends are either enjoying or dreading an empty nest, we are left with no choices.

4. We often have to take away our child’s rights to make their own decisions.

When our special needs child reaches age 18, many of us have to file for guardianship. This is a complicated process which involves attorneys (and their fees), court appearances and letters from doctors. The premise is that because the child is chronologically an adult, they have the right to refuse medical treatment, including things like an ambulance ride, necessary medications or surgeries. An ambulance could show up at the front door and if the young adult doesn’t want to get on it, the ambulance drivers have to respect their wishes, unless guardianship is in place and the parent can demand that the young adult be treated.

Guardianship may be necessary, but it is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do for Caleb. It boils down to petitioning the court to acknowledge that he is an incapacitated person. It is effectively taking away his right to make his own decisions, and that is a very sad process. I walked out of court the day guardianship was final with my head down and my heart heavy.
I believe these are universal unspoken truths for special needs parents. They weigh us down even when we’re not thinking of them. So, if you see one of us on a good day and we still seem a bit down, it’s because the future looms like a black cloud that fills the whole sky. We all want the best for our kids and many of us fear we may not be able to provide it.

These are ugly, frightening thoughts. I spent the majority of Caleb’s childhood trying to avoid them and the guilt they impose. As time does, it has brought these issues to the surface, which requires action. I have a blog called neverlandwithoutagps.com and it was born out of these ideas. My son will always be Peter Pan, a child in an adult’s body. I find us living in Neverland without much guidance. I am leaning heavily on my friends with older kids, listening to what they have learned and watching what they do. I hope by the time Caleb is 21 that I will be able to help the parents coming along behind us.

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The 2 Things Women Want In Bed That We’re Not Talking About

A month or so back, I found myself in a gay club dancing with lovely men who made me feel fun, sexy and beautiful, but had absolutely no interest in tempting me away from my domestic haven.

However, I came home from that experience feeling restless and mid-life crisis-y.

I realized my 17-year relationship (now-marriage) had some predictable sexual patterns, which happens in any long-term relationship. But suddenly, I felt a strong compulsion to break free of those patterns. (Could it be turning 50?)

Though I wanted to shake things up, I knew swinging, polyamory or, in turn-of-the-century Lady Mary/”Downton Abbey” vernacular, “taking a lover” would be the death knell of my treasured marriage, therefore not the kind of “shaking things up” I wanted to do.

So, I turned to my man for help.

What makes my husband so incredibly badass is that when I said, “I think I’m having a midlife crisis. I’m sexually bored.” He instantly replied, “Let’s do something about it!”

Realizing it was my issue, not his, I went to see my former font-of-wisdom (a.k.a. therapist) and admitted that I didn’t want the intimate, tender lovemaking that typified my bedroom. Instead, I found books and movies where women are sexually ravished and even aggressively taken exciting. And that I judged myself for it.

I’ve been a sex columnist, which suggests Sexual Libertine, but in many ways I’m repressed. I was raised Mormon, so my psychological, sexual landscape has definitely been impacted by the sexual repression in that culture leaving me to to frequent battle with the Morality Police, priggish Jacques and Ferrar, that live inside my head.

My therapist, who is often a place of temperate permission, explained that she believes, and I quote:

“The ravishment fantasy is most likely the rule for women, rather than the exception.”

 

She cited a recent documentary on the endangered big cat, the Canadian Lynx, where she described how aggressive the male is with the female during the mating ritual.

The male will bite the female’s neck, scratching her and holding her down forcefully. My doc surmised that humans most likely have a genetic or biological sexual impulse that is very similar to that of animals.

After my session, whilst googling the keyphrase: What do Women Want in Bed? I stumbled on a recent Ask Men article titled, 5 Things Women Secretly Want In Bed. Two of them made my Morality Police, irascible Jacques and Ferrar, take note.

The author wrote:

#1 Get Aggressive In Bed: Just about every woman I encountered had the words ‘more aggressive sex’ rolling off her tongue. From being tied up and spanked to having their hair pulled and being mildly asphyxiated, the women were quite enthusiastic about aggressive sex. Of course, I’m not implying that you should go home and smack your (lady) up, but instead, maybe a little roughing in the bedroom can work wonders for your sex life.

#3 Treat Her Like A Prostitute: (Shannon here: this language might offend the feminists in many of us. But I agree with the spirit of the note.)

Ah, fantasies, the beauty of them lies in the fact that many are not realized. But as one woman put it: ‘I am tired of being that precious lady in the bedroom. I’m tired of making love and doing things gently all the time.’ (Shannon quietly raises hand)

‘I want him to have raunchy sex with me and talk to me as though he just met me and cares nothing about what I want. I want him to ravish me like an animal and tell me to be quiet whenever I try to say something.’

I guess, in the end, there are plenty of women who want to be, for lack of a better word, slutty in the bedroom. They simply fear that if they behave in such a manner, then their men will think less of them, and some are even afraid that their men will mistakenly begin treating them differently outside the bedroom as well. All the same, many women are big fans of scenarios such as the one described.

In the last quote I particularly appreciate that the author has made a distinction between what women like in bed versus what they prefer in real life.

All of this is food for thought and a catalyst to ex-communicate the puritanical, prudish, Victorian Jacques and Ferrar with regards to my midlife ennui.

I recognize that my sexual relationship with my husband hasn’t stopped growing. It’s been stunted a bit by the last 13 years of raising children, but there is nothing that says we can’t pick up the reins and continue to grow and even surprise each other as the years unfold.

I think the ace we have up our sleeve is genuine goodwill toward each other and a willingness to communicate, even the trickiest most vulnerable, uncomfortable stuff.

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Venice Biennale Arte 2015: Doug Argue’s Scattered Rhymes, a Satellite Exhibit You’ll Want to See

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On May 9th the 2015 Venice Biennale Arte officially opens to the public. Yet for the last week the Jewel of the Adriatic has been buzzing with activity. The stylish art crowd, dressed with a proper dose of eccentricity, arrived early and from around the globe. Holding envied invitations to a plethora of exhibit inaugurations and vernissage, the press, contemporary artists, patrons and the who’s who of the art world crossed ancient thresholds into Venetian gardens, Renaissance palaces, galleries and the multitude of Country sponsored pavilions to raise their prosecco chalices to creative expression.

Last Wednesday, Save Venice, the New York based organization which has raised more than 20 million dollars to restore 400 works of art and architecture in Venice, Italy, debuted as an advocate for contemporary art. A cherished invitation to their event led me passed the Accademia di Belle Arti–Academy of Fine Arts–down a tight secluded alleyway lit by a sliver of early evening sky, and into Doug Argue’s Scattered Rhymes satellite Biennale exhibit. Off the calle and up worn marble steps, I entered the 15th century Palazzo Contarini dal Zaffo’s rectangular shaped magazzino where four aging brick walls, an ancient wood beamed ceiling and floor contrast and embrace the American artist’s four Venetian inspired oil on canvas pieces. Time and Again, Cosa Mentale, Mother Tongue and my favorite, Calle: a 91 x 280 inch blast of color, energy and light. Mr. Argue, a talented and gracious man, explained that the sliver of Venetian sky I had left in the alleyway was his inspiration for this painting. Perhaps that explains why I find Calle–Italian for alley–so intriguing.

Gazillion miniscule drops of color cover the enormous canvas like the aurora borealis weaving through the Milky Way. Calle, like Argue’s other three works on display, draws you in and holds you there to study and examine its detail only to send you across the room, never letting you take your eyes away, until you’re drawn back, once again, to discover tiny letters falling across the canvas forming the word consolations; bits of communication floating in the midst of a grand presence connect, like the night sky, to deliver a larger message.

What makes the piece all the more interesting is Mr. Argue’s technique of using the brush and medical syringes to create a constellation of texture, movement, and layers. Holding a syringe loaded with paint in one hand and standing above the blank canvas that he had extended across the floor, Argue used the palm of his other hand to shoot the color up into the air, injection after injection, and let the drops fall onto the canvas. Drops form more perfect circles when they fall freely, is what he told me.

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Born in St. Paul, Minnesota and now based in New York City, Doug Argue was twenty-four years old when he first visited Venice, Italy. Now, almost thirty years later, he describes the work he is proud to exhibit in the city that continues to inspire him–words I think well define Venice and her contemporary dilemmas, too:

“There are many different histories in the world, in both art and politics, and we often see things in the current moment, yet have no idea what lies beneath. One language is always turning into another, one generation is always rising and another falling, there is no still moment. I am trying to express this flux–this constant shifting of one thing over another, like a veil over the moment itself.”

Recently, two of Doug Argue’s paintings were commissioned for the lobby of One World Trade Center in Manhattan, and others are held in the collections at the Minneapolis Institue of Art and the Weisman Art Museum. Other pieces have been shown in solo exhibitions from Santa Monica, California to Yerevan, Armenia. Now, I expect, and hope, that his Venetian inspired pieces will find good homes, too. My “know what you like, know what you don’t like” layperson’s opinion is that Calle merits a special place–perhaps in a European or American modern art museum, where the Venetian sky can be seen by many and for many generations to come.

Doug Argue’s Scattered Ryhmes Exhibit
5 May-30 September 2015
Palazzo Contarini del Zaffo, Dorsoduro 878, Venice
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Want a Great Relationship? Don’t Go to Bed Angry

The first time I got married, I was young, naïve and foolish. I didn’t genuinely understand what it meant to share a life with another person even though I was absolutely convinced I did. I also wanted to do my marriage differently than what I’d seen my parents do.

I’d witnessed the hostility, frustration and dysfunction first hand. Instead, I wanted a healthy, loving relationship. But because my mom, dad and stepdad were my role models, I ended up re-enacting what I’d experienced even when it was the last thing I’d planned.

Meanwhile, my heart craved something else entirely, something other than what I was creating. It longed for intimacy, love, connection, to feel understood. These sounded romantic and simple but eluded me.

What I had and what I wanted were miles apart only I pretended that wasn’t the case and acted as if everything was perfect. Until it all came apart.

Looking back I see that the main challenge, the thing that successfully unraveled my relationship, wasn’t one singular event. It was the opposite. It was the small, every day, ordinary moments that poked the holes.

What am I talking about?

Here’s a scenario:

It’s a Friday night and we’re watching a movie, one of those heart wrenching, soul mate tearjerkers. Naturally, I start crying. My husband rolls his eyes and snorts, implying that I’m pathetic.

I instantly feel hurt and reject him back, turning away from him in bed, holding my wounded-ness like a cloak around me.

I could have told him how I felt. Instead, I justified my silence with thoughts like: He doesn’t understand or care. Rationalizations that were probably untrue but re-enforced my pain and hurt.

These moments seemed trite and inconsequential when they occurred but added up over time, they eroded trust until one day, a decade later, I looked up and realized I was standing on the opposite bank of an emotional gulf from my partner.

How did that happen?

From all the little hurts — me nagging about the laundry, him disappointing me by working Saturdays, me criticizing him about a monthly gym membership he’d never use, him not getting me a card for my birthday… and on and on. We didn’t talk about these little upsets and chose to go to bed feeling hurt and angry.

Needless to say, our relationship splintered and I decided that I was done. Done with power and control masquerading as love. No more partners.

Instead, I’d take care of myself and my girls. I wasn’t ready for another relationship and I certainly didn’t want one that wasn’t really about love.

It was time for me to learn how to be loving which began with me learning how to love myself. I also had to understand how to make room for other people and that meant surrendering my need for control. And most importantly, giving up criticism.

It took awhile and frankly, I was skeptical that real love even existed.

Then I got surprised. Love came to me, as it usually does, when I least expected it.

This time my partner and I agreed to do things differently. Consequently, he and I talk about everything. We’re open about our feelings and even about how we want to be with each other. This led us to creating agreements that govern our relationship.

One of these is to not go to bed angry. I’ll admit that sometimes this is really hard to do. Especially when I feel hurt or wronged.

In those moments it’s hard to be emotionally vulnerable. It’s much easier to fall into blame or feel like a victim. But I value what we have together and I remember how going to bed angry whittled away my previous relationship.

I know it’s worth speaking up because then those little things won’t accumulate. They won’t slowly push me away emotionally so I stop opening up and sharing.

Instead, when I do finally speak my words of upset, those words of truth, the opposite occurs.

I feel even more seen, heard and loved. I am honored and taken care of because I choose to share my vulnerability instead of holding in the hurt.

It’s been 11 years and I can honestly say that my current husband and I are even closer today than we were all those years ago. A big reason why is because we consistently try to honor this agreement and not go to bed angry.

So the next time you feel hurt, disappointed or upset with your partner, try talking about it.

Tell him or her how you feel. See if your partner can understand your point of view and perhaps offer some insight into theirs. It may bring you to a new level of intimacy with one another and deepen the bond you have.

Shakti Sutriasa is the Founder of DecideDifferently.com, a personal development company offering life coaching, counseling and workshops. Her unique approach combines modern psychology and spirituality to support people seeking positive change and self-transformation. Shakti is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and has an MA in Education. Learn more at DecideDifferently.com

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Back to Tradition – The Classic Guide for Modern Brides Who Want a Unique and Memorable Wedding

Back to Tradition – The Classic Guide for Modern Brides Who Want a Unique and Memorable Wedding


It Will Be the Best Day or Your Life. .or the Most Embarrassing!” As a bride-to-be you want a wedding day that is both special and memorable. You’ve been waiting for this all your life and it needs to be perfect. If you’ve been planning your wedding and wondered what was missing, this book has the answer! I want you think back to when you were a little girl. Do you remember looking at photographs from your grandmother’s wedding? Perhaps some really old photographs from her mother’s wedding? What were these weddings like? Were they simple? Formal? Regardless of the “style” of wedding, I can tell you something that weddings from this time did have. Elegance. If you look at photographs of most modern weddings, you may see expensive gowns or fancy locations, but you don’t see the elegance. That’s something you can’t buy. Elegance is free. This book will help you to bring back the elegance and sophistication of weddings of the past. Mixing these classic wedding elements with the modern aspects of current weddings will enable you to create a one-of-a-kind event that will leave guests talking for years and be a monument to the love you feel for your soon-to-be husband. Eleanor Kennedy has been a wedding planner for over 40 years and successfully organized thousands of wedding and special events. She lives with her husband in La Jolla, California.

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I Just Want To Wear Sweat Suits to Work — Is That Too Much To Ask?

I have long been a proponent of function over fashion. Maybe it’s my total aversion to physical discomfort, but I just could never get behind spending the limited time I have on this earth with sore feet, or pants that make it hard to sit down, no matter how good they look. In fact, I would literally spend my life in a series of rotating sweat suits if only it were socially acceptable.

And I’m not saying that I roam the streets and workplace in my desired uniform (a.k.a. sweats and/or flannel pajamas). I’m a savvy enough person to know that my preferred choice of clothing would do more harm than good for me professionally (if not outright get me fired). So at the office or on any official business I stay within the expected and even “fashionable” arena. But I also know that the second I get home I’ll be changing into clothes I actually want to be wearing, and I know this is generally true of most everyone else I know.

So why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we, as thinking, rational creatures create a code of conduct that actively doesn’t feel good? Many people will argue that formal business attire increases worker productivity. But the actual consensus on this is hazy at best, and there has never actually been a single scientific study that supports it (and just ask the infamously casual yet immensely productive tech culture of Silicon Valley for some anecdotal evidence to the contrary).

I’ve also heard people say it’s a matter of self-respect. That the way you present yourself to the world is a reflection of how you believe others should treat you; that taking pride in your appearance is a way of showing pride in yourself. And to this I can only muster a half-hearted “meh.” I often feel just the opposite. I generally don’t care what others think of my style choices or appearance because I have self-respect and pride from within. I’m confident in what I have to offer when it comes to my mind and my ability to articulate my thoughts. Shouldn’t that be the better measure of self-love?

And others have just said, “Hey — at the end of the day, we’re animals, and we want to look attractive. It’s the most natural thing in the world.” My first response to this is simply, wait — isn’t the workplace one of the spaces we definitely shouldn’t be worrying about how attractive we are? And furthermore, I’m sitting here in front of an electric box that connects me with millions of other living souls, getting ready to file my taxes, and thinking about how I need to remember to pick up Drano for my shower. I think it’s safe to say we as humans have moved far passed the “we’re all just animals” stage of existence. I don’t buy that we’re all just slaves to our instincts or don’t have it in us to overcome “animalistic” tendencies.

So why do we do it? Why do we — myself included — consent to put ourselves through daily discomfort when we could literally all be working in a mecca of velour suits with elastic waistbands and cozy slippers? I genuinely don’t know but am curious what others think. And in the meantime, I’ll be the one at my desk waiting for the workplace revolution to come, Snuggie at the ready.

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Durant: Want to stick with OKC for whole career

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Geico Creates ‘Unskippable’ Preroll YouTube Ads That You’ll Want To Watch Till The End

After sitting through the first five unavoidable seconds of a YouTube preroll ad, most people don’t bother watching the spot till the end. But Geico is now hoping to change that with two new preroll commercials that promise to be “unskippable.”

Both Geico ads, created by The Martin Agency, cleverly place emphasis on the first five seconds, acknowledging that they only have those few moments to capture the audience’s attention.

“You can’t skip this Geico ad,” the commercial says, “because it’s already over.”

If viewers choose to continue watching, however, they’re rewarded with an unexpected and funny ending.

One of the ads features a family sitting around a dining table while another shows two friends enjoying a barbecue. Watch how the first commercial unfolds in the video above. The other ad can be viewed here:

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Don’t Want a Diamond? Here’s Your Just-as-Sparkly, Way-Less-Expensive Engagement Ring

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Skinny Bitch: A No-Nonsense, Tough-Love Guide for Savvy Girls Who Want to Stop Eating Crap and Start Looking Fabulous

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Not your typical boring diet book, this is a tart-tongued, no-holds-barred wakeup call to all women who want to be thin. With such blunt advice as, "Soda is liquid Satan" and "You are a total moron if you think the Atkins Diet will make you thin," it’s a rallying cry for all savvy women to start eating healthy and looking radiant. Unlike standard diet books, it actually makes the reader laugh out loud with its truthful, smart-mouthed revelations. Behind all the attitude, however, there’s solid guidance. "Skinny Bitch" espouses a healthful lifestyle that promotes whole grains, fruits, and vegetables, and encourages women to get excited about feeling "clean and pure and energized."
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28 Striking Wedding Photos You Don’t Want To Miss

After we published our picks for the 25 Must-See Wedding Photos From 2014, we received an overwhelming number of emails from brides, grooms and photographers alike telling us about all the incredible shots we missed.

We had so many great submissions, in fact, that we decided to do a follow-up post. Below are 28 of the best photos we received.

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Four and a Half Things That Men Really Want

Welcome back, devoted readers. Last time I told you what women really want in their heart of hearts. This time I will tell you what men really want. For free! Isn’t the Internet wonderful? Oh, before I start, you may notice that there are way fewer things on this list than the 10-point list I wrote about what women want. Do you know why? Well, without being too un-PC, it’s because men complain less than women. There, I said it. There are all sorts of reasons for this, but the evolutionary one is this: Women need a man to stick around and be emotionally invested in them, because for nine months of gestation and many years afterwards, she is vulnerable, pregnant and likely feels awful. Then, she gives birth and has a small human who depends on her. So, women need a man to prove he loves her and keep proving it so that she feels secure enough to mate with him and thus make herself physically vulnerable, which she would only do if she knows he will be protecting her and bringing her food and stuff.

Men need women who have sex with them so they can procreate. They want the woman to be loving and kind, so she can nurture the offspring of this union into maturity. See how many fewer sentences that was than my explanation about what women need? Point made.

Since I have explained why I believe that men are less nit-picky than women in terms of what they need from relationships, let’s move on to the few things that they do care about. Let’s say #1 together, everyone….

1. Sex.

This is really important to men. I have discussed it ad nauseum, but here is the best analogy: You like your husband to come in with a smile and ask about your day. You want your husband to act nice to you in private and in public. You want your husband to contribute to the home via working for an income and performing chores and childcare. He wants sex equally as much as you want all of those things. Use your empathy here. It is not “just sex.” A man 100% considers sex as important as you consider coming home and saying hi and eating dinner with you. The way that you would feel like crap if he came in and went directly upstairs and yelled “F off!” if you said hello to him, that is how he feels when you sexually reject him. For him, sex within marriage is the most basic form of loving interaction, the baseline.

2. Appreciation.

Men will do a truly startling amount of stuff for you if they feel appreciated, or even just not unappreciated.* Here are ways to show your husband you appreciate him: (1) Say, “I appreciate that.” (2) Be physically affectionate. (3) Say, “thank you.” (4) Tell him how your life is made easier because he did XYZ.

3. Chillness.

Every time you decide not to harp on an admittedly small detail of life and build it into a Big Thing, your husband loves you 1% more. So, if you change your usual behavior, you may be at 3,400% by the end of today. Here are some examples of things your husband wants you to chill out about: what tone your child just used, what happened to the throw pillow, why do we have two opened boxes of the same kind of cereal, whether you could have saved $ 10 if you remembered the coupon, what tone the school secretary used, how many days it has been since your sister texted you, whether you can or cannot eat the yogurt on its expiration date.

4. Affection.

Yes, sex matters, but so do physical and verbal intimacy in general. Hand holding, nicknames, hair ruffling, joking comments, touching on the arm, etc. This is what generally makes people feel connected and romantically involved rather than just co-CEO’s of a company that produces small children and messes.

4 1/2. For you to be interested in what interests them.

If they are into “the game,” which from what I can tell, indicates some sort of televised sporting event, then men like when you are interested in it too. But you know what? As you can tell from how little I know about “the game” and the fact that I am still married, this one is just gravy for most guys. It’s like for you, if your husband not only planned date night, but also ordered your favorite flowers to be sitting at the restaurant when you arrived. I mean, it’s awesome, but it’s not essential. My point is, you can get pretty far just being affectionate, sexual, appreciative and relaxed without also learning about fantasy football or model airplanes or World or Warcraft or whatever. But if you are interested in what interests them, all the better.

And, that’s all! Just four, and maybe that half for extra credit. Now, some of you are saying, “My husband really appreciates my cooking, or how well I organize and run the household, or that I always buy him new underwear. What’s that stuff, wasted effort?” And here is the nauseating answer: “Yes, yes it is, if you don’t do the stuff I listed above.” All that other stuff is great, but I have never seen a guy in couples counseling who says, “She won’t have sex more than once a month, but it’s okay, because I love her pierogis.” Unless “pierogis” is a code word for “oral sex.” So, if your marriage is under stress, or your husband acts distant, try the first four things I suggested, and then throw in the fifth for good measure, and during all that time, let the housework go, order in dinner every night and don’t buy him any underwear.  If your marriage doesn’t improve, I would be shocked.

Share with your husbands, because you know you want to know what they think. And until we meet again, I remain, The Blogapist Who is Like a Magical Oracle of Truth in the Guise of a Harassed Blogging Mother of Three.

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*Note: This is because a lot of stuff just doesn’t bother many guys, and they don’t pre-plan or overthink simple things. Like, if I have to take the garbage to the curb, I’m like, “Okay, so I have to get on my shoes, and then get out the next garbage bag and, wait, is it raining out? Am I done eating for the night or will there be more garbage in the bag later? Why did I buy these odor shield bags? How much were they? Is it cold out?” Meanwhile, a guy will just take it to the curb and be back in the house watching TV before you know it. I think some things are easier the less you care about them, and men have this firmly in the bag. So, basically, household chores for women are physical plus mental effort plus anxiety, whereas for men, they may just be physical effort because they just don’t care. My point in all of this is to say, if men feel like you appreciate them, they will do a lot of crap because honestly, a great deal of it is just not that important or difficult for them, since they don’t obsess about it while they are doing it.

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You Want To Go Where?

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Christopher Columbus needed a sponsor for a dangerous expedition but the King of Portugal wasn’t interested. He repackaged his proposal for the Queen of Spain. She put Columbus on retainer and the rest is history. Columbus may not have been the first to discover America, but he had a great publicist. That’s where Jeff Blumenfeld comes in. For many years, using a PR specialty called adventure marketing, Jeff has connected explorers and their projects with corporate sponsors looking to demonstrate product performance in extreme conditions. His book takes the reader from Erik Weihenmayer’s expedition to be the first blind man to summit Mt. Everest, to the first con-firmed dogsled expedition of the North Pole, to Audrey Mestre’s deadly free dive expedition off Bayahibe Beach in the Dominican Republic. You Want To Go Where? is the only book that not only takes you behind-the-scenes of some of the most dangerous adventure expeditions in recent years, but shows how you can fund and arrange your own trip, including details on everything from grants to sponsorships. For anyone who’s ever had a dream to scale the tallest mountain or cross the largest ocean, You Want To Go Where? is ideal for armchair explorers and budding adventurers alike.

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Azealia Banks: I want a new ruling power

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Two Women Hilariously Remind Us What Feminists Really Want For Christmas

We just found the song of the holiday season — and it’s got the perfect mix of Christmas cheer and patriarchy-smashing.

The Doubleclicks, described as a “nerd-pop-folk sister duo from Portland, Oregon” on their YouTube page, wrote “Sexist Bullshit (Christmas Song)” to remind everyone what feminists really want this holiday season.

These two feminists don’t want iPads, jet packs or even hover boards, as The Doubleclicks croon in the song, they want something so much more: “The ability to make sexist assholes disappear, is all I want for Christmas — it’s all I want this year!” If we could get the iPads, jet packs and a magic weapon to launch the demise of the patriarchy, that would be ideal. (That’s what the eight nights of Hanukkah are for, right?)

Sing on ladies! We’ll be humming this tune all the way into the New Year.

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‘Breaking Bad’ ‘Frozen’ Parody Asks ‘Do You Want To Build A Meth Lab?’

In April, Jesse Pinkman answered the question, “Do you want to build a snowman?” in the way only he could. Now, Walter White is at his door with a far more sinister proposal. Forcefully reminding a young Anna that he is the one who knocks, Walt begs Jesse to come build a meth lab. Despite humorous bits like Walt’s pants falling down at the door, the parody is actually quite the emotional ride, and for those who have yet to finish watching the full series, contains some serious spoilers. Watch the video above, but tread lightly.

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You’re Not Going To Want To Wait Until Black Friday To Snatch Up These Deals

We know, we know — there are tons of great deals happening on Black Friday and Cyber Monday — but we don’t think we can wait that long to buy all the amazing items we saw on our favorite stars this week.

Nicole Richie made a red carpet appearance in a $ 39 H&M dress, which she made look like couture while Bella Thorne rocked a cropped Mango sweater that was both cute and on-trend. And Mindy Kaling proved that cozy sweaters don’t have to cost an arm and a leg.

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Big Questions You Have To Ask Your Partner Before Marriage (If You Want To Avoid Divorce)

You don’t often hear newly engaged couples asking divorcés for marriage advice — but maybe they should.

Who better to school you on what doesn’t work in a marriage than someone who’s been there, done that, and got the t-shirt? Given that, we had to hand it to this marriage-bound Redditor who had the good sense to ask married folks and divorcés to weigh in with the conversations they wished they would have broached with their partners before tying the knot.

“Tell me your horror stories,” the Redditor bravely asked in her call-out. “Specific questions, not just money, children, sex but things that wouldn’t cross your mind until you’ve actually been married.”

Below, 11 of the most interesting responses.

1. “How does he try to make you feel loved and validated? Does it work? How do you try to make him feel loved and validated? Does it work?”

2. “Prenup or not to prenup?

3. “Do we have more than just love? I would step back from your relationship and look at the components besides love. We all like to believe ‘love will conquer all,’ but it doesn’t. It’s 100 percent necessary, but you also need trust, honesty, respect and forgiveness. Marriage is really freaking hard, especially when it has to withstand outside hardships, but if you have all four of the above, you can not only survive those things, but thrive in them.”

4. “Asking the hard questions about children is really important. Not just how many, but questions about education and religion and basic child-rearing philosophies. For school, are you thinking private, public or homeschooling? What about discipline? How do you feel about time outs, spankings and grounding?”

5. “Is your S.O. your absolute best friend? The person you respect most in the universe? If not, don’t marry them.”

6. “Are you sure you’re not just getting caught up in the hype of getting married? I’m divorced and mainly I wish I hadn’t ignored the red flags, which in my opinion, become harder and harder to recognize the closer you get to the wedding. Once you announce your engagement, your mindset turns more to the excitement of the wedding and you tend to turn a blind eye to the warning signs. Plus, the thought of canceling the wedding can be enough to convince anyone that they can somehow make it work. But trust me, divorce is harder than calling off a wedding.”

7. “Are you both completely satisfied with your sex lives? Is there anything either party wants but isn’t getting?”

8. “Ask yourselves all of these questions to make sure you’re prepared: 1. Accidental pregnancy, what do we do? 2. Fired/laid off from job, what do we do? 3. Financial crunch (car problems, medical bills, leaking water pipes, etc.), what do we do? 4. Our parents are getting old, what do we do?”

9. “I borrowed this more or less from Dan Savage: If one of us cheats, what is the outcome?

10. “One thing I wish I would have discussed with my husband is extended family dynamics. The one major problem we’ve ever had in 32 years of marriage is his family. They didn’t like me. I bent over backwards for these people and eventually won over his dad and won over his mom for the most part. His siblings and their spouses? Not so much. It caused many, many uncomfortable times for me and because my husband is super non-confrontational, he never stood up for me.”

11. “Define ‘marriage’ for yourselves. What exactly are you committing to?”

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After going through a devastating divorce, author Elizabeth Gilbert took a journey of self-discovery that led her to Italy, India and Bali. In Bali, she met a Brazilian-born man she called Felipe in her best-seller Eat, Pray, Love. Jose (Felipe’s real name) and Elizabeth eventually married, a journey she chronicled in her book Committed.

Through it all, Elizabeth says, she’s learned what a soul mate truly is. “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants,” she writes in Eat, Pray, Love. “But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention.”

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Iyanla wants women to understand how and why men use sex to get what they want, so she shows her audience how three men responded to that question.

Terence, a father of four children with two women, says most men don’t take a woman’s heart into consideration. Nathaniel, a man who has 28 children with 17 different women, says people may call him a womanizer, but the mothers of his children knew what they were getting into. “It takes two to tango, right?” he says.

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Dax Shepard Didn’t Want A Wedding Band So He Got This Tattoo Instead

Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell are so not your traditional celebrity couple. When the low-key twosome tied the knot last year at the Beverly Hills Courthouse, the whole thing cost them just $ 142.

So it’s fitting that Shepard went the untraditional, non-flashy route when it came to his wedding band — if you can even call it that. Instead of wearing a ring, the “This Is Where I Leave You” actor had a bell tattooed on his left ring finger in his wife’s honor. And it’s pretty adorable.

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During an appearance on “Ellen” on Friday, Shepard discussed his decision to get inked in the name of love.

“I don’t like wearing jewelry, but I felt obliged to warn all the men that I’m taken,” he joked. “I thought a tattoo would be fitting. And her last name, conveniently, is an object I could tattoo.”

In the middle of the tattoo, you can see the letters K (for Kristen), L (for their 18-month-old daughter Lincoln) and a D that we can only assume stands for Dax. Or, given that the couple is expecting their second child together, perhaps it’s for baby number two.

Bell, on the other hand, does wear a ring — and as you might expect, it’s different and totally beautiful.

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5 Things The Dying Want Us To Know

Veteran journalist and author of Opening Heaven’s Door: Investigating Stories of Life, Death, and What Comes After explains what she discovered after researching how people cross over.

By Patricia Pearson

1. The 72-hour mark is when it begins.

After losing my sister and father within nine weeks, I spent five years investigating what happens when we die. While interviewing dozens of people who work with terminally ill patients, or have had deathbed experiences or have come back from death, I learned that the dying often seem to know that they’re going, and when. Within 72 hours of death, they begin to speak in metaphors of journey. They request their shoes, or their plane tickets or demand to go home when they are home. When my sister lay dying of breast cancer, she said, as if frustrated, “I don’t know how to leave,” and spoke of “hapless flight attendants.”

“Does my wife understand about the passport and ticket?,” asked a man succumbing to the ravages of pancreatic cancer of a Virginia-based hospice nurse named Maggie Callanan (Callanan, along with fellow nurse Patrica Kelley, would go on to coin the official phrase, “nearing death awareness,” and co-author Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying). After having helped hundreds of patients transition to death, Callanan believes this vision of a journey ahead is no accident. The dying are not picturing an end. They are seeing death as a trip — possibly to somewhere else.

2. Dead family members and friends can come back to us.

This sounds like a side effect of the powerful pain killers they are taking. But is it? In one major cross-national study (by psychologists Karlis Osis, PhD, and Erlendur Haraldsson, PhD, of the University of Iceland) comparing deathbed experiences in the U.S. and India, the majority of patients who were still conscious within an hour of death saw deceased loved ones beckoning, regardless of whether they were medicated. When I interviewed Audrey Scott, 84, who was dying of cancer, she was receiving visits from her adopted son Frankie, she said, who had predeceased her by several years. He sat quietly in a nearby armchair.

In some cases, people see friends or family members they simply weren’t aware had died. In one of the first well-investigated cases of a deathbed vision, a mother dying in childbirth told obstetrician Lady Florence Barrett in a Dublin hospital that she saw her deceased father before her. She also saw something that confused her: “He has Vida with him,” she told Lady Barrett, referring to her sister, whose death three weeks earlier had been kept from her. “Vida is with him,” she repeated wonderingly.

3. There’s something else about that famous white light.

It has become a bit of a cliché in our culture to talk about seeing “the white light.” But, the truth is that this light is also perceived as wisdom and love. It’s a feeling as much as a visual experience. Those who have near-death experiences — retaining consciousness during cardiac arrest, for example — are veritably shattered by the emotional power of this light. Dr. Yvonne Kason, who had been in a plane crash, compared it to an extraordinary maternal love. “Like I was a newborn baby on my mother’s shoulder. Utterly safe.” Then she added: “It was like I’d been lost for centuries and I’d found my way home.” Nurse Callanan frequently observes her patients being present, conscious, in this world and also beginning to see and remark upon the beauty of another.

4. Even when there’s no warning, they may still say goodbye.

It came as a true surprise for me to learn that study after study confirms that roughly 50 percent of the bereaved sense the presence of lost loved ones, either in the moment of death, or sometime later. It happened within my own family. My father died abruptly, without a warning illness, in the middle of the night in 2008. My sister Katharine, awake in her bedroom 100 miles away, suddenly sensed a presence near her, and felt hands gently cupping the back of her head. She was suffused with feelings of contentment and joy, an experience so vivid and strange that she found it remarkable — and shared it with her son before learning that our father had died.

Although psychiatrists call these instances “grief hallucinations,” the science of such subjective experiences remains poorly understood; certainly, it doesn’t explain how we can have them before we know someone has died. One man told me about going downstairs to breakfast during his childhood, and seeing his father seated at the table, as always. He was totally mystified when his mother proceeded with the news that his father had died in the night. “But he’s sitting right there!,” he said. His father then faded.

Only 5 percent of these experiences are visual, according to a study done by palliative-care physician Michael Barbato at St. Joseph’s Hospital in Auburn, Australia. The majority involve the sense of a presence — not a fleeting, shadowy sense, but a vivid and specific one, often spurring people to make urgent phone calls, or to change direction as they’re driving, or to burst into tears. It can happen at the moment of death, after some weeks, or even years later. Said the Toronto advertising executive Karen Simons, of a cold night six weeks after her father died: “I’m driving on the highway, and into the passenger seat comes Dad. I could feel him settle in. He had a very distinctive lean to the left. He rode with me from Kennedy Rd. to Pickering (10 miles). It was incredibly real, and it was completely transforming.”

5. The living can share in the experience of dying.

Research in 2010 by psychiatrist Raymond Moody, PhD, who coined the term, “near-death experience” in his groundbreaking 1975 book Life After Life, suggests people can occasionally co-experience the sense of entering the light. As Florida-based palliative-care psychologist Kathleen Dowling Singh, PhD, has noted, “The dying become radiant and speak of ‘walking through a room lit by a lantern,’ or of their ‘body filling with sunlight.'” Sometimes, if only for a moment, their family members do, too. The psychologist Joan Borysenko, PhD, for instance, described having such an experience when her 81-year-old mother died at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston while Borysenko was on faculty at Harvard. The room seemed to fill with a brilliant light, which both she and her teenage son saw, as they watched her mother rise spectrally out of her body.

We fear death in our culture, and find it difficult to talk about and witness. But perhaps the dying understand more than we do, and can offer us comfort, if only we could listen to what they’re attempting to say.

Patricia Pearson is the author of Opening Heaven’s Door: Investigating Stories of Life, Death, and What Comes After and When She Was Bad…: Violent Women and the Myth of Innocence.

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I Want to Be a Soldier

I Want to Be a Soldier


The I Want to Be… series provides young readers with some exciting opportunities to think… an attractive choice for beginning readers … Recommended. — Library Media Connection The I Want to Be… series gives young children a realistic insight into the working day of adults. Easy-to-read captions and color photographs of men and women from different cultures help children understand what’s involved in each occupation. Young readers learn all about what it takes to do an interesting job well. Along the way, they appreciate the contributions these workers make to our lives and the world around us. Being a soldier is a challenging job, but there are many rewards. Like the other books in this series, I Want to Be a Soldier helps children understand the importance of doing a job well. Filled with real-life photos and informative captions I Want to Be a Soldier introduces young readers to life in the military. It includes information on recruitment, enlistment, training, and the different branches of the armed forces. As well, young readers are introduced to peacekeeping work, the role of cadets, and the equipment involved in military missions. They will learn how people train to become officers, find out about the different jobs a soldier does in both peacetime and war, observe a swearing-in ceremony, and visit academies such as West Point and the United States Naval Academy. A checklist summarizes the qualities of a good soldier.

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Designing Online Information Literacy Games Students Will Want to Play

Designing Online Information Literacy Games Students Will Want to Play


Designing Online Information Literacy Games Students Want to Play sets the record straight with regard to the promise of games for motivating and teaching students in educational environments. The authors draw on their experience designing the BiblioBouts information literacy game, deploying it in dozens of college classrooms across the country, and evaluating its effectiveness for teaching students how to conduct library research. The multi-modal evaluation of BiblioBouts involved qualitative and quantitative data collection methods and analyses. Drawing on the evaluation, the authors describe how students played this particular information literacy game and make recommendations for the design of future information literacy games. You ll learn how the game s design evolved in response to student input and how students played the game including their attitudes about playing games to develop information literacy skills and concepts specifically and playing educational games generally. The authors describe how students benefited as a result of playing the game. Drawing from their own first-hand experience, research, and networking, the authors feature best practices that educators and game designers in LIS specifically and other educational fields generally need to know so that they build classroom games that students want to play. Best practices topics covered include pre-game instruction, rewards, feedback, the ability to review/change actions, ideal timing, and more. The final section of the book covers important concepts for future information literacy game design.

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Worlds Worst Travel Destinations: 50 travel experiences you will want to miss…

Worlds Worst Travel Destinations: 50 travel experiences you will want to miss…


From the dirty to the depraved, the barren to the downright boring, going off the beaten track isn''t always all it''s cracked up to be. This humorous guide, packed with bizarre facts, turns the travel genre on its head and uncovers some of the most unusual places the world has to offer. With weird and wonderful destinations from across the globe, discover the Kingdom of Dwarves theme park in China, an attraction where no-one measures above 5 feet tall. Or there''s Kazantip in the Crimea, where every year a mix of 150,000 ravers and Russian Mafia bosses with their teen brides in tow go to listen to electronic music on rotation for six weeks. A summer break to the city of Cherrapunji, India may be a mistake with an average 29 days of rain in July and 26 in August. Meanwhile the health-conscious among you should probably avoid Evansville, Indiana, recently declared America''s fattest city. So unpack your bags, put away your passport, and save yourself some money by reading this guide. Then feel grateful that you''ll never make the mistake of visiting these places yourself.
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These Wedding Photos Will Make You Want To Give Your Mom A Big Ol’ Hug

No matter how old you are, you’ll always be your mom’s baby — even on your wedding day.

Whether the two of you are sharing a private pre-wedding moment or a slow dance at the reception, the big day is full of memorable moments that are bound to have you both feeling a little (or a lot!) emotional.

Below are 15 beautiful, candid shots of brides and grooms with the most special lady in their lives.

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I Want Poetry to Matter: A Manifesto

In celebration of National Poetry Month 2014, I present my new poem: a poetic manifesto for a new world.

By the way, I also think that we need to queer or gayify National Poetry Month!

“I Want Poetry to Matter: A Manifesto”

I want Poetry to matter
I want it to do what no one else, nothing else can do
I want Poetry to matter
Do you?

I want Poetry to end all wars
stop the genocides
cure all diseases
feed the starving
shelter the homeless
protect the helpless
stop the injustices
save the planet
save the animals
save our souls
save us

I want Poetry to mean something
I want Poetry to do something

I want Poetry to be the peaceful warrior
I want Poetry to be the violent pacifist

I want Poetry to matter
I want it to imprison the oppressor
and free the oppressed
I want it to blame the victimizer
and defend the victim
I want it to banish the marginalizer
and welcome the marginalized
I want it to the resist the powerful
and empower the powerless
I want it to steal from the greedy
and give to the needy

I want Poetry to do what no other literature can do
what no other art can do
what no institution can do
I want Poetry to matter
I want it be tangible
I want it to be seen
heard
touched
tasted
smelled

I want Poetry to have a purpose
It must have a purpose

I want Poetry to matter
I want it to reveal the real truth
I want it to change the world

And although none of this will ever be reality
Ideally, I want Poetry to matter

So I hope and I hope and I hope
because hope is all I have

Are you hopeful?

I want Poetry to matter
Do you?

Do you want Poetry to matter?
Do you?
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Mae Whitman doesn’t want to Tinker with the way Disneytoon Studios has been running its “Fairies” film franchise

It was early 2008 when Mae Whitman got this mysterious call from her voiceover agent, Melissa.

“She was telling me that Disney had this very important project but that they wouldn’t tell Melissa what it actually was. All she knew that that they were eager for me to come in and audition for this part,” Whitman recalled during a 2012 interview.

So Mae went in for this audition. Where — once she got in front of that mic– Whitman discovered that she was just supposed to read a couple of very vaguely-written lines. There were nothing on these pages that gave Mae any information about the character that she was supposed to be voicing. Even stranger, the guys behind the glass in the recording booth were being very tight-lipped as well.

“I got none of the guidance that you typically get in a voiceover recording session. ‘Could you please say that line again only faster?,’ ‘Could you make your character sound more excited or happier?’ They just sat back and listened,” Whitman continued. “And since I’ve been doing voiceover work since I was five, which is why I’m very comfortable in a recording booth … Well, I just decided to be myself. Read those lines in my normal speaking voice.”

Ah, but what Mae didn’t know was that this wasn’t just any audition. After announcing back in June of 2006 that Brittany Murphy was going to be the official voice of Tinker Bell for a new series of Disney Fairies home premieres, Disneytoon Studios had now decided to go another way with this character. And the reason that they’d called Whitman in was that they were now considering her as someone who could possibly voice Peter Pan’s pixie pal.

“From what we’ve already seen of Tinker Bell in Disney’s 1953 animated feature, we knew that this character was curious. That she’s fun. She’s feisty. She’s super-loyal to Peter. Not to mention able to get angry. So we really needed to find a voice that could capture all of those emotions that we already knew about Tinker Bell without her even speaking,” explained Peggy Holmes, the director of Secret of the Wings & the soon-to-be-released The Pirate Fairy. “So we needed to find an actress that could portray that range of emotions. And Mae Whitman — thankfully — had that range. She can work onstage. She can work on film. She can work on television. And she can work in voiceover. And it’s all that experience that gave her the depth that we need for this iconic character.”

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And when Whitman found out that she was being offered the opportunity to voice Tinker Bell, she freaked.

“Now you have to understand that — when I was growing up — Peter Pan was my favorite Disney movie. So to now be part of the team that gets to go back to Never Land and have all these new adventures with characters that I’ve loved since childhood … Well, it’s honestly like a dream come true,” Mae enthused. “So for me, this job is definitely filled with love.”

Mind you, at this point, Whitman now has six Disney Fairies films & TV specials under her belt. And having spent all that time in Pixie Hollow, has the pixie dust now begun to fade for her?

“To be honestly, no,” Mae stated. “What’s great about the people at Disneytoon Studios is that — with each of these projects — they’ve then built out the world of Pixie Hollow bit by bit. With each film, they’ve brought in new characters. Better yet, they’ve allowed Tinker Bell and her friends to change and grow.”

“I mean, in the first Disney Fairies film, Tinker Bell didn’t even want to be a tinker. She wanted to change her talent. But at this point in the Disney Fairies film series, Tink is hugely proud of being a tinker fairy. She wouldn’t change her talent for anything in the world,” Whitman said. “That’s what I love about working on this series. The lessons carry over from movie to movie. More to the point, Tinker Bell herself changes from film & film. She’s always changing and growing.”

And speaking of growing … After spending the past five projects exploring this one teeny tiny corner of Never Land, the folks at Disneytoon Studios have decided to use The Pirate Fairy as an excuse to finally leave Pixie Hollow and go off & explore more of the island.

“The initial idea was to do a road trip adventure with Tinker Bell and her friends and this adventure dealt with a rogue fairy who was experimenting with pixie dust,” explained Jeffrey M. Howard, the screenwriter on “The Pirate Fairy.” “But once we had the idea of putting pirates into this ‘Disney Fairies’ film … Well, it only seemed natural to include the most famous Never Land pirate of all, Captain Hook.”

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Now do keep in mind that this is a far younger version of James Bartholomew Hook than we saw in Disney’s 1953 version of Peter Pan. But the story team at Disneytoon Studios actually turned this to their advantage by making The Pirate Fairy the very first time this Disney Villain fought using a hook or got chomped in the butt by Tic Toc the crocodile. And if you sit through the credits of this Disney Fairies film, you actually get to see that fateful moment where Hook first meets Mr. Smee.

And for someone like Mae Witman, who’s been a Peter Pan fan for as long as she can remember, doing voicework on a film where Tink and her friends actually visit Skull Rock and then do battle on a flying pirate ship that’s being powered by pixie dust … Well, you just know that this has to be a thrill.

“I just love that I get to be a part of this legacy at Disney,” Whitman admitted. “I mean, back in September of 2012, I got to be part of this D23 event which honored 75 years of Feature Animation. Which was where I was supposed to be paneling with Margaret Kerry — who was the live-action model for this character back in the early 1950s — and Ginny Mack — who Walt personally chose as the face model for Tinker Bell.”

“Now I’m backstage with Peggy Holmes, waiting to go. And just then it hits me that I’m now actually part of this Disney legacy. That I’m now one of the women who’s been entrusted with keeping the character of Tinker Bell alive & magical,” Mae remembered. “And I got so emotionally overwhelmed at that moment that Peggy actually had to walk me around for a little while and calm me down a little.”

“I just hope that — 60 years from now — when Disney’s putting together panels to promote the new holographic Tinker Bell movies that they’ll be making then that I’ll look as good as Margaret & Ginny did at that D23 presentation,” Whitman laughed.
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This Is Your Life, Are You Who You Want to Be?

Since losing my husband in the war in Afghanistan when I was just 25, I have learned so much in my short 28 years of life. Fighting my way through the challenges and hardship has caused my thought process to completely change. I am in a constant state of remembrance of the brevity of life. We only live once. We only have one chance at this life. I wanted to share some of the greatest things I have learned in the midst of the trials and the pain.Thank you for reading.

1. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.
This one phrase can pretty much some up my life. Don’t be afraid to ask. The worst that can happen is you will be told no and you’ll be in exactly the same spot you’re in now. Don’t be afraid to ask. It can change your life and make your dreams come true.

2. Growing old is a privilege denied to many.
The older I grow, the more I realize how lucky I am to be given the privilege of growing old, and to be able to enjoy all of the stages of life.

3. Don’t spend your life chasing after material things — you will waste it. The only thing of worth is relationships.
It is so sad for me to watch and see how many people are chasing after such meaningless things in this world. None of them will make you happy. The only thing that is meaningful is relationships, and helping others. That is where true happiness and fulfillment lie. Don’t waste your life chasing folly.

4. You are responsible for your own actions.
No matter what happens to you or how hard life is, it can’t be an excuse forever. You are responsible for your life, and what you do. Actions have consequences. Don’t be a victim. Be an overcomer and be a conqueror.

5. Learn how to let go.
This is probably one of the hardest for me. It is so hard to let go of those I love, and I try to hold on to toxic relationships with all I have. I don’t want to say goodbye. It is important to realize when it is time to let go.

6. No one will ever complete you.
It is such a lie that someone else will complete you. A relationship can only be healthy when two whole, complete people come together. You can’t trust someone else to complete you. God forbid that something happens to your partner? You have to be complete on your own before you enter into a relationship, or it won’t have a solid foundation. You will also be deeply disappointed if you think someone else can complete you or fulfill you.

7. Never let the sun go down on a fight.
You may never get the chance to say sorry. You may regret it for your whole life. Always work things out.

8. This life is temporary.
Anything in this life you could lose at any time. Nothing is permanent and everything comes to an end. This is not a negative thing — it is just important to realize this world is not permanent.

9. Take the high road and do the right thing, even when it hurts.
Yes, turn the other cheek. Don’t get walked all over, but be the one who stands up and says sorry. Let go of your own selfishness and pride. Be the bigger person so one day you can look back and have no regrets.

10. Don’t arouse or awaken love until it so desires.
Don’t try to create or fabricate love. The real thing will happen naturally, in the right time, and with the right person. Don’t force it.

11. It is better to marry young (not too young).
Yes, I said it. Having dated at a young age and in my older 20s, there are definite differences in age groups. There is an innocence in our younger years — when people actually open their hearts and believe in love. When people get older they close up, and many won’t open their hearts to anyone.

12. Life goes on. Whether we like it or not.
Even when our world stops — life still goes on, and we have to go on, too. Many times in life we can sink or swim — and we have to keep swimming to keep our heads above water. Life will not stop for us to give us time to bandage our wounds.

13. Let a man be a man. Be a woman.
Chivalry is not dead. Let a man open the door for you, buy you dinner and treat you like a lady. It does not make you the weaker sex.

14. Protect your heart. Guard it with all you have.
As the Bible says, guard your heart, for in it flows the power of life and death.

15. Unforgiveness will kill you. Literally.
They say that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. It will affect your health and will cause you extreme unhappiness. Just let it go.

16. Don’t covet.
We will all have our time and be blessed, just in different ways and at different times. Your time will come. I promise. Learn to be happy for others and what God has given them.

17. Persistence and determination are key.
If you want something or know something to be right — never give up, and never give in. Ever.

18. You will fail.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve fallen flat on my face — and how hard it has hurt. Or how much I wanted to give up. Failure is one of the most painful challenges in life, but it is where we learn the most about ourselves and who we really are, and we grow leaps and bounds.

19. Your word is all you have.
If you say something, mean it — and don’t say you will if you won’t. If you give someone your word, go through heaven and earth to follow through — and people will trust you with anything.

20. Character matters. A lot.
Only you truly know who you are, what you do when no one is watching, and what you are made of. Make yourself proud that you live with integrity. Be a man/woman of honor.

21. No matter how dark the night, the dawn will break.
Life is hard, but there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. Push through the pain, and never give up. The deeper the pain, the more beautiful the joy. The darker the night, the more beautiful the sunrise.

22. We are all people.
Whether it is the President, Angelina Jolie or Derek Jeter, we are all people. Be respectful of their positions or accomplishments, but treat them like people, not like God. They will appreciate it, too.

23. Choose your friends wisely.
Iron sharpens iron. It is important to have friends who will challenge you, help you grow and love you for who you are. You become who you spend your time with.

24. Don’t live to work, work to live.
Make time for your family, friends and those closest to you. Don’t spend your life working. Work so you can enjoy your life.

25. Never stop dreaming. Ever.
You can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Anything.

26. Don’t settle for a mediocre life.
I know we are in hard times, and many of you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel — but it is there. There is still opportunity, and the American dream still does exist.

27. Instead of always asking, “Why,” ask, “Why not.”
“You see things; and you say ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say ‘Why not?'” — George Bernard Shaw

28. Ignore the critics. Prove them wrong.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. — Theodore Roosevelt

29. This is your life. Are you who you want to be?
Ecclesiastes 9:10-11:

Whatever you do, do well. For when you go to the grave, there will be no work or planning or knowledge or wisdom. I have observed something else in this world of ours. The fastest runner doesn’t always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn’t always win the battle. The wise are often poor, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don’t always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being at the right place at the right time.

30. Don’t believe the lie that you can’t make a difference — you can. You are the difference.
We have the power to change the world if we want to. We are in control of our country — not Congress. Apathy is dirty little pill — it is vital we pay attention to our world, our country and keep our eyes open.

31. Who cares what they think, they don’t matter anyway.
Don’t worry about those who don’t really matter. Be yourself — there is only one you, and let your voice be heard! No matter how loud or how soft.

32. Be who you want to be remembered as. Write your own legacy.
You only have one chance at this life. You are in charge of your destiny, legacy and what others will remember you as.

33. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable — to let people inside and see who you really are. To be you.
Nothing is as gentle as real strength, and nothing as beautiful as the pure, vulnerable and honest heart. Don’t be afraid to let people inside to see the real you.

Please feel free to comment below with your thoughts on other lessons we can all learn from. I am going to write another blog and compile it from your comments.
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The Beatles on Sullivan: You Say You Want a Revolution?

Just to briefly buzz in on this weekend’s whir of nostalgia around the 50th anniversary of The Beatles’ first appearance on The Ed Sullivan Show. As many have noted, it was less than three months after the Kennedy assassination, bringing across the Atlantic a whiff of much needed fresh air, a reacquaintance with joy we all had been craving since November 22, 1963.

I had first seen them a month or so earlier in a film report on The Jack Paar Show on NBC (you can see a timeworn clip from Paar’s piece here (http://ow.ly/tp6Pc)). In the weeks after that broadcast, I came down with pneumonia, and at the age of 12 was quarantined in my bedroom with only my contagion, books, undone homework, and one of those first miniature Sony TV’s, a “tummy tube” that was the size of a football. But heavier.

That was the tiny set on which I watched the Sullivan show and The Beatles, as caught up in the frenzy as so many other American kids. A few days later, my mother abandoned her Kennedy scrapbooks to make a busy project for us both. One of the young women at the hair salon she frequented was Beatle-besotted, so my ever-creative Mom made her a sign: green poster board on which she glued photos of the band I cut from magazines and some black lettering (“Yeah, Yeah, Yeah,” etc.).

She stapled tiny bags of jelly beans to it — the press said obsessed teenage girls hurled them at the Fab Four because they were Paul McCartney’s favorite (or was it George Harrison?) — then secretly delivered it after hours to the beauty parlor door. History does not record the woman’s reaction but the two of us decided it had to have been monumental.

My love of the Beatles grew as their music did: more layered, complex and thoughtful. “Sergeant Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band” was a treasured 16th birthday gift, “The White Album” a present to myself, “Abbey Road” a musical highlight of freshman year in college (that, and hearing The Who perform a work-in-progress version of “Tommy” during Homecoming weekend).

Some four years after their first Sullivan appearance, I had gone to England for the first time as part of a drama and literature study program. When we got to London, I spent hours roaming the streets by myself, taking everything in. I visited Carnaby Street, which had been the symbolic center of all things British and hip — but by the time I got there, the bloom was off the English rose and the street was more tattered, fading carnival than fashion hub. The Beatles were nearing their last couple of years as a group and their own boutique, Apple, had recently shut its doors.

One night while I was there, Paul McCartney and his girlfriend arrived and painted “Hey Jude/Revolution” on the abandoned store’s front window, promotion for the upcoming record single almost no one yet knew about.

In the sixties, The Beatles’ lives and careers paralleled what was happening to baby boomers like me across the country: the flirtations with nonconformity and various levels of altered consciousness, the civil and uncivil insubordination, our fitful attempts at achieving transcendental serenity.

Music journalist Mikal Gilmore said it well in Rolling Stone, back on the 25th anniversary of John Lennon’s murder (and when I wrote a bit of what you’re reading here now): “The Beatles were simply the biggest thing in the world, short of nuclear fear. They represented a sea change — in music, in culture, in democracy itself. They weren’t always comfortable with having that effect. ‘People said the Beatles were the movement,’ Lennon later said, ‘but we were only part of the movement. We were influenced as much as we influenced.’ True, but the Beatles were a key part of that movement. They represented youthful hope, and they represented the new social power that rock & roll might achieve — a power not only to upset but to transform. The world was changing — or at least it felt that way — and the Beatles served as emblems of that change.”
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The 25 Gifts People REALLY Want From Their Better Halves

The longer you’re married, the harder it can be to come up with a unique gift idea at Christmas. I always hope my husband will offer me some kind of clue by offhandedly making mention of something he would really like throughout the year. But that almost never happens.

We asked our Facebook fans what they’d REALLY love to get from their long-time spouse this year — and we were rewarded with a wide range of answers. One woman, Judith C. Warren, said she only wants time to herself. Another woman, Holli Allen Magill, said she’d just like a gift — any gift. Not surprisingly, people’s preferences run the gamut, from fine jewelry to sexy pajamas. The common theme running through all the responses though is that putting thought into a gift still counts — for a lot.

Here’s what some others had to say. Have anything to add? Let us know in comments.

1) “Three months snowbirding somewhere in warm weather,” said Rachel Cracken Herbig.

2) “A weekend away — just the two of us,” said Diane Franklin Slimbock.

3) “I’d like him to stop snoring,” said Lisa Ernest Bondeson.

4) “A promise to set aside one night a week to go out on a date together… after 38 years of marriage dating has dwindled to a nonentity,” said Dale Michaels Wade.

5) “I’d like a little more romance in our marriage,” said Lisa O’Neill.

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6) “A vacation to a cabin in the woods,” said Sherrill Cochran Hubbard.

7) “A trip to play golf at Pebble Beach,” said Jean Dedeke Gill.

8) “Venice — uncrowded,” said Sandhi Schimmel Gold.

9)“Lovemaking with a romantic setting,” said Maria Miguel Grullon.

10) “He’s already given me my dream gift this year — a brand new kitchen,” said Peggy Bell Nolan.

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11) “I’d really like a nice car, mostly because I’m tired of my monthly payments. He wouldn’t even have to find an enormous ribbon for it,” said Jamie Wieloch Greco.

12) “I don’t have a spouse, but if I did, my wish would be for a trip to Paris,” said Jane Elizabeth Anderson Barlow.

13) “A couple of weeks in Hawaii, just the two of us, to see the beautiful islands,” said Barbara Perry.

14) “A new 4×4. His old one has 200k+ miles,” said Jaye DeVeney Gilleland.

15) “A clothes steamer,” said Anita Skeets Rogers.

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16) “A trip to Europe!” said Pam Duoba.

17) “An apology,” said Cheryl Weisser.

18) “A trip to the [Florida] Keys and I get to bring the dogs or he arranges for a friend to stay and be our petsitter so we can go,” said Barbara Brown.

19) “A trip to Sicily,” said Nina Piraino Bruno.

20) “His [good] health,” said Gracious Palmer.

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21) “A bedroom makeover,” said Kimberly Minton Freeman.

22) “A Kindle Fire would be right up my alley! But if he wants to go big time… Hawaii would be lovely!” said Barbara Perry.

23) “We got a Keurig coffee maker & vinyl siding for our house!” said Melinda Greer Green.

24) “The keys to a house in Anaheim!” said DavidandJeanne Rose.

25) “Some bloody peace and quiet,” said Sanna McIvor.

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Total Sex: Men’s Fitness Magazine’s Complete Guide to Everything Men Need to Know and Want to Know about Sex

Total Sex: Men’s Fitness Magazine’s Complete Guide to Everything Men Need to Know and Want to Know about Sex


Want to be a Virtuoso of Variations? Keep the Gal of Your Dreams Coming Back for More? Do You Have a Sense of Humor? Straight from the mouths of world renowned clinicians…sex therapists…and even the guy next door…comes the most authoritative, up-close-and-personal guide to the "quest for great sex" ever written. Written under the auspices of "Men’ s Fitness" magazine, this all-inclusive, fully illustrated sourcebook contains everything from general anatomy, physiology, and chemistry to the low-down on sexually transmitted diseases, what to except at your age, to the wilder side of sexual ecstasy, sexbits, and he/she points of view that you’ ll be hard-pressed to put this book down. Among the hundreds of tantalizing topics you’ ll discover.

  • "Men’ s Fitness’ " exclusive cond-o-meter: the oooooh, aaaaaah, 1-10 ratings of our very dedicated male and female condom testers
  • The chemistry of love and lust (and why women aren’ t the only ones whose hormones run amok)
  • A story of adult circumstances: why one man opted to face the knife
  • Beauty and the breast: are you doing what she likes (or is the room simply too cold?)
  • Searching for secret treasure (a.k.a. how to find the elusive g-spot)
  • The latest buzz on sex toys, cybersex, the swing thing, chick flicks, tough love and other wilder riders
  • Sizing up Mr. Happy–or, girls talk the about the long, short, thick, and thin of it
  • Four fatal signs that she’ s faking the big O
  • What’ s lust got to do with it: the craziest (non-felonious) things some guys have done, courtesy of the "Men’ s Fitness" lust survey
  • Meetmarket maneuvers and the bottom line on great relationships, namely, how to remain hot for the long haul
Since its launch in January 1985, "Men’ s Fitness" has become one of the nation’ s top selling magazines for men, boasting over a million readers each month. It’ s annual "Sex Now" supplement is its #1 selling issue, even winning the prestigious "Western Publications Association Award of Excellence." One of eight magazines published by Weider Publications, Inc., "Men’ s Fitness" also complied "Men’ s Fitness Magazine’ s Complete Guide to Health and Well-Being," which "Publuisher’ s Weekly" called, "Immensely informative and insightful…deserves a place in every man’ s personal library."
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